Scorning Closure Options

[xrayspex]

Sometimes I read that word here....

"closure"

I HATE THAT WORD!!!

Maybe I just misunderstand it.

Why would anyone want to close anything on the past when it comes to the death of one of our furbabies? Even after embracing the elusive goal of acceptance, why would one finalize the issue by "closing it"? I missed the boat on this one. All the pain that we went through, all the soul searching we did, it challenged our very belief system. Belief is the very core of who we all are. It shapes our thoughts, our decision making. When our furbabies die we begin a journey, (unwillingly kicking and screaming all the while), into ourselves which in some cases can lead to unexpected discovery and awakening to who we really are. Closure to me sounds like "forget" and I must admit I feel angry every time I say it. Do we not learn more about life in this brutal encounter with death? I don't get it. What about the knowledge that was forced upon us when it came to facing our worst fear in life? We were forced to endure a fundamental truth of the universe and that knowledge we had to choke down taught us much about life itself. That knowledge that results in the healing we seek prepares us for our next task....

more furbabies...

This is our lot. This is who we are. How fortunate we are to have helped in the circle of life and to think back of all the furbabies we have loved in our lives. Almost everybody here I have had contact with are "multiple furbaby gaurdians", past and present. To close anything on a single shred of this is a violation of our furbabies past and a total disregard for what we may have gained in the process.

Our journey, our pain, our love and devotion to creatures great and small provides us with insight that those out there with the idea that its "just a pet" don't get.

Its "closure" I don't get

[xrayspex]

No my friend, I did not want anyone to think I was forsaking the word "closure'. I had hoped that I could spawn more thought on acceptance. It is the truth, the goal that I seek. I had also hoped to get insight on others "percieved" definition of closure. Some people interperet words differently than others and since closure rings close to home here I thought it would merit a look at. As I stated to La77 I failed in my attempt. I led people to believe I was "condemning closure". This was not the case. For this I am deeply sorry, and I apologize to you for leading you to believe I was. I yearn to have others insight on this subject. There are people in this thread that I am deeply indebted to like Lori, Paula and Toonie to name a few. Mellisa's poem was moving in its demonstration of acceptance. They have taught me much through their posts. I am going to make a promise to my self never to use the word "HATE" again. I think it is too strong a word. I had hoped to draw in more input on the subject. I now think the thread should just end, dignified.