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[Ruth]

Hello again. Things aren't going as well as I had anticipated or hoped. It's been 10 days since my little boy passed away, but while I'm in the house I'm still not getting more than a couple of minutes relief in any one go.

I guess this is 'normal', and it is early days yet but it is making life very hard. I'm not looking forward to going home tonight - why are the evenings so very long when they used to flash by! I'm not looking forward to the weekend and the only thing I'm looking forward to at the moment is the passing of time knowing I'll feel better eventually.

Anyway, I noticed some telephone numbers for pet bereavement counsellors and was wondering whether I should try one. Have any of you have ever used one and did you find it helpful? Believe me, this is sooooo not me and if I had someone to talk to I wouldn't entertain the idea. To even consider this seems barmy and makes me cringe. I certainly would never mention it to anyone else for fear of being locked up!

Any advice would be gratefully received.

[Arnold]

My thoughts are with you, Ruth. My loss is very recent as well and already I've talked with several people who have said "Don't be afraid to see a pet grief counselor if you need to." I don't think it is a nutty thing to do. Sometimes there is just too much emotion to handle - and if you have no one to talk to, then what outlet do you have? This site has helped me a lot this week by giving me an outlet, but I have also had others in my life whose shoulders I could cry on in the evening, after work, when it is hardest.

I had a little bit of time yesterday when I was very busy at work and my grief had to be pushed back for a while. It really was a relief to not be in such agony for a bit. If you are not getting any kind of time away from your pain - or at least, then intensity of it - then seek some assistance!

Please take care of yourself.