Bad Dreams About Nissa Options

[Furkidlets' Mom]

Here I was, just posting yesterday about signs from our gal, and then last night I was talking to her about sending me more, and asking her if she could try to come through in my dreams......

So now I've had a THIRD bad and recurring dream about her, and I don't know if these have all been actual messages from her, or if they're just about me and what I'm trying to work through in my grief!

They've all been the same. No matter what else is going on in the dreams, suddenly she's just there, and pitteously, yet quietly ( not like her except when she was in her final days ) wailing at me, and looking too skinny.......to get her some FOOD, finally, for Heaven's sakes!, as if she's been waiting all these 3 wks. since she left, for me to feed her and I somehow 'forgot'!! Even in the dream, at that moment I realize she's no longer here in physical form, so start to wonder how in the world she could even BE hungry, and what good would food do her anyway now??? But I start anyway, to look for a can of something for her, all disturbed and confused as to why I can't even find anything around. The feeling I suffer each time is that I've NEGLECTED her -- horrors!!! I'd so very seldom EVER neglected any needs of hers for more than an hour or 2 in all her 19 yrs, 7 months, especially for food! In fact, food was a big issue with her, as it was me who was constantly trying to get her to eat more! Then I wake up, feeling soooooo terrible, like I've abandoned her to suffering something I don't even understand, something that doesn't even make sense to me!

But the worst suffering for ME, is that I keep worrying afterwards that she's somehow gotten into some kind of trouble getting to the Other Side, and NEEEEEDS me, her Mommy, to DO something to help her!!! The first time I had this dream, I figured it was just me, just a brief nightmare and that I likely wouldn't have it again anyway.....but it just keeps coming back! And having just asked her to come to me in her dreams has me thinking she IS, but something's WRONG! Oh, God help me if there IS something wrong, and I can't figure out what it is or what to do to help my girl out of it!!!!!! I NEVER had nightmares like this when Sabin died, even though I was loaded with guilt over the way he died. No, with him, in the midst of a chaotic dream, he'd appear and I'd just have a KNOWING that he was fine, safe, untouchable, despite whatever was going on around us....and experienced great comfort from that.....could even hold him and have it feel real, and calming, just as it was with him and me in the physical plane. But THIS, with my little girl, who I always felt more protective of!.......I don't even want to go to sleep again now!! Please, if anyone can help?????? I'm so AFRAID for her!!

[Precious' mom]

Remember that you baby is in a safe place and happy and pain-free!! The nightmares may be a result of unresolved guilt feelings so don't worry about them. I haven't had any nightmares about Precious so I suppose subconsciously I know he's with my Mum and other family members in that wonderful place where people and pets feel only love and are all together again. It makes me more than a bit jealous (!) but I'm happy that Precious is not hurting anymore and isn't an "older cat" -- he's ageless and timeless.
Talk to clergy, maybe they can help you resolve your feelings. My priest certainly helped me!
Please take care...
Lisa