Will Things Ever Get Better?, More Loss of a different kind Options

[Shortrish]

I am still suffering from the loss of our Scooter. Our 3 other cats, are still acting strange. I still can't talk to my family, I tried, but no understanding there. I was invited to go to my sons home this weekend, and I mentioned that my 3 other cats were still mourning a bit. I told my mom this, an she said, oh the cat's will be fine, you need to get out and be with people. Well, I lost my job today on top of everything else. They wanted somone with no experience. I left the job I had because it was closer to home and better pay. Their office is such a mess with billing, that now the drs decided they really needed someone with more experience. So, it's no wonder I don't want to be around anyone in the physical sense. Writing here is fine, but being around people physically, no way. No wonder I love animals so much, they love you unconditionally and give you comfort no matter what. Everything just seems to be coming at me at once, and I don't understand why just yet. There's other stuff going on too. I knew I wanted to stay in bed for a reason today. I miss our Scooter so much, I keep looking in his kitty cube where he used to sleep during the day, expecting to see him there. The other cats have not gone in it since he's been gone. They still look for him too. Just so much pain here right now, and not enough tears to take the hurt away.

[Juanita]

Hey Trish....at the risk of sounding disrespectful, tell your mom to go take a hike! Wouldn't it be just peachy if "getting out and being with people" took the pain out of losing someone you love?

I've always said that we humans should take a lesson from the animals we love so much. When they're hurting, they're smart enough to hide away and lick their wounds....the animal equivalent of pulling the covers up over our heads and staying in bed. You just do what feels RIGHT for you, and let everyone else just bug off. I know for sure that, when you're ready to "get out and see people", you'll do it.

I am still in daily pain over losing my sweet Spike more than two months ago. I still cannot believe I was able to make the decision to have that dear little guy euthanized, and I am still haunted by that last day. Not everyone can wrap their head around the concept of grieving for an animal, and that's fine. That's why I come here and why I know you keep coming here.

If there's anything we've all learned from this dreadful experience, it's that each of grieves in our own way and in our own time. Personally, I believe that every day that I mourn the loss of my "soul dog" is a tribute to his memory. You and Scooter are in my prayers.

Juanita....Loving Mom of Angel Spike