My Elderly Cat Died This Morning And, I feel I did some wrongs that hurted her Options

[joywarrior]

Hi, everyone who loves animals, My elderly cat Marmalade died early this morning in my house, and I was asleep during her last moments, and I slept thru her death. I had made a strong commitment to her to be with her during her dying and death, to be awake and holding her and giving her loving help. I feel that I failed her. I was awake during the night when she came to me and climbed up onto me in my bed, and I did stay awake to be with her for a short time, but then she moved down onto the floor and walked away from the bed, and I let myself go back to sleep, believing that she was ok enough for now, and was not going to die this soon yet. I believed she probably was going to live at least a few more days. Around two hours later, in early morning, I awoke from sleep, and thought of her, and called her name, and I quickly got up out of bed and began to weep, as if I sensed that she had died, yet I did not know yet, and I had not yet found her dead. I called her name again and hurried to look for her. I found her dead laying in her litter box, the pine cat litter. It looked like her heart simply failed and stopped. I never heard her cry out, and I do believe that I would have awakened if she had cried out. Please help me with this. Also, if I had known that she could die that soon, I would have given her much more loving attention and loving helps and deeds during her last day, and last days. I feel very bad about this, and she is dead now, and I cannot undo the wrongs that I did. I now know that I should have every day done for her as if she could die that same day or the next day. But I also was having very big hurts and too much other work and unfilled needs in my own like, and my body was sick and wounded and I had sleep deprivation, which all hindered my ability to give to her all of the loving care and work that she really needed me to give her. This is only a headline, an imperfectly spoken first step to begin to tell you the agony sorrow I am having now for love for my dearly loved cat Marmalade. She was 15 and a half years old, and I do know that she died of old age. I had her for three years. She was my sister's cat, my sister got her when she was a young kitten, and my sister died three years ago this April 29th. So I took in Marmalade after my sister died. My sister had smoked heavily and kept Marmalade inside her house all of the time, and my sister overfed Marmalade to the extent that Marmalade was morbidly obese overfed with her body like a ripe watermelon, at the time that my sister died. So maybe those factors caused Marmalade to died sooner than she otherwise would have. Plus, Marmalade is the kind of breed that has a very high fast metabolism, so that maybe shortened her life span too. She had been growing increasingly frail and needing more rich special food, for the past few months. I knew that she was going to die soon, but I felt that she probably was going to live a little longer yet, and then she died early this morning. Please help me. I did take her outdoors yesterday, but then I became very ill and brought her indoors sooner than I had planned, and so I did not take her out into the woods and into the earth enough, and now she died, and I cannot. There are many similar kinds of things like that, that I am feeling bad about. I am thankfull that I found this site. This is very good here, and many good persons who love animals, like me. I am having agony. Please help. I am bodily sick from this, and in grief for the hurts that she had, and that maybe I could have prevented some of them. Your friend, Maureen ...and yes, I do know that I am also grieving about my sister, too. I need help.

[joywarrior]

Hi, Daisy's Mommy, I thank you so very much from my heart, you really helped me. I need to go back to my place far out in the country very soon tonite, and I am fighting off panic, and I feel I cannot survive going back there alone now, so soon, and in the dark of night, too, to a place with no phone and no internet and no loving neighbors and all alone. Can anyone help me with this before I need to leave this place? Help!!! I thank you. I really need help now. I maybe need to stay someplace else tonite, but I do not have a place to go yet, and I am searching. I feel that I do not have a true friend in this world, EXCEPT for right here in this website, you very good loving folks. I thank all of you. I feel horribly bad in body and soul, now yet. I did bury Marmalade all by myself alone today, before I left to drive to town, and that was very painfully hard to do. I felt very different, as I have been in a very different kind of state since she died. I love Marmalade so very much. I want to know for sure the real truth: What does happen to animal creatures after they die??? Maureen