How Long Do You Feel Immense Grief?, Loss of my faithful friend of 14 years Options

[Crystal's Mom]

Yesterday was the hardest day of my life. My faithful loving Maltese who was my companion of 14 years passed away. She was my child and my best friend. I am grieving so deeply that I have not been able to keep anything down for 2 days. I took anti-nausea medication, but it hasn't helped. I guess it proves that your "will" is strong enough to heal or prevent healing. I have cried out any hydration that I was able to get to stay down. I have never hurt so much. How long does it hurt this bad? How long will it take before I stop seeing her in all of her favorite spots or hearing her walk through the house? Am I truly losing my sanity or is this part of grieving for something so dear? Anyone who has experienced this please give me some insight on how to cope.

[LittleGirl's...]

I replied to another of your posts, but I wanted to add something, about the physical symptoms you're experiencing.

When I lost my Little Girl, I took Xanax for awhile. I needed that medication. It allowed me to have enough of an appetitite to at least eat some and keep it down. I don't know if it would do the same for you, but it might be worth a try.

At the time I thought about how grateful Little Girl must have been about this---to know that her Mommy was able to eat (because of a past experience with not being able to eat in the face of grief, one of my huge fears was having this happen again, when the time came that I lost Little Girl. Scary, to be so sick that you can't take care of your health).

Good luck with this, and please keep in touch.

Love,

Kathy