Pain, The hurt is back with a vengence Options

[Mayabella]

Hi all,

I've been having a couple of very rough days of late. Lots of crying and pure longing to have my baby back with me. It's been a little over 3 weeks and I have been thinking that I really need to get another fur baby to love, but I am so torn. What if this one is "bad" My kiery was Perfect!!!! and I don't feel like any other cat will live up to her memory. I don't want to "replace" her, b/c she cannot be replaced, but I do want some company. I live alone and it's killing me not to have her anymore. I really thought that the intense pain of losing her had maybe subsided, but as I've posted...it's back with a vengence and I don't like it!

Nothing seems to help at this point, b/c I am thinking about the good times, but I just miss her so much. It's the most powerless feeling in the world to want something that we can't get back.

Does anyone have any advice on losing their baby and what kinds of feelings they had about getting another? Will I just know when it's right to get another? If you did get another, how was it in "getting to know" that one, and not thinking about the other? I don't know if I'm wording that right, as I can't quite put my finger on what I'm trying to say....any advice is welcome, and thank you all for listening to my depression.

Cindy

[gingerspal]

cindy, this may sound weird but I read an article about Paul McCartney when he lost his wife Linda. He said that his friends wanted him to go places, to rush around and fill up his void with activities and other people and such..he said he knew instinctively that all that was a bad idea--he made a decision to "go ahead and experience the grief--to move through it and feel the reality of it--to get through it like a tunnel, to emerge on the other side of it". well, they don't call him a lyric genius for nothing. As you know McCartney is married again and has a baby--but he didn't rush headlong into anything. (Hope it is alright that I used people in my &%^ogy--) McCartney agreed to feel the feelings and take his time about it. I guess that is what we all should do. My heart goes out to you --when you go to replace your pet you will know it is the right time.