Pain, The hurt is back with a vengence Options

[Mayabella]

Hi all,

I've been having a couple of very rough days of late. Lots of crying and pure longing to have my baby back with me. It's been a little over 3 weeks and I have been thinking that I really need to get another fur baby to love, but I am so torn. What if this one is "bad" My kiery was Perfect!!!! and I don't feel like any other cat will live up to her memory. I don't want to "replace" her, b/c she cannot be replaced, but I do want some company. I live alone and it's killing me not to have her anymore. I really thought that the intense pain of losing her had maybe subsided, but as I've posted...it's back with a vengence and I don't like it!

Nothing seems to help at this point, b/c I am thinking about the good times, but I just miss her so much. It's the most powerless feeling in the world to want something that we can't get back.

Does anyone have any advice on losing their baby and what kinds of feelings they had about getting another? Will I just know when it's right to get another? If you did get another, how was it in "getting to know" that one, and not thinking about the other? I don't know if I'm wording that right, as I can't quite put my finger on what I'm trying to say....any advice is welcome, and thank you all for listening to my depression.

Cindy

[CATTYBIRD]

I know that you are going through a lot of pain right now. And your right, no one will ever replace your Kiery. I thought that I would never want another cat after my Kitt died in Feb, but at the same time, it was no fun living in a catless house. So, when a friend of ours offered her two cats three days after Kitt's death, (our friend thought she was going to be moving) I took them. And no, Gracie and Casey havn't replaced Kitt, but they sure have helped fill up the emptiness. If and when you get a new furry, remember it's not a replacement, but just a whole other creation for you to have and love.