Does It Ever Go Away Options

[jenn]

It's thunderstorming outside right now.. Big loud booms of thunder. Freeway hated storms. They scared him. I heard the first boom and ran upstairs to comfort him and be with him... but he's not here... I KNOW that he's gone, how could I not... I doubt there's a minute that goes by each day when he's not on my mind. So why do I still keep wanting to run to him... to comfort him and console him.. why does it still shock me so much to walk in the door and be greeted by nothing.

My best friends dad died exactly one year ago, and I'm trying so hard to be here for him as he's slipped into a deep depression about it. I feel so silly crying about a dog when he's lost his dad... How can I be strong for him when my own heart is still so very broken.

Does this ever end?? When will my heart believe what my head already so painfully knows, that he's gone and isn't coming back. When will I stop thinking I see or hear him... It's just so painful and brings back a million emotions all over again. I want to go on with my life but I feel like I can't yet. I still just want him back... he belongs here with me.

[jillybromley]

It does improve Jenn. But it takes quite a long time I'm afraid. Very slowly little by little the pain does start to diminish. For me it began to get a little better around the 3 month mark. I still thought of my little Ellie all the time but I could begin to function better and there were short spells during the day when I found myself not constantly thinking of her.

At about 4 months things got considerably better for a lot of the time. There would still be overwhelming times when all I could do was sob, but they were becoming less frequent.

5 months, much improved. The searing agonising pain had turned into a low key aching in my heart, the crying became less.

6 months ... well I'm at that stage now. I still miss her desperately and have moments when I cry and can't believe she's gone. I still miss her every day but it is now more of a heavy ache in my heart rather than a sharp stabbing pain.

I think all we can do, is to try take one day at a time and for you to try to be gentle with yourself. The depth of your pain is equivalent to the depth of the love that you had for your Freeway. Human or furbaby the pain is the same, it is dependent on how much we loved them, and how much they meant to us in the first place.

You have every right to feel the way you do about your beloved Freeway ... clearly he meant the world to you.

My thoughts are with you
with love
jilly