My Jayjay Died, Coping With the loss of a pet (or not!) Options

[cdboogie]

Hi, I'm new to this forum and I want to say first of all that I'm so sad for all of your precious fur-babies that have passed on! I went looking for a pet loss arena to join because I know that I'm not alone in my grief and that there are many people going through the same devastating thing! I want to talk about my baby to those who know how it feel's to have this special type of love for a pet and to be so loved by them in return only to lose them forever! Other pet owner's can relate to what I'm going through right now! My boyfriend was sad but he's over it and my grief is only just beginning! I'm really the only one grieving over her. She was my precious girl!
My sweet beautiful JayJay died on Feb. 28th, 2004 after only a four day illness and my heart is shattered! I had never even heard of Cardiomyopathy, never mind experience it so tragically! She wasn't even six years old! I'm so sad I just want to die!
I don't want to stop crying, you know? I want to grieve for the rest of my life. I want to scream, kick my feet, and cry uncontrollably over her forever and never stop. It seems as if it would be disrespectful to her memory if I stopped being sad. Like how much I grieve equals how much I love her. If I stop grieving I stop loving and missing her. Does that make sense? I was wondering if anyone else ever experienced this?
Thank-you all !

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[cdboogie]

Dear Denise,

I'm actually not quite sure if Jay was a tortie or what. My Miss Tootsie and her daughter Libbie are Tortie's, but I always thought that JayJay was just Calico. I would love to see a picture of your sweet little Ernie. I know that she was so beautiful! I do love all animal's but I am totally hooked on cat's for some reason. I now have 7 cat's and the 3 dog's. I'd have 100 or more if I could. I just love them so much! Of course I have enough problems with what I have right now. Tootsie and Libbie share a room, Peanut and Sonnee-Girl have to each have their own room, and Dez, Munch and Ittsy stay in the main part of the house, as did JayJay. Jay was the only one that I did not have any type of behavioral problem's with. Every one else has issue's with spraying, going outside the litterbox and/or aggression towards the other cat's, but not Jay. She was the most well behaved baby I could've ever asked for. I keep thinking that this is some kind of insane nightmare and I'm going to wake up soon!

There's a possibility of thunder storms tomorrow in the A.M., and JayJay was so scared of thunder. She used to hide in the kitchen cabinets until the storm passed. It was so cute! I'd give anything to hear her banging those cabinet door's again! It kill's me thinking that she might be scared and I'm not there to protect her!

I remember, she got outside once a couple of year's ago when one of them had torn a hole in the screen on the back porch, and I was frantically looking for her everywhere worried to death because I live on a busy street corner, and I kept calling her and calling her until finally I heard this little tiny soft meow coming from behind the front bushes. Every time I'd say her name she'd meow back to me as if saying "I'm here mom!" It was so sweet! Jay never made any noise whatsoever, she was so quiet. That was one of the very rare time's that she meowed. I miss her so!

Thank-you for listening, I can't believe that it was this time last week I was still holding out hope thinking that she was going to be alright! It's so crazy how we torture ourselve's about certain things isn't it? God Bless! Cheryl

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