Question To The New Members Options

[Steph]

Does it make you feel very frightened or discouraged if you see an "older" member post about how devastated they still are?

I've resisted posting on occasion because I did not want someone who is in the early stages to think that the grief continues so strongly for 9 months. I don't want to scare people. It is just that sometimes the sadness creeps back in, or I simply wish to acknowldge that I still feel the loss very deeply.

[Zato]

Speaking for myself only, Im 39 years old, and I still miss pets I've lost 20+ years ago from time to time. Especially after taking a trip down memory lane with old photos, or talking to friends about all the pets I've had over the years.

I dont think that the pain every really goes away, rather, you just learn how to deal with it better and better as time goes on. And the length of time it takes to be able to cope with it will be as different as each pet is, also. I also think there is no reason that after nine months you should feel like you are beyond needing some support yourself so dont be afraid to post.