Why Is This So Hard?, my heart hurts so much Options

[Amber]

hello everyone and thank you for understanding my need to be away for a few days. just when i thought my depression was letting up it hit me right in the face again. i needed to come back and talk, i know it will make me feel better. i was doing so well. i could talk about kitty all i wanted and i would remember all the great moments that we had together and then i started having dreams. i had 2 dreams that kitty came back from the grave and one that i failed to feed her and she starved to death. as i mentioned before, when i buried kitty i felt as if she wasn't dead, although i witnessed the plunger being pushed on the syringe at the vet. i know that she was so sick and i took away her pain by making that difficult decision and i thought i was ok with it but now i am hurting so much. i miss her so much - i miss holding her and petting her and her sweet meow. i feel like i'm losing my mind. i can still feel her in my arms. now when i think about her, i think about her lifeless body on the examining table at the vet or i see her when she was sick and couldn't eat or even walk. i don't want to remember my sweet kitty that way - i want to remember her before she lost all of the weight - when she was fat and playing with the water in the bathroom sink. i love her so much - i want her back. ah

[wittley]

Hi Amber, sorry you are having a hard time at the moment. The grieving process has its ups & downs & there will be bad days.
I too, found it hard to get that image out of my mind, of that last day, of Winston, frail & thin, & then afterwards lifeless. I lay him on the bed as my boyfriend & I went to dig the grave, & I don't think I'll ever forget that image of him lying on the bed, as if he was just sleeping, but knowing that he wasn't, & that his soul was no longer there. I've had to try hard to push that image out, & remember him as he was when he was healthy & full of vitality. But like you, I've found it hard looking at photos because it's painful.
Kitty was a very special & wonderful friend, & it will take time to get over her. Hang on in there.
Big hugs,
Elsie