Pamela,

Ever since I been here I been reading people's postings and it just hurts me so much to read the way each one of us are losing them. As I was reading your story I had tears in my eyes I just can't stand to feel so down just by reading someone else experience. I'm so sorry for the loss your beloved angel boogie he was such a beautiful bird. I can't believe a lot of us have to experience the loss of our best friends. companion to such tragedy incidents. I totally understand how you are feeling now and the type of bond you share with your Boogie because I had the same relationship with my baby girl princess too. Its been 3 months since I lost my baby and I still feel devastated and hurt and I just can't seem to continue my life without her. Nobody in my family is supportive at all so this is the reason I'm in this site to see if I'm able to receive the support I need in order to help me heal. Reading everyone's story is making me feel that I'm not alone and that everyone in here is hurting from a loss of their fur-babies at some point. I'm still new and I haven't been able to respond to many postings because I'm still hurting and I don't know what to say to help others when I'm in the grief process myself. I just hope that I'm able to meet more people in here and be able to offer my support if they are whiling to accept it. Please accept my most sincere sympathy of the of your baby Boogie I know that were ever he is now he is watching over you and thinking of you too,


Hugs


~ Mayra

Thanks so much for your kind thoughts, Mayra. I really truly appreciate it. Please accept my deepest sympathies on the loss of your Princess. I'm sure it still feels as if it only just happened. I do hope as time goes on that your grief diminishes, but I know you will never stop missing your precious baby. You are definitely not alone. We are all here for you. Don't worry about trying to come up with amazing words that will ease everyone's pain. Just your kind and simple statements of sympathy mean so much to us. I hope you find some comfort here as well.

I've been missing Boogie's presence so much that I thought an Amazon parrot-shaped plush toy might help...you know, just to have something to hold in place of Boogie. I searched all over the internet, couldn't find a very realistic plush, but I did find something that was rather cute (though it's too big for an Amazon and looks more like a green penguin).



Anyway, it was the closest toy I could find that resembled Boogie. I walked around the house with it for a couple of days and even slept with it one night, but it actually did the opposite of what I was hoping for. It actually made me miss him even more. Now it's just sitting on top of the box containing Boogie's ashes on the nightstand next to my bed.

October 18th will be exactly one year since Boogie passed. I'm kind of panicking as that day approaches. Life goes on, but missing Boogie hasn't become any easier.

Hi, Pamela, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing, and for sharing your and beloved Boogie's one year angel-versary with us. Even though the calendar indicates that the first year of grieving is acknolwedged does not mean that the sorrow of not having our companion's sweet precious physical presence with us automatically disappears. It simply means that we have endured the first year of a very painful adjustment journey. It is normal for the grief to feel more intense when an angel-versary is near at hand and upon us.

I am sorry that the toy parrot has not offered you comfort as you had hoped it would. It is understandable that what works for one person with their grief adjustment journey may not work for someone else. So it is important that you find the healthy ways of expressing your sorrow that are helpful to YOU, Pamela, and perhaps one day you will be able to share them with someone else - - perhaps on this wonderful forum or someone you know or meet in your daily life.

I truly wish there were an easier way to navigate this grief adjustment journey, Pamela. One of the most important things for you to know is that there are no "expiration dates" or time limits here for you to come to share with us what is in your heart.

I hope today is treating you kindly and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Boogie's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Pamela, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
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