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Berta
post Apr 9 2010, 02:34 PM
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Angie,

I am so sorry and my heart goes out to you today. I also lurk here and read posts but I seldom post. I just wanted to let you know that you and Dexter are in my thoughts and prayers. I know this is a very long and painful day and I wish you peace. I will light a candle for Dexter tonight and wish him a peaceful and gentle transition to the Rainbow Bridge.

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post Apr 9 2010, 04:21 PM
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I know this is the longest day you've had to endure................. I remember it well and you are in my thoughts today.

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post Apr 9 2010, 07:52 PM
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Angie,

I am praying for you.

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post Apr 10 2010, 08:59 AM
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Hi, Angie, I just want to let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I was thinking about you all day yesterday and tried to log on yesterday evening when I got home from work, but I think my ISP was having some "technical difficulties" - - the computer was running very, very, very, s l o o o w. Whatever the "hang up" was last night all things seem to back to normal this morning.

After my Abbygayle was euthanized the vet took her to the back where the vet techs could take her pawprint, and when she brought her back to me to bring home for her brother, Noah, to pay his last respects, she brought her back in a cardboard casket. We took her out of the casket and placed her in the carriage that I use for my furkids (I am not strong enough on my feet to carry a carrier with a furchild inside it, so I got a pet stroller) and took her out of the vet's office just like I always had - - in the comfort of her stroller. I do so hope that the cremation service respected your wishes for your precious Dexter.

I do so know the deep grief you are going through, Angie, and I hope you can feel the comfort that is coming your way through the spirit of this post, and all the other wonderful posts in this forum. There are no adequate words that ever take away the loss you are feeling, but please know you are not alone in your grief journey. Each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us - - you are among friends here. Again, Angie, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

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AngieM
post Apr 10 2010, 09:50 AM
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I can't bring myself to write much right now because I am exhausted from crying all night but I wanted to let you all know that I saw your kind words yesterday and this morning and I am thankful in a way I can't even begin to express...

Dexter went peacefully while we held him. I will write more about it later, but for now the thing I'm holding on to is that he went so peacefully. I am heartbroken and devastated, but also thankful and a bit relieved...

Just wanted everyone to know how much your words mean... Thank you thank you thank you...

Angie
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post Apr 10 2010, 10:05 AM
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Oh Angie, I'm so thankful it was peaceful. And I'm so sorry about the new level of heartbreak that sets in now. I know there is a certain amount of relief that it was peaceful and the wait and struggle are now over for Dexter. Hugs to you as you begin to let it all sink in. Get some rest and please post when you feel you can.
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janika
post Apr 10 2010, 11:03 AM
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Dear Angie
I'm sending great big hugs to you and my heartfelt condolences on your loss. I am so thankful that all was peaceful for you and your darling Dexter. I know what you mean about the 'relief'. I felt the same with Tasha, it's knowing that they're no longer suffering and that the thing that we have dreaded is over now, and thankfully in a peaceful way. It doesn't take away the heartache and sadness that follows, but it does help a little.
When you feel able please let us know how you are. It's going to be a tough time, but know that we are all thinking of you and sending prayers and love.

Jan and my Angels and Pixie xx
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post Apr 10 2010, 12:40 PM
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Dear Angie, thank you so much for letting us now that Dexter's passing last night was peaceful - - for him as well as for you. The grief journey that you are now traveling is truly one day at a time, but again, please know we are here with you every step of the way. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Angie, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
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post Apr 10 2010, 02:07 PM
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My thoughts are with you at this really sad time. As you said Dexter went in peace and although its hard you have to try and remember the good times. That is easier said than done I know myself. I lay with Rufus on the vets floor just over 3 weeks ago whilst they put him to sleep. It was very peaceful and I lay hugging, kissing him and telling him how me and his dad loved him and how he was now off to a better place. But I have cried everyday since he went and think did I do the right thing. Its one of the hardest things I have ever had to do and although it may seem silly I feel much worse than when a human family member has passed.
I have been popping on here to read peoples posts and it does help to know you are not alone in how you are feeling.
I hope you start to feel better very soon. God Bless you xx
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post Apr 11 2010, 01:06 PM
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Hi Angie--

I'm just thinking of you and wondering how you're doing? I'm so glad that you have your peaceful memories to hold on to. Try to remember Dexter when he was at his happiest, and not just towards the end. I understand the feeling of relief too--you had a long vigil to endure, and in some ways, it must be good to have it over.

Right now, my life is directed towards Ladywolf to the exclusion of lots of other things. I imagine that I too may feel some relief, mixed in with the unbearable pain, when she finally passes. The slow dying process of a pet is something of an ordeal, even though, in our case, it is giving us lots of quality time together.

Well, just wanted to send loads of love your way!

Margi and Ladywolf
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post Apr 12 2010, 07:52 AM
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Today I am completely numb... I feel like I have cried nonstop for three days and now I am just numb. But I know that something is going to hit me out of the blue and I'll lose it.

I'm having a hard time coming here and writing. It's just so painful to think about and on some level I think I'm avoiding... I am so thankful to know that everyone understands. I want to contribute, to help others on the board but I literally can't think straight. I promise to help as soon as I can.

I'm uploading a photo of my Dexter. This photo is from a year ago when he was still fetching pennies, which were his absolute favorite...

Sending thanks and love to all of you who have been thinking of me and Dexter.

Angie
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Rhapsedy
post Apr 12 2010, 08:47 AM
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Hi Angie,

You are describing the same things that I went through when I lost Callaway. I wish I could speed time up time for you so you wouldn't have to feel the pain but unfortunately we have to go thru the greiving process in order to heal. Try and remember when you are going thru a very painful time that it will get better, I know it's hard to believe it at the time but it will. I didn't think I would ever get over the intense pain that I felt when Callaway died but I did, I still miss him so much and that may never go away, but I am functioning much better.

We all totally understand that it's hard to come here and write after you've lost an animal, I think we have all been there. We are here right now to help you thru the pain, you will eventually be able to come here and help others.

Dexter is adorable! He looks like such a happy boy. What's the story behind the pennies? How did he start fetching them? What did he do with them once he fetched them?

Please take care of yourself and come on here whenever you need to talk, it really does help to get your feelings out.

Love to you and Dexter,
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post Apr 12 2010, 10:28 AM
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Angie, your sweet Dexter was a cutie. Those happy memories are so painful right now, I know. It'll be awhile before they are a comfort - truly a comfort, anyway.
Don't worry about not being able to post or offer support to anyone else. We all know where you are right now. I didn't post or even read for awhile when Niles first got sick because I was in denial that he was going to die. Coming here was just too painful at the time. So, we understand. Just take care of yourself right now.
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post Apr 12 2010, 02:20 PM
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Dear Angie

Dexter looks so cute, I love the photo. Thanks for posting it.

Take one day at a time and try and remember the happy times. I couldn't post anything on here for about 3 weeks. I just kept reading everyones posts. I think it really helped when I felt I could pour out my feelings to people who understood just what I was going through. But take your time, we'll be here.
Thinking of you and sending hugs
Love Jan and my Angels and PIxie x
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post Apr 14 2010, 10:06 AM
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QUOTE (janika @ Apr 12 2010, 12:20 PM) *
Dear Angie

Dexter looks so cute, I love the photo. Thanks for posting it.

Take one day at a time and try and remember the happy times. I couldn't post anything on here for about 3 weeks. I just kept reading everyones posts. I think it really helped when I felt I could pour out my feelings to people who understood just what I was going through. But take your time, we'll be here.
Thinking of you and sending hugs
Love Jan and my Angels and PIxie x


Dear Anglie

Dexter is beautiful! What a perky, happy dog!

Gosh, don't worry about not being able to post here--and especially about not being able to help anyone else. You're in a state of traumatic loss--we don't expect much from you but that! I can try to help soothe other peoples' feelings, because I still HAVE Ladywolf, but you can;t yet. No One is going to blame you for that. If you can even get here to post a word or two, that's plenty!

Much love to you--Margi and the Wolf
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post Apr 14 2010, 04:47 PM
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Hi, Angie, thank you so much for sharing a picture of your precious Dexter with us. He is so o o cute - - and I do mean "is" because his sweet living Spirit is still with you in your heart and your memories, and nothing can ever take that away from you. Please know each of us here perfectly understands what you are going through. Just know we are with you every step of the way in this grief journey, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Angie, and please let us know how you're doing whenever you feel up to posting.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam


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The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face.
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