Hi all, tomorrow will mark the 2nd week since I lost my cat, Poer-Woer, in a hit and run accident. (He was so called because of the purring sound he made). I'm still completely devastated as he was one of the things in this life that kept me going. I'm having a really difficult time. I don't know if I will ever get over this. My mother rushed me to the doctors earlier this week, because I was shaking uncontrolably. The shock has still not worn off. And I miss him terribly. These past two days I just sat staring at nothing in particular. I'm like a zombie. I take a lot of drives to where I can be alone and then I cry and cry. This always makes me feel better, but the pain in my heart is very intense. That morning my cat was 100% healthy - nothing wrong with him and that afternoon he was gone. He never even knew what hit him and for that I'm very thankful. He didn't suffer.

Poer-Woer, 1998 - 2005
I love you...

Hi Susan, I know you are at a very difficult time in the stage of grief. As the 2 week mark approached for me I was just coming out of that dazzed feeling when it all seems so unreal. I had to admit that my little girl was not coming back. What a beautiful picture of your Poer-Woer. He looked so darling and I know how much you must miss him. Keep crying those tears even though it does not feel like it right now they are for healing. Come and talk to us, we all reach out and help each other so much.
Ann

I am so sorry about you cat poer-woer. What a beautiful cat he was. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Kim

What a sweet cat Poer-Woer is ~ I am so sorry for your loss ~ I am also grieving a loss of my dear Tabby Amber on 3/28 and as was stated earlier I am just coming out of a fog myself ~ Please know you are not alone ~ I read that when violent accidents happen God sends the Angels to scoop up the soul of the animal and take away any pain and fear and surround it with a cloud of love ~ I hope this helps you ~ My Sincere Condolences ~ Kathryn

Dear Susan,

I'm sorry about your beloved Poer-Woer. He was beautiful. As Ann said, during the first couple of weeks, everything seems unreal. The grieving process is a long one. All you can do is remember the happy times you spent together and come here where we all understand your pain. You think you won't make it but somehow you will. You have to believe that.

Thinking of you.

Hugs,
Lynn

Dear Susany,

I am so very sorry that you lost your adorable Poer-Woer. What a cute name! I'll bet he had the other cats laughing when he arrived in Heaven and introduced himself! He sure is a pretty boy!

Grief is a path that does not have time constraints and does not fit neatly into categorized stages. It is different for everyone.

It's so hard to understand why we have to lose our precious fur babies in such tragic ways. Fate certainly wasn't kind to you. But then we cannot see the full picture, the entire spectrum of the universe and it's events. One day when your heart is not aching so and the pain has slowly loosened its vice-like grip, you'll begin to allow the wonderful memories to come flooding back. Like Poer's spirit, they are your's....forever!
No one can take them from you.

You will be with Poer-Woer again one day. Such a pure, love-filled creature as your cat will surely be with us again for all eternity.

I've believed this since I was a small child and nothing I've experience thus far in my 56 years has shaken my faith. God created Poer and lent him to you, albeit for such a short time. However, God loves all his creation and I'm sure Poer has returned to God, safe, happy, and racing around Heaven with great joy.

Hold that image in your mind and your pain will slowly slip away!

Bless you, dear friend!

--Susan
~ a voice for the voiceless ~

Hi everyone, I want to thank each and everyone of you who has replied to my posts in the last three weeks. It has helped a great deal knowing there are others out there who understand what I'm going through. Today is another hard day for me. I feel completely lost. It feels as if I have reached a point in the grieving process and now I can't move past it. Does that even make sense? I feel down all the time and nothing makes me feel any better. My family have now dealt with the loss of our beloved cat and they are going on, but I'm still stuck. I still want him back. I still don't want to accept that he's not coming back. He was such a joy to us all. I know I will never ever find another cat with the personality that he had. I miss him...

Susan,
I understand where you are and you aren't alone. I think it's harder when our babies are taken from us suddenly. Poer-Woer had many more years of joy left to give and get and I'm so sorry for your loss.

I wish I could tell you why things like this happen. I'm asking the same questions myself. My Gandalf is missing and it will be 4 weeks on Monday. He isn't quite a year old yet and he has so much left to live. He is the joy of my life and has a way of making me smile no matter what mood I'm in. It's so hard not knowing what is or has happened to him. I'm an emotional wreck between greiving his loss and the hope that just won't go away. My support at home is gone..... My husband told me last night that "Gandalf has another place to live so get over it and move on." I wish I could......

I can't take the pain away from you. But I can tell you that someday you will be able to think of Poer-Woer and remember the happy times with a smile.

Hugs,
Dawn