48 hrs later and we can not stop crying. We had a picture of Buster blown up and dated so we could have a nice picture to set next to his urn. We put his picture and his ashes in the kitchen hutch, his picture faces the door. I know this is where he would like to be. Seager (our other dog) keeps walking by and stopping to
look up at Buster's picture. When Bill (the man who helped us through all of this) brought the Urn to us Mister (our 22 lb. cat) jump to check it out. He purrer and rupped against it We can't even bare to be in this house anymore. We miss hm so much, as soon as one of us stops crying another one of starts. My 17 year old son is a wreck and I am so worried about him. Buster was like a brother to him. We don't know when or if we will ever feel like us again. We just want to hug our BIG DOG.

That is real nice that you got a picture blown up and although it might bring more tears at first it will be a big comfort later. Wow how did you get Buster's ashes back so fast? Most of us had to wait a week or more to bring our babies home. It's to bad all the places couldn't do it so fast.

It has been such a short time since you lost your little boy. I know how many tears a family can cry. When I wasn't crying my husband or my children were. It will take time for your son to feel better too. My husband and I didn't like to be home either even though we have a puppy. It just isn't the same without our girls here.

I cried the first week with very short breaks in between. I lost my little girl the day after Christmas and I don't cry anywhere as much as I did at first. As far as feeling like myself again after a while I learned to live with the loss but I have never been the same. I don't know if more time will return me to my normal self but at this time I don't think so.
Ann

To Busters family (furry and not)..
Try to believe it will get better. You are very lucky to have each other and your other animals for support. Lean on each other and remember the good times. It will not be easy, and you will always miss him, But please believe me when I tell you that there will be tears of joy eventually. Don't expect the pain to go away immediatley, it won't. But know what you are feeling is perfectly normal He looks like he was such a big love. He is still with you and he is at peace! Martina

Aww, what a sweetie pie Buster was! Thanks for posting the photo. I'm so sorry that you lost your dear friend.

In response to "will you ever be normal again": I am at almost 9 months since my Luba died, and "normal" doesn't happen, but a different "new normal" does occur. It just takes a long time. The first weeks are the worst.

I'm glad that you found this site.

If it helps you, check out my thread titled "My Journey Through Grief" it's in this section, and I just recently bumped it to the top. It's a week by week description of the intense grieving period, and how it improved for me over time. Some say that the thread has helped them.