Hi,
I have not shared in awhile because I experienced Hurricane Matthew and some other family problems. Today, I sold my mom's car which has not run since her death, and I lost it. I cried for her and I cried for George who used to love riding in her convertible and sitting at her table eating off fine china. My son who is in seminary in NY still won't speak to me, and my husband allows it. I feel so alone. I want another dog or cat for my cat and myself and my husband said no. I used to be strong, but now I am weak and alone.
Thank you,
Vikki
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Hi, Vikki, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I can so understand how you're feeling in having to endure the sorrow of selling your mom's car in which your beloved George enjoyed riding. This is another "first without" in your grief adjustment journey for both your beloved George and your mom.
I'm so sorry your son and husband are not offering you the comforting support you need at this time. Although clinical professionals now recognize that the grief adjustment journey for the physical loss of a beloved companion is the same as for a human family member or friend, sadly our society in general, and sometimes the people who are closest to us emotionally and geographically do not. This is one of the many reasons why this wonderful forum exists so that we can come to share what is in our hearts and on our minds without fear of recrimination or rejection. Please know we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
I hope today is treating you kindly, Vikki, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved George's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I'm so sorry your son and husband are not offering you the comforting support you need at this time. Although clinical professionals now recognize that the grief adjustment journey for the physical loss of a beloved companion is the same as for a human family member or friend, sadly our society in general, and sometimes the people who are closest to us emotionally and geographically do not. This is one of the many reasons why this wonderful forum exists so that we can come to share what is in our hearts and on our minds without fear of recrimination or rejection. Please know we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
I hope today is treating you kindly, Vikki, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved George's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Oh Vikki I'm so sorry you are feeling so alone !!! 
As moon_beam said, WE are here for you.
How do you spend your days? Do you stay close with your cat? George wants you to be really really good to yourself, as much as you can. Is there anything that you find satisfying / empowering / healing? Even if it's watching a certain program on TV, or knitting, or whatever fills you up, even a little. Also, Might you be able to see a counselor?
-If you are up to it, maybe try to list 3 things in each of these categories and if you want, send them on here?
-Things that feel satisfying
-Things that empower me
-Ideas of things that might help me along the healing journey
-Other ideas, even if they don't seem practical or realistic
One thing that has helped me some has been to write a letter to a furbaby I have lost, telling them all the things I want them to know. And, having them "write" back to me.
Please keep in touch. Don't feel you have to do any of the ideas I've shared! Different things help different people. Just find what might work for YOU.
Sending comforting prayers your way!
Kathy
As moon_beam said, WE are here for you.
How do you spend your days? Do you stay close with your cat? George wants you to be really really good to yourself, as much as you can. Is there anything that you find satisfying / empowering / healing? Even if it's watching a certain program on TV, or knitting, or whatever fills you up, even a little. Also, Might you be able to see a counselor?
-If you are up to it, maybe try to list 3 things in each of these categories and if you want, send them on here?
-Things that feel satisfying
-Things that empower me
-Ideas of things that might help me along the healing journey
-Other ideas, even if they don't seem practical or realistic
One thing that has helped me some has been to write a letter to a furbaby I have lost, telling them all the things I want them to know. And, having them "write" back to me.
Please keep in touch. Don't feel you have to do any of the ideas I've shared! Different things help different people. Just find what might work for YOU.
Sending comforting prayers your way!
Kathy
QUOTE (Vikki @ Oct 17 2016, 02:14 PM) 
Hi,
I have not shared in awhile because I experienced Hurricane Matthew and some other family problems. Today, I sold my mom's car which has not run since her death, and I lost it. I cried for her and I cried for George who used to love riding in her convertible and sitting at her table eating off fine china. My son who is in seminary in NY still won't speak to me, and my husband allows it. I feel so alone. I want another dog or cat for my cat and myself and my husband said no. I used to be strong, but now I am weak and alone.
Thank you,
Vikki
I have not shared in awhile because I experienced Hurricane Matthew and some other family problems. Today, I sold my mom's car which has not run since her death, and I lost it. I cried for her and I cried for George who used to love riding in her convertible and sitting at her table eating off fine china. My son who is in seminary in NY still won't speak to me, and my husband allows it. I feel so alone. I want another dog or cat for my cat and myself and my husband said no. I used to be strong, but now I am weak and alone.
Thank you,
Vikki
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