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Gunners Mama
THINGS YOUR DECEASED PET WANTS YOU TO KNOW

1. there’s nothing that could have been done differently
A Soul’s path is planned before they are born onto this Earth. This plan includes all possible exits from this world. And when the Soul leaves this Earth, know that this exit was part of their Soul’s plan and a specific choice made by their soul.

There’s nothing you, or anyone, could have done differently to save them. The time at which your Pet’s Spirit leaves this world is no one's doing, it’s no one's fault.

When it’s the Soul’s time to exit their physical body, everything that can be done, has already been done. Everything that needed to happen, did. Your pet wants you to know that there’s absolutely nothing you could have done differently, you did everything exactly right.

2. they chose you as their parent(s)
Just as the Soul chooses exit paths and plans for their life, your pet also selected you as their parent.

Your pet chose you, as the one who would make them feel the most loved and bring them the most comfort and joy while they were here. And you did.

Your pet wants you know that you were and are the perfect parent.

3. they understand your sadness, but would rather see you happy
As a Spirit now, your pet knows that sadness is part of the grieving process, but they wished it wasn’t.

Remember how, when they were alive, they would snuggle up next to you, sitting by your side (or on top of you), whenever you were feeling sad or feeling bad? They wanted to make you feel better *just like you thought* and they wished they could do something to make you happy, then. And they still do, even now, They don’t want their exit to have brought pain, in fact, no one does. But they understand that this is part of the process.

They want you to remember the happy, love filled, and joyous times you spent together, and look back upon them with gratitude and thanks. They believe the time you spent together was a cherished gift and that this gift is a call for celebration - and smiles.

4. they know you loved them and hope you know they loved you back
Your pet doesn’t want you to wonder if they knew how much you loved them, they do.

It’s said that grief is the final gift of love given from one to another, and the depth of that grief is a measure of the strength of the love between the bond.

They know how deeply you loved them, and they want you to know that they loved you back in equal measure (if not more!).

5. they’re still right by your side
You aren’t alone. They aren’t gone forever - they’re still right by your side. And they always will be, if you let them. The Spirit World exists right alongside our physical world, and while your pet may no longer be occupying their physical body, they’re still with you in Spirit.

And remember, that’s who you loved in the first place. You loved their mannerisms, their attitude, and their personality - all elements of their Spirit. You didn’t love them for their fur, or their one standing straight up ear, or their snaggle teeth (ok, maybe you did a little). Mostly, you loved them for who they were as a Spirit, and that Spirit, still exists right beside you.

After they pass on, your pet wants you to know that they still cuddle up next to you, still join you on the couch, and still want to be with you, if you want that too.

6. they still want to do things with you
They’re still here, in Spirit form, and they still enjoy your company and want to do the things you always did together.

If they used to ride shotgun on car trips, or they used to love accompanying you on hikes, bike rides, or jogs, or they used to love sitting on your lap while you worked late at night - you pets wants you to know, they still enjoy doing those things, and still want to join you.

All you have to do to invite them along, is pat the couch beside you and encourage them to jump up, or give them the okay to hop out of the car and accompany you on the hike.

7. they don’t want you to regret the way that they died
Nearly all pet owners have some sadness or regret about their pet’s final moments.

If you had to carry your pet into the vet to be put to sleep, your dog does not want you to regret this choice. It was their choice, too, to be in your arms as they took their final breaths, and to be surrounded by your love as their Spirit left their body.

Your pet wants you to have no regret and to have no sadness, they want you to know that these were their choices, and you honored them perfectly. You did exactly what they wanted.

8. they know you often loved them more than you loved yourself
Even if you didn’t have proper food to eat, they know you somehow managed to buy them food and treats. Your pet knows that you often showered them in more love than you ever showed yourself. They know this, and they have deep gratitude for your love. This is exactly why you were the perfect choice as their parent, and they want to thank you, for loving them even when at times it seemed so hard to love anything at all.

9. they loved you more than they loved themselves
Your pet was an individual, too. They had things they felt badly about and things that they knew could be improved upon, and reasons, that they felt they were unworthy of love, just like we all do.

But you, you were always supportive, always loving, and always doting, even at times, when you thought you weren’t. Your pet loved you, and loves you, more than they ever loved themselves.

And if you’ll allow it, they’d like to still be a part of your life.
LittleGirl'sMommy
Gunner's Mama,

Wow. This is brilliant!! And so comforting!

Thank you for posting this. wub.gif wub.gif

Kathy
LoveMyMickey
Dear Gunners Mama,

First of all I'm so sorry for your loss of sweet Gunner.

I enjoyed this article very much and I feel very strongly that it is true. Our little Mickey passed away from heart failure 5 years ago.
My husband and I have felt his Spirit with us, especially when he first passed. He had a special little rug in the dining room where he would lay and watch me cook or whatever. Anyway when I would pass by there I would get cold chills for a long time, but as time went by not so much. Until the other night I felt a slight chill as I looked over at the rug.

We have had a lot of spiritual things to happen. My husband would see a white image out of the corner of his eyes several times.(Mickey was white). I associate butterflies with him especially the little white ones. I always feel Mickey sent them to us. One late afternoon a butterfly came down as I was standing on the patio and touched my cheek, maybe a kiss from Mickey?

We have had so many things to happen, I guess because we were so close to him. Some people might think we're weird, but this is all true. We still talk to him and tell him goodnight.

Again I'm so sorry for your loss and I believe little Gunner is right by your side or laying around watching you.

God Bless

LoveMyMickey
Gunners Mama
Thank you for your kind words LoveMyMickey. My Gunner was my once in a lifetime dog. We had a bond that most people never understood. I found that article and it seemed to help me so I thought that it might help someone else too. I figured we are all on here for the same reason. We are just trying to help each other with our grief. We've had 2 other dogs pass but I have never felt anything like this before. This is the worst feeling in the world. I don't think that your weird about feeling and seeing your Mickey. I believe he is with you. I saw a picture of him and he was adorable. The next morning after Gunner passed away I was crying and looking out the kitchen window. A hawk flew in and landed on a tree in our yard. He sat there for a few minutes and looked towards me and flew away. We have had our cabin for about 8 years and I've never seen a hawk land in our yard. After that I've seen hawks quite a few times. I read about hawks after this and it said that they are messengers that can travel between earth and heaven. I think that maybe those are my signs from Gunner.
LoveMyMickey
Hi Gunners Mama,

I believe that hawk was a sign from your Gunner. I looked up hawks on Google and read some interesting stories. Like you, we had 2 other dogs to pass away. Although I cried and grieved over them, I felt a greater bond with Mickey.

Thank you for posting the article. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless

LoveMyMickey
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