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post Jul 17 2012, 07:25 AM
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My 9-year-old kitty, Dolly, was diagnosed last Tuesday with acute renal failure. I saw her throwing up some very odd-looking vomit, and staggering. Immediately got her to the vet. The initial exam showed her heart to be good, no fever, all good..... Then they did the bloodwork. Her creatinine levels were off-the-charts and confirmed the Stage 4 diagnosis !!!!!! sad.gif

She was put on IV fluids and I had to leave her overnight! Visited her the next morning and she didn't recognize me! The re-tests showed no improvement. Visited her in the afternoon - the same. ALMOST made the decision then to have her put to sleep, because I felt she was suffering. Then the vet came in and told me she had consulted with another vet and wanted to try one more thing, so she stayed over another night... No improvement. I made the decision the next day. sad.gif

What ... a ... nightmare. My baby! For the first 3 days I bawled, crying so hard that at times it was hard to breathe. Now I'm almost all numb. Just can't think or feel.

I am going to write another post shortly about how the death of a pet affects the other pets in the household (I have 2 other precious cats).

I am glad to be among all of you.

Kathy


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post Jul 17 2012, 12:03 PM
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Kathy,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my Tom to diabetes complications when he was about 10. This is a good place to come for comfort and support. Please let us know how you are doing.

PS: What a beautiful picture of Dolly.


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post Jul 17 2012, 01:36 PM
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Hi, Kathy, please permit me to add my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Dolly. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions at great sacrifice to ourselves so that they can be released from their frail failing physical bodies and restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.

Kathy, this grief journey is filled with so many different emotions that can overwhelm us all at one time and can make us feel like we are literally going insane. It is frequently referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. Unfortunately there is no easy way through this grief adjustment journey. It can only be traveled one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time in your own way and in your own time. One of the many things you need to remember is that you are not alone. You are among friends here who truly do understand what you are going through and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

Although this grief journey is one of the most painful experiences you will know on this side of eternity there is good news: The love bond you and your beloved Dolly share is eternal. It is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved Dolly's sweet Living Spirit continues to share your earthly journey just as she always has and always will -- she is always and forever in your heart and your memories, Kathy - - she is always a heartbeat close to you.

I know there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of loss in your heart. I can only hope the words I share with you will somehow offer you comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you and your precious companions travel your grief adjustment journey.

Thank you so very much for sharing your beloved Dolly with us, Kathy. She is sooo pretty, and her eyes reflect the eternal love you and your beloved Dolly share. I hope today is treating you and your precious companions kindly, Kathy, and that each of you will have a peaceful evening. Please know you and your precious furkids are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
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post Jul 17 2012, 05:14 PM
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Hello Kathy

Please accept my deepest condolences on the passing of your beautiful, sweet kittie, Dolly. Some animals capture our spirits so much we seem to be part of the same soul. Your post about Dolly-the-Doll tells me you and Dolly were true "soul-mates." These amazing beings search the whole univers over to find their one and only. Then they put themselves in our paths so we will find them - and the instant rush of love tells it all. Our soul-mates guide us, teachus so many life lessons, and most importantly, love us and are loved by us - with a love so special only another pair of soul-mates could understand. Whoever made the universe made animals' lives much shorter than humans' lives - and so when we give our heart away to a love-animal, we know we'll be in for some mighty suffering someday. But it alwways seems like "someday." Then it comes and it slices our hearts in two. We are put to the ultimate test - loving them enough to set them free from pain and illness and send them on their way back to the perfect world from which they came and in which we will meet them again - never again to be parted. Meanwhile, we're in a pain we could never imagine Somebody called it bleeding to death from the heart. But our soul-mates are spirits now and they can be in two places at once: playing, healthy, up above in the Perfect World and at the same time right by our side as always. We just can't see or hear or touch them, so we, as humans, say they're "gone." But they're not. They're always only a heartbeat, only a breath away.

Your pprecious Dolly is right where she always was, right there by you, brushing up against your legs, whispering sweet kitty nothings in your ear. Right now all that's needed is the minumum needed to sustain life - eat, breathe, sleep (and work, if you have to). Your body is in crisis mode. It can't be sustained for very long but while it lasts, it's hades on earth. You've come to the right place. Every single one of us here has gone or is going through what you are - the homegoing of their soul-mate. There are no shoulds, no timelines ... only care and support.

Welcome to the family!

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post Jul 17 2012, 06:44 PM
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Kathy, please accept my sincere sympathies on the loss of your precious Dolly. What a beautiful calico cat! I am so sorry that you lost this sweet kitty. She has such a cute face. And I'm sure her feline companions miss her so much. Please make sure you give them extra special attention during this difficult time as well as being good to yourself. Grief can wear down the immune system, so please get plenty of rest.
I lost my sweet calico cat, Tina, due to cancer almost 3 months ago. I still miss her so much. These little cats give us so much love, and when they are gone it's like our world falls apart and we don't know what to do.


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post Jul 20 2012, 07:11 AM
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Good morning, Kathy

Stopping by to see how you are doing and to wish you some moments of peace today and every day. When our soul-mates go back home, it feels like we might die right then, but we don't. Grief is both the proof of our love and a purifying fire for our souls - so, as the old gospel song says, "we will come out as pure gold." Lucky Dolly, she's already there. And on her job .... watching over you, guiding your steps and, what's most important of all, loving and being loved by the most wonderful forever mom there is.

Here's a hug for you today - and every day.

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post Jul 20 2012, 11:35 AM
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Dear Kathy im so sorry for your lost
Your cat is beautiful I lost my Casper 6 months ago due to a blood clot that couldnt b fixed i kno the feelings of numb after 6 months all my feeling are numb and gone still But i will stay the first week is the hardest again im so sorry for ur lost yes i kno for the first few days words dont mean anything but again u gotta b strong and get thru the first week
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post Jul 20 2012, 02:47 PM
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Oh, Kathy. I am so sorry for your loss.
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post Jul 20 2012, 07:49 PM
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Thank you SO much everyone. It is absolutely heartwarming to read your replies. The time-and-space thing makes perfect sense to me. Dolly is with me - and she's with Farmey (her fur-sibling who passed in '08) and other beloved ones.


Sunny, the kitty I was worried about, is doing much better. I have spent every day and night with him, only being gone for 3 hours in a row at the longest. He seems to feel reassured. I sometimes mention Dolly's name in a reassuring tone of voice.

These amazing beings search the whole univers over to find their one and only. Then they put themselves in our paths so we will find them - and the instant rush of love tells it all.
The day I met Dolly at the shelter, I thought to myself, she is too pretty to adopt! (figuring people would be fighting over her...) Then I got a few "signs" that she had been waiting for ME ... Plus I found out that she and her 5 kittens had been abandoned, and someone found them and brought them all to the shelter... Several weeks later people adopted all the kittens.. but everyone passed over sweet Dolly!!! She had been waiting for her mother. wub.gif I miss her SO much even though logically I know she is still right here. I just want her to throw herself at me with purrs and nuzzles right now.

Having a hard time making sense of words tonight so I'll leave it here. Thank you all so very much. And comfort to all of you in your journeys as well. I will get back to posting on others' stories very shortly.

Kathy
P.S. Wanted to share this thought too.... I think I got this sentiment from Dolly. I just wrote it the other day with almost no thinking involved: Any kind of guilt I might have regarding how I might have done things differently is counterproductive. I even have on a slip of paper "No guilt whatsoever..... DOLLY SAYS SO !!!"


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post Jul 21 2012, 07:47 AM
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Good morning Kathy

I'm so glad you had the experience of your one-and-only soul-mate putting herself in your path and you two finding each other. I want to share with you a poem that LoveMyMickey wrote for me when I was feeling very guilty at having left my Gretta over night at the U of MN vet School hospital because I was too scared to take care of her at home. And that was her last night on earth. Alone all because of my cowardice. It was horrible.

I'm an old "folkie" and know many, many folk, blues and traditional gospel songs. After Gretta passed, I took our walks alone and to comfort myself, made up verses to these songs. My last two were to the tune of "Hobo's Lullaby" )best know in the Woody Guthrie version):

I'm sorry for the pain I caused you
All because I did not know
That you were sick and you were hurting
And that was why you walked so slow.

I'm sorry that I left you with them
On what would be your last night here.
Can you forgive me for that Gretta?
That's what my heart most wants to hear.

And beautiful, kind, amazing LoveMy Mickey (an LS sister) wrote two verses of Gretta's answer:

Oh mommie in the end as always
Nothing that you did was wrong.
No matter where I was I felt it,
You're love for me was oh so strong.

Oh mommie, mommie please don't worry
For there is nothing to forgive. (This line has made me sob uncontrollably many, many times)
A life of peace and joy and gladness
Is what I want for you to live.

May this lovely poem confort you as it had comforted me - even though the comfort always comes with tears. Dolly-cat is in the perfect World with Gretta, all her cousins, all the wonderful animals who've been honored on this site, all the animals who have passed with no one ot mourn for them and all the animals who gave their lives in the interest iof "Science."

Have a peacful day.

Grett'as (and now Rufus's) mom
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post Jul 21 2012, 07:09 PM
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I just cried uncontrollably while reading that comforting, touching poem. I can hear Dolly saying those words !!!! And Farmey!! Thank you SO much for sharing that.
I also cried at the thought of you taking the walks alone (although you weren't alone... Gretta was there and still is wub.gif ). I never dared to take my sweet dog Farmey's and my walks alone. I was too scared of grief.
Bless you for checking back on the "Dolly thread." Please stay in touch.
Love,
Kathy
P.S. I am in the middle of a move but WILL be on here more regularly, checking others' posts, shortly.


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Good morning Kathy

I'm so glad you had the experience of your one-and-only soul-mate putting herself in your path and you two finding each other. I want to share with you a poem that LoveMyMickey wrote for me when I was feeling very guilty at having left my Gretta over night at the U of MN vet School hospital because I was too scared to take care of her at home. And that was her last night on earth. Alone all because of my cowardice. It was horrible.

I'm an old "folkie" and know many, many folk, blues and traditional gospel songs. After Gretta passed, I took our walks alone and to comfort myself, made up verses to these songs. My last two were to the tune of "Hobo's Lullaby" )best know in the Woody Guthrie version):

I'm sorry for the pain I caused you
All because I did not know
That you were sick and you were hurting
And that was why you walked so slow.

I'm sorry that I left you with them
On what would be your last night here.
Can you forgive me for that Gretta?
That's what my heart most wants to hear.

And beautiful, kind, amazing LoveMy Mickey (an LS sister) wrote two verses of Gretta's answer:

Oh mommie in the end as always
Nothing that you did was wrong.
No matter where I was I felt it,
You're love for me was oh so strong.

Oh mommie, mommie please don't worry
For there is nothing to forgive. (This line has made me sob uncontrollably many, many times)
A life of peace and joy and gladness
Is what I want for you to live.

May this lovely poem confort you as it had comforted me - even though the comfort always comes with tears. Dolly-cat is in the perfect World with Gretta, all her cousins, all the wonderful animals who've been honored on this site, all the animals who have passed with no one ot mourn for them and all the animals who gave their lives in the interest iof "Science."

Have a peacful day.

Grett'as (and now Rufus's) mom



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