My daughter is in school today and today would have been a "Mama and Magic" day. IT's beautiful out and it has just made me so sad. I am so angry with the babysitter, she did not help look for her, lied about when she let out, and let us look in sheds for two days before finally admitting she left her out all night.She seems more concerned we will bad mouth her in the neighborhood, yet acts liek everything is back to normal........

Today is just such a lonely day.........sitting here by myself. I can't wait until we leave on our trip---I think a change of scenery is the only way to completely get my mind off things. We made it out several playdates recently, and I've been fine of those days....but today was just a huge step back.

why does society make you feel like you should forget about a pet in two days?? I feel like a failure for feeling this way.......

Radgirl

No you do not need to forget about your furbaby that quick. I feel sad for you, and no you are not a failure.

Hi, Radgirl, anyone who says that you need to "forget" your precious Magic is not anyone you need to listen to. Your precious Magic will always be a part of you no matter how long your earthly journey may be. Not even the dimming of your mind with age will dim the warmth of your cherished memories you will always carry in your heart of your precious Magic.

Unfortunately our society just barely tolerates the grieving for a human family member or friend. But once the funeral / memorial service has been conducted the social attitude is to "move on" -- as though the family member or friend never existed. I have never understood this, and never will.

I can most certainly understand your anger toward the irresponsible person who defaulted on her responsibility to properly take care of your precious Magic in your absence. I truly wish there was something I could do to turn back time so that your precious Magic would still be with you healthy and happy, but unfortunately I do not have that power. My heart aches for you, truly it does. Please know you are not alone, - - ever, Radgirl. Although we cannot be physically with you to hold your hand, we are always here for you, with you, and beside you - - we are always on YOUR side.

Radgirl, sometimes a change of scenery does help ease the deep grief, and I hope this is true for you. I hope your travels are safe, healthy, and as pleasant as possible under the circumstances. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

Thanks Moon Beam for all your encouragement. Today was a rough day, at least my daughter is home now, and we're off to Chuckie Cheese wit ha friend soon. Keeping as usy as possible helps, and I can't wait to get out of town. Staring at an empty yard and chair, etc. is NOT helping, for sure. And having to look out the window and see where she died is even tougher........

Thanks again for taking the time to write.......it helps more than you know..........

Hugs, Radgirl

"Staring at an empty yard and chair, etc. is NOT helping, for sure. And having to look out the window and see where she died is even tougher......."


Hi, Radgirl, I can truly relate to how you're feeling. Having those constant visual reminders do prolong the deep grief and pain of loss. I hope in time when you look at your yard or other places in your home you will be able to enjoy your precious memories of your beloved Magic - - but this takes time and cannot be rushed. Unfortunately there is no "fast forward" through this grief journey. That is why you need to do whatever you need to help find comfort during this very painful time.

Radgirl, I hope you and your daughter have a wonderful afternoon with friends. Please know you're in my thoughts and prayers, Radgirl, and look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

Dear Radgirl,

The visual reminders can intensify the deep grief. Please be gentle with yourself at this time. I totally understand the loneliness.

Also, know that anyone who expects you to forget about an animal companion in a matter of days, has never experienced the true joy that a furchild can bring. They have missed a precious bond in their life.

One day at a time for now.
With peace and healing thoughts,
Juturna

Oh radgirl,

Forget about what society says? When have they been right? if you are truuly loved by a fur baby, and truly loved that fur baby, you WILL feel crushed by his or her departure from this life. I "lost" my beautiful 12 year old chocolate lab Gretta on 10 April.) Are we expected to "get over it" in two days when we lose a human friend? Or even when we have, say, a house fire? Or a car accident - even a fender-bender? And that's all STUFF! No, you are definitely NOT a failure. You are a tremendous success. You grieve now becasue you loved so much. Please don't take on goofy attitudes from "them." Starting with the ever so irresponsible baby-sitter. Hope she took better care of and paid more attention to you DAUGHTER!

You are yourself and your furbaby was herself. And you two shared a love that no one else can know. The emptiness, the longing, the just plain grief - missing them, wanting them back - is real. People who understand that - like the people on this site - know what it's like because we're all going through it. Let's lift each other up, share a little warmth and support when it's needed and keep our minds on the fact, yes fact, that our babies have only left us in body. As my wonderful vet said, "She's in a safe place now." And forget about being embarrassed for crying. Just typing my vet's words have made me cry.

we WILL make it and we WILL be reunited some day in that safe place. Take care, Rad Girl. We're with you all the way.

Gretta's mom