Let's Introduce Ourselves Options

[wchamilton]

After all of the support, sympathy and help you all have given me the past several days I thought I'd pop in here and actually introduce myself.

*ahem*

My name is William Clay Hamilton, but I go by Clay. I'm 38 years old and live in Chenango Forks, New York, and I work at a hospital here doing technical support. I'm married and have been with my wife since we were in high school, which is going on 21 years. We have an 18-year old son who's about to start his third semester of college.

We've always had animals. We have two lab huskies (we call them purebred Huskadors) named Miya and Takoda, and until this past Sunday we had a Doberman/Shepard/?? mix named Winston (RIP). We also have two black cats named Angel and Nala, but they literally are so identical looking that you can't tell them apart.

In our spare time my wife and I are avid video game players and we like to watch movies and are avid readers. I also play a bit of bass guitar and fancy myself to be an amateur photographer... I'm also a huge military aviation nerd; my wife and I took a weekend trip to Washington DC in May to see The Blue Angels.

Here's a picture of us that was taken last year at Disneyland.



And here's a sample of some of the pictures I took at the airshow in May::

[advocate]

Leejay and Moon Beam, I can't thank you enough for your kind words and support. We had our memorial this morning. Angelo seems a tad bit frightened, or angry. I think it is because I have moved Pood's things around, like Pood's big fluffy blanket that was on the couch. I feel just terrible because I did not show him her body after she died. The night I left with her in the carrier, she was unconscious, and Angelo did some inspection of Pood before I left with her. But I don't know if he knows that she is dead and won't come back. Sometimes it appears as if he is looking for her as he meanders through my apartment smelling for her. It makes me feel so terrible. It all happened so fast, and I did not know that I was suppose to bring her body home before cremation. I considered it later after I Googled about it, but they freeze the body before cremation, and I didn't think it would be a good idea to bring her frozen body home once I found out about it. Do you think he knows she is not coming back and that she died? Or is he going to continue to look for her and hold some resentment toward me because I took her away? They were together for 13 years. She was dominant, and he was always so submissive and intimidated when she went into fits, like if another cat walked by outside the patio, Pood would throw a fit and take it out on Angelo for some reason. But he always forgave her. Sometimes I think he enjoys his new dominance, but mourns at the same time. Is there anything I can do to help with this situation? I feel so powerless. I have been reading up on cat body language and we have been sending lots of eye kisses lately. I am giving Angelo lots of treats and special attention. Is that all I can do?