Dear All,

Trevor and I would like to take this time to THANK each and every one of you - those we've come to know and those who check in on us - for your love and support and understanding during this most difficult first year of physical separation. It has been awful, sad, sadder still, challenging and has taught us both so very much.

We had a beautiful tiny ceremony at Trevor's grave yesterday afternoon. His daddy and Grandmom and I put flowers and lots of doggies at his grave. We then read poety composed by my sister and my good friend, LoveMyMickey and then I read the letter that I posted last night. I had them laminated and they are with the doggies at the cemetery. It was perfect.

At this time, I think it more appropriate to continue my love letters to Trevor in a different section of this same site. We will be unencumbered from any protocol-type judgements and leave more space for those in the throes (sp) of their grief. I'm not saying that I am past that point yet, but I, actually we, think it is time to move. So look for us in, I think it is called, the Memorials/Eulogies section. We'll be there!

TREVOR & I LOVE YOU!
XOBobbieXO

Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing, and your and your beloved Trevor's first year angel-versary. The ceremony sounds beautiful. Contrary to what some literature has written about grieving, the grief journey is not an exact science. The commonly referred to 5-stages of grief do not happen in consecutive order, and very seldom are all 5-stages ever successfully achieved as described in the literature. This is not to say that what is written in these volumes of grief literature cannot be helpful. However, we are formed and created as emotional beings - - not programmed robots. And as emotional beings grieving the physical absence of a loved one - - whatever the life form - - is an individual journey that can only be traveled in our way and in our time. It is also affected by other experiences we have had in our life, what is happening at the moment, and the events as they evolve during our grief adjustment journey.

Bobbie, you are a very courageous woman who has endured through many painful and stressful experiences. And because of this you gave your beloved Trevor the best loving care no one else on this earth could give him. You took him into your heart and home at a time in his life when he was evaluated as "unsalvagable." You gave him love, devotion, and caring, and because of your tenderness, you gave his heart and soul the chance to soar above the confines of his physical body - - you set his heart and spirit free to soak up your enduring love for him. The Scripture encourages us never to turn away a stranger for if we do we may forfeit the opportunity to offer aid and assistance to an angel. Your beloved Trevor IS an angel - - both when he shared his earthly journey with you and now in the loving arms of our Father God Creator. He touched your heart in a way that no other being has before him - - or will through the rest of your earthly journey. You are blessed, my friend, with the treasure of the most wonderful gift God can give to us through the precious companions He brings into our lives - - the gift of knowing eternal love.

May this gift give you comfort now as you travel yet another difficult journey. Know that your beloved Trevor is by your side comforting you as you comforted him whatever course your journey may take. And please know that each of us are here for you, too.

I hope today is treating you, Stan, Dreamer, Kelley, and all your family kindly, Bobbie. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, that I look forward to knowing how you're doing, and to sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Trevor.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

So will we.

Gretta, Rufus, Aunt Jeanne

My Dear Bobbie,

I also thank you for sharing Trevor's beautiful one year anniversary ceremony with us. It was an honor and privilege to write a poem for Trevor and I am deeply honored that you read it at the ceremony along with the others.

I copied Trevor's life lessons and will try my best to live by them. Trevor was/is a blessing to those who love him, whether they met him or not.

Bobbie, as you go through your trying times, you will be in my thoughts and prayers. I feel like you will be okay....I love you, my friend.


May God Bless and Comfort You Always,

LoveMyMickey

Look forward to reading your posts again