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19 Jul 2009
I'll be flipping through the channels on TV and come across a movie I haven't seen in awhile; or I'll pick up a book I haven't read in awhile; or I'll find an article of clothing in my closet that I haven't worn in awhile. And I'll think to myself, 'The last time I saw this / read this / wore this, Sydney was still alive." It's like everything is a reminder of that happier phase of my life when my baby was still here with me. And instead of smiling at the happy memory that is conjured, I just feel so sad that I'm not in that phase of my life anymore. Just wondering if anyone else experiences this "The last time I did this . . ." phenomenon.

I have been having a lot of trouble with my grief again lately. It will be 12 weeks on Tuesday since my Sydney passed and I hate it. I miss her so much it is killing me still.
2 Jul 2009
It's been just over 9 weeks since my Sydney passed and a few days ago we adopted an 8-week old Siamese kitten. She is just a doll - a total lap cat and cuddler, which is what Sydney was. I just wanted to share my experience since I know others on here have been torn about the decision about whether/when to get another pet after a loss. It was really my husband who initiated the whole thing. When Sydney first passed, I couldn't imagine ever having another pet fill her place in our lives, but my husband really, really wanted another cat, since we were so used to having two.

I didn't think I could ever love another pet the way I love Sydney, and I firmly believe that she and I share a special bond that will never be fully replicated, but it took me about a day to start loving our new little one, Saylor. It's nice to have a new little ray of sunshine running around the house, and I look forward to coming home again each day to see her, which was one of the hardest parts about losing Sydney. She was always there to greet me at the door and spent all night on our laps, so I was constantly aware of her absence when I was home.

All of that being said, having a new kitten has not diminished my love for Sydney, nor my grief over losing her, one bit. My love for Saylor occupies a completely different place in my heart, and my heart still aches for Sydney. Last night as we were laying down to sleep, Saylor curled up on my husband's chest, which is where Sydney slept every night, and I lost it. I started crying hysterically, which I hadn't done in several days. Saylor is wonderful, but I still miss Sydney with every fiber of my being.

So for those of you who feel that getting another pet would be like replacing the one you lost, please know that this is simply not possible. Every pet is irreplaceable and carves out their own little place in our hearts. I do, however, recommend waiting until the grief is no longer constantly unbearable. I say constantly because for me, it still feels unbearable at times, but not every second of the day. I knew I wouldn't have been able to open my heart right away, and I'm glad we waited a couple of months.

Peace to you all.
14 Jun 2009
Hi everyone. I just started reading this book by renowned psychic Sylvia Browne and it has brought me a great deal of peace. I am now a true believer that animals (and humans) have souls that exist beyond our physical bodies. It is comforting to know that our animals who have passed haven't really left us, they just exist on a different dimension, and they come to earth periodically to visit us.

It's a really interesting book and this is the first sense of real "relief" I've felt since Sydney's death nearly 7 weeks ago. I am still heartbroken that she is gone and miss her desperately, but this book has helped some. Here is a link to it on Amazon where you can read an excerpt online: http://www.amazon.com/All-Pets-Go-Heaven-S...6254&sr=8-1.
28 May 2009
I've had a few experiences over the past few weeks that have led me to believe that Sydney's spirit was around. Just wondering if anyone else has had experiences like this and would be willing to share them.
24 May 2009
I just had to say it "out loud." I am missing my Sydney so much. It's been nearly a month and I still ache for her. There is some irrational part of me that still thinks this is all a bad dream and I'm going to wake up and find her right next to me, alive and well. It still doesn't seem real. Then the reality hits and it devastates me, over and over.
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