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Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Sep 25 2012, 10:28 AM

We reluctantly agreed when my son, in college and still living at home, spoke of getting a dog, and not just any dog but, of all things, an English bulldog. We didn't think he was serious and soon forgot about it. Then, one day our lives changed when son showed up with the prettiest little white bulldog puppy, only three months old and already 16 lbs.! Son named him Jake and, of course, I became Jake's Grandpa. He soon took over the house and became our main focus. We all helped care for him and took him nearly everywhere. He was a most loving, gentle creature and stole our hearts completely. In time, Jake grew to 60 lbs., and was the picture of strength and health. Son got busier with school, work and a social life, and eventually I wound up spending more time with Jake than he did. Jake and I bonded and became soulmates. I fed him three times a day, took him for walks, to the park and to the veterinarian when necessary. A couple of years ago, I moved my office to a room in our house and Jake became my constant companion. While still very much a family dog, loved by us all and loving us all, he gravitated toward me, spending much of his time with me in the office. Then, one day in April 2011, not long after Jake's 6th birthday, he was lying under my desk when I noticed a small bump on the bottom of his left front paw. We saw the vet the next day and, two days later, she removed the bump and had it evaluated. We were crushed to learn that it was mast cell tumor, grade 3, a form of canine cancer which is almost always fatal, usually within 6 months to a year. We immediately began seeing an oncologist and put Jake on chemotherapy. He was tough and tolerated the side effects well, but after nearly a year, the tumor returned. We removed it again and prayed for the best, but eventually the mast cell spread to Jake's lymph gland. Although we had spared no effort or expense and did everything that we possibly could have done for Jake, our loving companion weakened quickly. On the morning of July 14, 2012, my greatest fear came to pass and we knew it was time to end his suffering. We called his kind and caring veterinarians and, with great difficulty, my wife, my son and I drove Jake to their office for the last time. We were with him when he peacefully took his last breath on this earth. Since then, life has been a struggle. I just can't get that sweet boy out of my mind and don't really want to. We have his ashes and his two favorite toys in the living room, his bed is still on the floor in its same place and his other toys are still here too. We can't even bear to empty his treat jar. I do feel like his spirit is with us, but miss him terribly every single day. I thank the Good Lord for our time together, but feel like I'll never be the same without him. No other dog could ever take his place. I don't even want another dog, I only want my Jakey back.

Posted by: LoveMyMickey Sep 25 2012, 06:28 PM

Dear Jake's Grandpa,

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious granddog, Jake. He is so cute. I know what you mean about not wanting another dog. Our Mickey passed away 19 months ago and we still have one of his beds in our bedroom with toys. If I put everything away right now, I would feel like I am losing him all over again.

Again I'm sorry for your and your son's loss of Jake. I hope soon you can look back and smile at the cute and funny things he did. You all are in my thoughts and prayers....God bless,


Posted by: Bobbie Sep 25 2012, 09:43 PM

Dear Jake's Grandpa,

I am so very sorry for your loss of Jake, the greatest of granddogs. Your words ring so true of the love the two of you shared while Jake was physically on this earth and continues to this day in the more Spirit realm. No, you will never be the same again, even if you would want that, because Jake helped shape you into the good person you are today. I'm sure that is one of Jake's proudest legacies: his Grandpa. Becoming a dog's soulmate is very, very special. My sister calls them Spirit Dogs, for their spirit (or soul) becomes one with your own and that never changes. See, Jake's Grandpa, Jake is still very much with you in a new and different way. Jake is right next to your heart, feeling every beat and loving its rhythm. Jake is with you always, wherever you go, wherever you are, you are not alone.

I know that it feels so lonely because of the familiarity of Jake's physical presence and actions and your response to them. That is so very difficult to deal with. Please don't feel like you have to change anything or anyone. Because you don't. Jake will gently guide you along this grief journey that is one of the hardest, bumpiest roads we'll ever walk. My Trevor has been gone for 14 months and I miss him more each day. He was the one dog, of the 8 I've lived with in my adult life, that has had the greatest effect on my life. I still have many things up and around of Trevor's that just may stay in place forever. Although I have gotten two "new" rescue Cocker Spaniels, one dog NEVER replaces another and should never be expected to do so.

Jake's Grandpa, please be kind to yourself and know that you do not have to do any of the "correct" things our society tells you to do when grieving. Each loss is unique and totally personal. Take all the time you need to remember, reflect, grieve, and thank Jake for coming into your life. Time. That, to me, is the greatest healer of all and it goes at only one speed.......your own. So, don't should on yourself when coming to Jake and his memory. Take all the time you need and do things that YOU want to do to honor Jake's life and your own. (Heck, I left my second dog's bed in the hallway for over a year before I could even THINK of moving it. I also kept water in their water bowl - changing it every day - for over 6 months after Rudy passed away.)

Jake sounds like quite a fella. When you feel ready, I know many of us on this site would love to hear more about him. And I can assure you that Jake has already made hundreds of friends in the Perfect World by now. Trevor and Mickey among the first. THANK YOU for sharing a bit of Jake's life with us today. You never need to worry about being alone - we are here 24/7 to listen, cry, laugh, sigh, understand, and support you when you need it the most. You won't find that on most other sites - not like here.

So, Jake's Grandpa, I'm going to say Good Night to you and to my Trevor. I hope you have a peace-filled night and I look forward to hearing from you again.

Bobbie (Trevor's mom)

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Sep 27 2012, 07:06 AM

Thank you so much for your kind words, LoveMyMickey and Bobbie. They are a comfort, especially today; it's my 63rd birthday, but I'm not feeling happy, just sorrowful at the loss of Jake and still missing him terribly. Thanks again for your kindness, and I hope that Jake and I can one day cross the Rainbow Bridge with both of you and your beloved Mickey and Trevor.

Posted by: missingmygranny Sep 27 2012, 06:14 PM

Have you considered another puppy? I know it seems soon and it isn't to replace Jake but there is something about having a pet to care for and cherish that helps with the loss. YOu were obviously a wonderful and loving grandfather to him and remember that every day that you had with him was a blessing. So very sorry for the loss of your Jake!

Posted by: moon_beam Sep 28 2012, 10:02 AM

Hi, Jake's Grandpa, please permit me to add my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Jake. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions at great sacrifice to ourselves so that they can be restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.

Jake, LoveMyMickey and Bobbie have so comfortingly shared many things that are in my heart as well, so please read their responses and know that my thoughts are also expressed with theirs.

As Bobbie has shared with you, one of the many painful adjustments we are faced with during our grief adjustment journey is coping with the physical absence of our beloved companions. We live in a physically oriented world governed by the 5 senses of taste, touch, sound, smell, and sight. Every time our companions touch us, rub up against, we touch them, they kiss us, they are literally imprinting themselves on us so that they can identify us out of all the millions of other people on this planet. When they precede us to the angels, our physical bodies literally go through a physical withdrawal from this imprinting, and this is one of the many reasons why this grief journey is so very painful - - both emotionally and physically. You may find it helpful to hold one of your beloved Jake's toys or blankets or collar - - something that belongs only to him - - when the emptiness of not being able to hold him and touch him is overwhelming. No, it isn't the same as holding and touching his physical body - - but it will help bridge the emptiness.

As for embracing a new companion into your heart and life, - - this is strictly a very personal decision. Some people adopt quickly after a loss because a new life to care for helps them cope with their deep sorrow. Some people wait until their deep sorrow has eased and they feel they are ready to embrace a new companion. Some people do foster and rescue care until the homeless waifs are able to find a new Forever Home. Some people do "nanny sitting" for precious companions for family member and friends. And some people - - for whatever reason - - never adopt another companion. Only YOU know what is best for you, Jake's Grandpa. Whatever YOU decide - - at any point in time - - is the RIGHT decision for YOU.

I know there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of sorrow that is in your heart. I can only hope the words I share with you will offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey - - with the comfort of knowing that the love bond you and your beloved Jake share is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved Jake's sweet Living Spirit is forever a heartbeat close to you.

Thank you so much for sharing your beloved Jake with us, Jake's Grandpa, and thank you so much for sharing his sweet picture with us. Please know you are among friends here who truly do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Jake's Grandpa, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Oct 1 2012, 12:38 AM

To a friend as we look into the distance to catch a glimps of are friend as if we see them laying in there bed
as time slows we reach for a moment that we share with just 1 special friend as we hold there paw again
to look them in the eye as they wish us there final goodbye to let us know we did what was right as we hold
are heart against are faith as we kneel and wait.

Iam not sure what to say next other then i know how heavy your heart is as you look out the window
to see if your friend is waiting to come inside.....As we still fill the water dish in hopes they might sit by are side
we call there name and see each blade of grass dance beneath the sun that shines as we kneel to speak are words of past
to tell a friend how much we care and how much we hold them intime of need as we put are thoughts behind the ones
that need are help for this day we shine for a friend as we hold them tight and wish them well..

As we thank them for all the special times as they teach us we try and form words as we start to part are ways
we hold them with Honor as we kiss them and say goodnight as we save a place beside are Heart where they
sleep as covers seem to shrink and echos of Snoring giants ring through the Halls of time as we wake to see there
favorite towel that covers are pillow case as iam and will always be at your side as you try and move but my friend
it is night and i have pinned you in tight as know one can move or dare wake me while i sleep.. As sound comes from within;
Well lets just say the paint in the main bedroom still needs a fresh coat of paint;

As i wake from someone that snors like a giant i think to myself Someone needs to sleep on the couch;<Grandpas Mom>;
so i can get some much needed beauty sleep;Now my morning Breakfest as i kiss my dad to say......
as Mourning light fades and holds a special place we kneel and wait for are friends as Time Inprints over are Hearts
that we have given to are friend...As Echos of time we hear each Paw print that walks in are mind.

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 1 2012, 08:59 AM

To all my friends here, I thank you sincerely for the comfort and the solace that you have given me in this difficult time of my life. As you yourselves know all too well, nothing can erase my grief. However, you have helped soothe the deep aching I feel in my heart at the loss of sweet Jakey, for which I am most grateful to you. May we all be reunited with our loving and sorely missed companions one day at the Rainbow Bridge. I look forward to seeing you all, and your precious ones, there.

Posted by: Bobbie Oct 1 2012, 09:14 AM

Dear Jake's Grandpa,

Please feel free to stop here any and every time you feel like it. The memories of our loved companions NEVER fades and, many times, needs to be told so that others can share some of the love you have for Jake.

Call on me, any time, day or night. I'm ready to listen, read, cry, laugh, sigh and even just sit...........

Have a wonder-filled day of good memories of Mr. Jake!!

Trevor's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 1 2012, 01:31 PM

Thanks, Bobbie, for your kindness. My best to you.

Posted by: moon_beam Oct 1 2012, 03:16 PM

Hi, Jake's Grandpa, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Please know there are no strangers here - - for although we will probably never physically meet one another on this side of eternity we are united in a friendship that binds us together - - for it is our love of our beloved companions that brings us here and helps us forge enduring friendships. When we see each other in heaven's perfect garden there will be no need for introductions - - for we will already know each other.

Until then, Jake's Grandpa, please know we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. There are no expiration dates here - - you are always welcome to come share your beloved Jake with us.

I hope today is treating you kindly, Jake's Grandpa, and that you will have a very peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Jake's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing, and sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Jake.

Peace and blessings,

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 1 2012, 04:27 PM

moon_beam, your kind words are balm for my broken heart. Many thanks and my best to you.

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 14 2012, 03:38 PM

Three months ago this very day we had to put down our precious Jake. I miss you so, Jakie.

Posted by: Bobbie Oct 14 2012, 08:15 PM

Dear Jake's Grandpa,

I am so sorry that these days have to come and go all the time. You were the BEST of Grandpas and Jake knew that every minute. Please accept my sympathy and love on this 3 month Angelversary.

Blessings to you and Jake...............................
Trevor's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 15 2012, 07:03 AM

Thank you, Bobbie. My heart is aching today.

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Oct 21 2012, 10:43 PM

Forgive me JG i thought you might enjoy this ..

Poem BaggyBulldogs

Now i lay me down to sleep;
The king-size bed is soft and deep.
I sleep right in the center groove
My human being can hardly move!

I've trapped his legs, He;s tucked in tight
And here is where I pass the night
No one disturbs me or dares intrude
Till morning comes and "I want food!"

I sneak up slowly to begin
my nibbles on my humans chin.
He wakes up quickly,
I have sharp teeth-
I'm a puppy,don't you see..
For the morning's here
and it's time to play
I always seem to get my way.

So thank you Lord for giving me
This Human person that i see.
The one who hugs and holds me tight
And shares his bed with me at night!

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 22 2012, 08:34 AM

Thank you, My Doxie and Me. I'm feeling the pain again today and that poem cheered me up. It's funny and brings back many wonderful memories. My best to you, my friend.

Posted by: missingmygranny Oct 22 2012, 11:28 AM

I am a mom to six - three beautiful children and three beautiful labs. Each of them holds a special place in my heart and all are unique and wonderful parts of my life. Our oldest lab, Harley, has failing health and I know her months are numbered. I will be crushed when the time comes as we got her when our family and our marriage was falling apart and she was part of what brought us back together. The love from a pet is unconditional and that's part of what makes being a pet owner something special and so heartbreaking when the time comes. My thoughts are with you!!

Posted by: Bobbie Oct 22 2012, 07:06 PM

Dear Jake's Grandpa,

Oh, that has such a beautiful sound to it: "Jake's Grandpa". Most of us don't think about out baby's grandpas, but yours did and it is wonderful!

How are you doing right now? It's been close to 4 months? Right now I have trouble remembering much of anything, but I keep trying. Like you, I always remember the important stuff, like the last time Jake got in "trouble" and how he got out of it. Grandpa, you are doing a marvelous job handling your grief journey. It NEVER is easy, even though some days seem that way. Just keep Jake in your memories and things will work out as they should. None of us knows what that "should be" is for us, although we have ideas. Mr. Time will help work things out.

I never thought I would be able to write these words, after Trevor died, but here I am, 15 months later, remembering and feeling every single thing about that "day", but in a way that has some comfort for me. After all, Trevor is safe. He is pain free. He can see again. He can run and run and run. He can eat all that he wants. He had a million friends now. These type of thoughts push to the forefront of memories now and I am so grateful for that. It will happen for you, too, but you must give Time its due. Don't look for the changes. They will come and surprise you. That's the best part.

I must go and write to Trevor now. Jake's Grandpa.......have a blessed night.

Trevor's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 25 2012, 07:13 AM

Thank you, missingmygranny and Bobbie, for your kind thoughts and well wishes. It has been exactly 3 months, 1 week and 4 days since we lost Jake, and I miss him every day. Time is helping some, and the thought that we will one day be reunited. I hope that someday Jake and I can meet you at the Rainbow Bridge with your precious Harley and Trevor. Best to you both.

Posted by: Bobbie Oct 25 2012, 04:27 PM

Dear Jake's Grandpa,

Now THAT is a promise from Trevor and me to meet you guys ASAP - but you will also have to meet Trevor's brothers: Crocker Spaniel, Birney, Kelly, Jasper,and Rudy. All Cocker Spaniels. Hope you're up to it because they are all lovers!

Have a blessed, safe weekend!


PS: HI JAKE!!! wub.gif

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 26 2012, 09:43 AM

You're on, Bobbie. It'll be a Rainbow Bridge Puppy Party!

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Dec 14 2012, 02:54 AM

Today it has been exactly 5 months since we lost our precious Jake, and time is not healing the wound. I am still grieving every single day and miss him terribly. Jake and I were so close that I don't think I'll ever get over losing him. His absence cuts like a knife. I hope and pray that I may someday be with him again. Grandpa loves you, sweet boy!

Posted by: Bobbie Dec 14 2012, 07:14 AM

Dear, dear Jae's Grandpa,

Oh, how anniversaries can cut us to the quick, can't they? Trevor and I are saying special prayers for you today and Trevor will pay special attention to Jake.

Grandpa, you are really just at the beginning of what can be a very long grief journey. I'm not saying this to discourage you, but rather assure you that your grief and suffering, at 5 months, is so very normal. Isn't that too wierd to call suffering normal? Be at peace with the fact that you have so many good memories and, I promise you, the good memories will overtake the not-so-good ones. When? I don't know because for each of us time heals at the rate that is BEST for us. We don't want to be rushed along and we don't want to have things drag out forever. That is too painful. But Father Time knows exactly what is best for you and Jake.

Please give yourself a break, too. Not from the memories or anything of Jake's, but please take the time to allow Jake to send you messages of what a good and loving Grandpa you are. Yes, you are still loving Mr. Jake in your special way and he feels that all the time because his Spirit is in you, right next to your heart. So every beat of your heart sends a little message telling Jake how much you will always love him, including this very moment. See? You don't even have to say anything and Jake already knows what you are thinking and feeling.

Today is Tribute Day for Jake. Trevor, Dreamer, Kelley, Birney, Crocker, Jasper, Kelly and Rudy (and Spot & Squirt) salute Mr. Jake and you, Grandpa. Not only for what you did together here on this planet, but what you continue to have/do every day to come! Better warn Jake about the swarm of Cockers coming his way! (all except for Dreamer nad Kelley who are still here with me)

Peace be with you, Grandpa!
Trevor's Mom (Bobbie)

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Dec 14 2012, 08:14 AM

Bobbie, thank you so very much for your kind and soothing thoughts. I know that you are dealing with the loss of your own dear Trevor, and with your health issues, yet you take the time to comfort all of us here. You are truly a special person. May the Lord be with you.

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Dec 14 2012, 06:33 PM

Running Dreams by Bob Morrow April 16th 2002

I brought you home inside of my coat; it was the first time you found a place close to my heart,as
you drift off to puppy dreams.

We made our pack as time went by, both learning to read the moods and rules of kindred souls.
Our friendship a quilt of life with patterns and yet no seams.

In those sunrises of each fall we would walk through thick & thin,too reach day's end,to eat,to
sleep, to chase the things of that another morning mist may bring. With only the hope that we
would rise to that frosty mist, and begin again.

Now i stand at waters edge in patches of briars and bramble, wishing that my old friend could
walk with me on one last day, Oh the places that we could ramble.

Alas my friend those days on earth for us are forever gone, but i promise you that when my time
comes we will once again hunt hard and long. No birds that fly will escape our eyes and my shot
will always be true This much i owe to you...

Forgive me if i lay upon your pillow and remember all the times we had, the pages of those
memories would fill so many reams. That you will find me not just walking with you, but running
with you in your dreams.

Bob Morrow April 16th 2002

Jake's Grandpa please forgive me for my words i thought i would share this poem of
a man that lost his dog..Yes his Dog yet at the end this Dog Became his best friend
with each breath takin he mourns the lose of his Beloved..Are friends seem to lead the
trail of life yet they can only show us a short distance then we must find are way....

Jake's Grandpa all great men share a common bond as a special Friend that sits by are side
that speaks in silence only we can....

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Dec 16 2012, 12:45 PM

That was beautiful, My Doxie and Me, and comforting. Yes, all of us here share a common bond, of love and loss of our faithful companions. Thank you for helping me to deal with my loss.

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Dec 25 2012, 01:10 PM

Hi Jake's grandpa

I'm just stopping by to say hello to you on a day when everybody else is celebrating but your heart is heavy. So is mine. We're partners in that.
Blessed day and know the Jake loves you forever.

Gretta's mom

Posted by: Bobbie Dec 25 2012, 10:21 PM

Dear Jake's Grandpa,

I do want to wish you a Merry Christmas only because I KNOW that Jake is having one at the same time (up in Heaven). The only difference is that it is one heck of a birthday party in Heaven. Can you imagine the candles? And every dog, cat, mouse, bunny, ferret, every animal gets to eat a huge slice of cake!

Yes, this is such a hard time of the year for those of us who have lost our best and most loved companions. And by the time you read this it will probably by 12/26/12 and the worst is behind for this year. But it still is painful and my gift to you is a prayer that peace will eventually fill your heart and all your memories of Jake will be the good ones, those that make you smile and even laugh. They WILL come and they'll be a special gift - just for you!

Blessed Christmas, Grandpa!

Trevor's mom, Bobbie

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Dec 26 2012, 08:17 AM

Thanks, Gretta's Mom and Bobbie, for your kind thoughts. Yes, yesterday was difficult for me, as I know it was for you. Today isn't so good either, but nice poeple like you make it a little easier. Thanks again and love ya!

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Dec 30 2012, 09:39 AM

Hi Jake's grandpa!

Just stopping in to see how you are doing and to wish you the best day possible. Jake is in the perfect World, bragging up a storm about the best Grandpa in the world. I know this because Gretta, my beautiful chocolate lab, the kindest choco on earth, is in the audience.

Jake is SO blessed to have a grandpa like you. Someday the tears will no longer flow 24 hours a day. But they will never stop until you and Jake are reunited.

Take care,

Gretta's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Dec 30 2012, 12:01 PM

Thank you, Gretta's Mom. It's comforting to think that Jake is in the perfect world, happy and healthy again, and waiting for me at the Rainbow Bridge in the good company of your beloved Gretta. As for a day without tears for him, well I just don't know about that. My best to you and Bobbie.

Posted by: Bobbie Dec 31 2012, 03:54 PM

Happy New Year Jake's Grandpa!

I know that this is NOT a happy new year for you by any means. But I wanted to add my voice to my sister's message about Jake. He has quite an audience in Heaven - Gretta, Trevor, Mickey, Peanut, Jenna, Rudy, Jasper, Birney, Kelly, Crocker, Spot,Squirt, Hermy and the list goes on and on.

Jake is also sending you special graces today to help you bring in 2013. You ARE such a special grandpa and everyone in Heaven knows that 10 times over from what Jake has been saying. Trust me, Trevor tells me everything in my heart.

As for the tears, let them come. Don't even worry about them slowing down at this point. You are far too new on your grief journey to even think that slowing down will happen. But again, my sister (my OLDER sister) is right: when you least expect it you will notice a gentle decrease (not stoppage) in the amount of grief tears that flow every day. That's because Jake is catching up to licking them all away and he is also filling that huge hole in your heart with more and more of his love.

Just a few words from a doggie-lover that STILL cries over Trevor, while holding onto her two current rescue doggies.

Love you!

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jan 2 2013, 07:50 AM

Happy New Year. Jake's grandpa

Yes. Bobbie is right ... she's still dripping tears for Trevor and I'm still dripping tears for Gretta - especially when I write on this site. When the being who holds a part of your heart goes to another world where we humans can't see or hear or (the worst) pet and cuddle with him or her, there IS a hole in your heart. I used to think that eventually (a long eventually) it would be filled with happy memories but I've come to realize that it won't ever be completely filled this side of heaven. Part of you heart has preceded you there and there is always a little wind whistling through the empty part.

I keep looking at Jake's picture and thinking that he has such a wonderful grandpa and it bringgs a big smile to my face. Did he know how to talk? He looks like he could. And I can just hear his voice ... deep and growly but ALWAYS loving. He must have provided lots of humoous moments - like my black lab-Newfie, Rufus.

We're always here for you, Jake grandpa. You're special to us. Long ago in a time of huge crisis, my sister Bobbie, her husband Stan and I were fighting a terrible problem and we decided to be the three musketeers. Since then we've added a FEW more special special friends to our Musketeer band. I think we're up to five now. I'd like to invite you to join our Musketeers. One for all and all for one!! Now we can be double-Musketeers!

Have the best day possible. Know that Jake is romping (yeah, he CAN romp, as big as he is, in the perfect World) in the sunshine and sleeping in the shade.


Gretta's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jan 3 2013, 08:04 AM

Thanks guys, as always, for your comforting words and thoughts, and a Happy New Year to you both. Yes, there will always be a hole in my heart left by Jakey's untimely departure and you're right, it won't ever be filled in this world. But I have hope for the next one and appreciate your helping me keep that hope strong. My best to you.

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jan 6 2013, 01:25 PM

Oh Jake's grandpa, you're such an exceptional person. I'll bet there hasn't ever been a grandpa to write here on Lightning Strike. Watch for little signals that Jake is going to send you (and you really have to watch because they are VERY subtle) that he is OK and he sends his love. Bobbie's Trevor sends butterflies her way. Gretta only sent me one - the first few days after her passing I was so sad I slept on her dog bed (it's a big orthopedic one) and once, in the moment between waking and sleeping I saw not her but a beautiful Golden Retriever between me and her dog dishes across the dining room. Just for about a tenth of a second. Then I knew she had made it over and was OK.

Have the best day you can and know that we are with you and thinking about you and Jake all the time.

Gretta's mom (Jeanne)

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jan 7 2013, 09:15 AM

Thanks. I would love to have a signal from Jake.

Posted by: Bobbie Jan 8 2013, 07:41 AM

Good Morning, Jake's Grandpa,

One sure sign, in the warmer months, are BUTTERFLIES!!! I was told about this last summer by LoveMyMickey and ever since that day managed to see at least one butterfly every day until it got too cold here. What a wonderful "Hello. I Love You!" from my precious one(s) (sometimes I'd see more than one.),
I even have a book on butterflies now. It's such a joy to see them flit around and be able to say, "Hi Trevor! Thanks for stopping by and checking on mommy1" Bet you can have th same thing. I KNOW you can - Jake will send his signals in the Spring and the rest he is already sending. We just aren't always "in tune" with them at first. Sometimes we have to look kind of hard to recognize them and then we go, "Of course! That's from Jake!"

Wishing you a good day and many, many comforting signals!


Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jan 10 2013, 08:11 AM

Hi Bobbie, I hope that you are doing well and feeling better these days. Thanks for the encouragement. I will look for signs from Jake and hope there are many butterflies flitting around our back yard this spring! Best regards.

Posted by: Bobbie Jan 10 2013, 10:37 AM

Hi Grandpa!!!!

Glad the butterflies helped. I forgot to mention that they don't always have to be living ones. One day I was at a cancer support center and had to go potty. Well, the bathroom wallpaper was nothing but the most beautiful butterflies of all shapes, sizes and colors! I didn't want to leave because I felt completely surrounded by LOVE, COMFORT and my boys! I must ask them where they got that wall paper! I was surprised as ever when I walked in and it was a small bathroom, so I almost felt like I was being hugged by butterflies! I now, a bathroom is not the most "ahhhh" type of room, but I don't care because that good feeling still comes up now and then.

Also, other people may recognize signs from Jake that you don't. That is also so very helpful. I know my sister, LoveMyMickey and My Doxie have all told me after the fact (OH! and Hermy's mommy) and then I go "Oh, yeah! They are right!" AND I have never seen any of my boys in dreams, etc. Seems, they all know I have another live doggie to take care of me OR they are waiting for one, last incredible dream! So do not worry (as I do all the time) that what others see, hear, feel, etc. is not happening with you and Jake. You two have your OWN signals and they will occur over time and to no one else.

You are doing super, Jake's Grandpa and I KNOW how proud Jake is of you!

Love you!
Bobbie (Trevor's mommy)

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Jan 11 2013, 11:51 PM


Posted on November 28,2012 by Baggybulldogs

I am your dog, and i have a little something I'd like to whisper in your ear. I know
That you humans lead busy lives. Some have to work, some have chidren to raise. It
always seems like you are running here and there, often much to fast, often never
noticing the truly grand things in life. Look down at me now, while you sit there at
your computer. See the way my dark brown eyes look at yours? They are slightly
cloudy now. That comes with age. The gray hairs are beginning to ring my soft

You smile at me; I see love in your eyes. What do you see in mine? Do you see a spirit?
A soul inside, who loves you as no other could in the world? A spirit would
forgive all trespasses of prior wrong doing for just a simple moment of your time...
That is all I ask. To slow down, if even for a moment to be with me.

So many times you have been saddened by the words you read on that screen, Of
another of my kind, passing. Sometimes we die young and oh so quickly, sometimes
suddenly it wrenches your Heart out of your throat. Sometimes, we age so slowly
before your eyes that you may not even seem to know until the very end;..when we look
at you with grizzeled muzzles and clouded eyes. Still the love is always there,
even when we must take that long sleep, to run free in a distant land.

I may not be here tomorrow; I may not be here next week. Someday you will shed the
water from your eyes that humans have when deep grief fills their soul, and you will
be angry at yourself that you did not have just "One more day" with me. Because I love
you so, your sorrow touches my spirt and grieves me.

So come, sit down here next to me on the floor, and look deep into my eyes. what do
you see? If you look hard and deep enough we will talk, you and I, heart to heart.
Come to me not as "alpha" or as "Trainer" or even " Mom or Dad", come to me as a
living soul and stroke my fur and let us look deep into one another's eyes, and talk. I
may tell you something about the fun of chasing a tennis ball, or I may tell you
something profound about myself or even life in general.

You decided to have me in your life because you wanted a soul to share such things
with. Someone very different from you, and here I am a dog, but Iam alive. I feel
emotion, I feel physical senses, and i can revel in the differences of our spirits and
soul. I do not think of you as a "Dog on two feet"- I know what you are. You are
human, in all your quirkiness, and I love you still.

Now, come sit with me, on the floor. Enter my world, and let time slow down if only
for a moment. Look deep into my eyes, and whisper to my ears. Speak with your
heart, with your joy and I will know your true self.

Author unknown

Mr.G forgive me.... So many levels of thought in life and after..So much may slip by
with hidden words we glance over, after the lose of my friend i find myself writing it's like
forming words with your heart because i can no longer share them with... This gives me
a greater understanding of how much friendship we have and a form of respect for the
ones that speak with there eyes.

It's a reflection of are selfs and who we are...And how much we form a connection
as we understand without speech Jake touched your heart and you share his words
you have become the best of friends as he is always searching for you.

Forgive me Mr.G i found this poem it has great truth with heart warming moments, this poem is a look
into a friends mind and to be given a voice, are heart speaks with are friends.. it's difficult to bring
words from the heart.

Wishing you Well

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jan 12 2013, 07:10 AM

You need no forgiveness, My Doxie and Me, only thanks for sharing that beautiful piece with me. Indeed, I saw much of Jake and our relationship in it. He and I were kindred spirits with a bond that can never be broken, as were you and Jenna. I hope that they are keeping each other company until we meet with them again at the bridge. My best to you, friend.

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jan 14 2013, 08:05 AM

It was exactly 6 months ago today that we lost our sweet boy, Jake. I don't cry as much now, but still feel a great sense of loss each and every single day. A guy told me once that Jake had a face only a mother could love. I replied that I must be his mother then, for I loved his face and everything about him. Miss you, big boy!

Posted by: Bobbie Jan 14 2013, 08:15 PM

Special thoughts to you and Jake on this first of many anniversaries. Jake looks like quite a character. We love and miss you, too, Jake!

Trevor's mom

Posted by: LoveMyMickey Jan 15 2013, 07:42 PM


Thinking of you and Jake on your 6 month angelversary. He is so cute. Of course you love that face and everything about him. You'll always feel an emptiness even though the tears will be less.

We love you Jake, and we'll always be here for your loving grandpa. wub.gif


Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jan 16 2013, 07:26 AM

Thanks for being here for me, y'all. Love ya!

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jan 18 2013, 07:07 AM

Good morning Jake's Grandpa!

How are you doing this morning? Just want you to know that Gretta (in the Perfect World, with Jake), Rufus (my black lab-Newfie with the beautiful eyes) and all the people and animals in the Musketeer group are thinking of you and sending you a special set of love rays,

The Musketeers got their start many years ago when my sister was desperately ill. Originally we WERE three: me, my sister and my brother-in-law. Since LS, we've enlarged our circle - if I mentioned names, I'm sure I'd miss someone, but here's and invitation (actually two): one for you into the earthly contingent, and one for Jake into the heavenly contingent. No dues, just support and love.

Bye for now. have the best day possible.

Gretta's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jan 21 2013, 08:15 AM

Gretta'a Mom, I accept the invitation, and Jake does too. Thanks and have a good day today.

Posted by: LoveMyMickey Jan 30 2013, 07:03 PM

Dear Jake'sGrandpa,

How are you? I hope you are feeling better day by day...Thank you and Jake for accepting the invitation to be in the Musketeers. We are all here for each other.

I hope you are doing well and have a blessed evening.....God Bless....


Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Feb 2 2013, 08:51 AM

I'm OK now, LoveMy Micky, after a couple of depressing days of missing my boy Jake quite a bit. Thanks for asking, and I hope that all is well with you.

Does anybody know how Bobbie is doing?

Posted by: LoveMyMickey Feb 2 2013, 06:45 PM

Hi Jake'sGrandpa,

I'm doing okay. I do understand about the depressing and tearful days. I'm glad you're feeling better now.


Hey Jake....Look down on your Grandpa and send him some love and smiles. smile.gif

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Feb 14 2013, 08:19 AM

Thank you, LoveMyMickey, for your kindness. You and the other good folks here are a comfort to me. My best to you, Mugsy, Annie and Mickey.

Posted by: LoveMyMickey Feb 14 2013, 12:47 PM



Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Feb 26 2013, 02:17 PM

LMM, you are such a sweetie! Hope all is well with you.

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Mar 11 2013, 07:08 AM

Jakie, I'm missing you terribly today. I hope you are happy and healthy in the afterlife, and that you are enjoying the company of our furry friends from Love you, sweet boy.

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Mar 11 2013, 06:51 PM

Jake's grandpa

Some days are just plain "missing my friend" days. Lots of wishing takes place on those days. Lots of "if only" and "one more time", often in the same sentence. They're especially hard during rocky times in your earthly life. My eyes are leaking now as i write this. I think we cry as we have loved. Great love, many tears. Then there are many sentences that start with "Someday" and they're all true.

Thank you for caring so much about Jake and about our Musketeer family. One for all and all for one.

For tonight ....

Gretta's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Mar 13 2013, 06:55 AM

Thanks for your kindness and support, Gretta's Mom. You are right - "Great love, many tears."

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Mar 14 2013, 09:49 AM

It was 8 months ago today that we lost you, Jake, and my life will never be the same. You are gone but not forgotten, and I will always hold you close in my heart and mind. Your Grandpa loves you, sweet boy.

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Mar 14 2013, 06:08 PM

To are lost friends..Forgive me for the words i may speak as the night becomes us we can not see..As we have are arms wide open as
We wish not miss a single moment of joy that you share in One Snap shot in life..I kneel for Jake so you have given me strength along
with the Support of LS so let me..If i may speak Humble words of Heartache for a lost friend...What a proud boy stands strong as he
Guards with no unknown shall pass without his blessing.. for he is king as you have given Jake a second chance...So he might shine...And to share
A humans heart so one day..You shall tell a story of a friend that holds greatness within each paw print he may leave behind..

To Jakes friend you have allowed me to see into a Beautiful life you have paved for Jake as he is seen in the distance walking alone wishing to have meaning
to Hold..and Protect the Human only worthy as just one..Kneels with great Hope and Arms Wide open..As i will always stand Guard For a true friend as he
Stand to hold my last....Great men have the many sorrows that pass by..Only one we have to speak as a simple picture allows a life time of Memories to share
with..Strangers so i speak Jakes name..Thank you for sharing...

Now for the picture and i thank you again Looks to me a Mustang I see the 3 tail lights;Now if it's the 5.0 after 2011 well that many upgrades starting with the..Well you already know;..
Now who drives this tiny car with 425hp dual Exhuast ect...Hmm let see it's pink you have a very lucky Niece.I know i have bought one for my own only a Jeep...My Sah...So to my friend
Jake All the strength you have given Know this others have seen the love your true friend has given to you..Not in words a Beautiful picture as we read each and every smile that only
a true friend can bring...Mr Jake you choose well i can say...As a stranger looking into words of sorrow...Moment intime brings are friends...What a good Boy indeed as you open your
Heart that Lonley soul walks alone until a speacial human comes along to look deep into a lost Moment...That brings so much life and Kindness with Heavy hearts we speak there name;...
So others...My run free in the fields as a single flower looks within to heal thy self....With the Pines standing within reach we kneel to be with a friend to ask for...

Mr. Jake Thank you for the bright image of all that hold you intime of need...The best we can do as we Hold your thoughts as a kiss within the last loving

Once again please forgive me for my words as you offer a Beautiful Moment intime of Jake..Seems in my words to yours...Heals my own...I thank you my friend...Your a Good Man
As i see through the eyes of a friend...

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Mar 15 2013, 07:04 AM

My Doxie and Me, thank you so very, very much for your kind words. They are indeed a comfort to me. Jake used to play with the dachshund next door; I hope that he and Jenna have become good friends.

The pink car is my little granddaughter's.

You are a good person, my friend.

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Mar 22 2013, 11:18 PM

Mr. Jack i have a question about the picture and thank you for your kind words..As jack stands strong a shadow is cast upon him
from behind a friend stands above jack as there shadows are one..What a beautyfull snap shot intime where love surrounds
a friend that Tells a story for that day in your heart as i know it holds great meaning...

Thank you for the image of Jake and a Dachshund running side by side Knowing both breeds is nothing more then trouble;..
Two Stubborn Strong Headed Beautiful Friends...As i have said before we are there care takers as we follow...

Mr.Jake i'am short on words tonight i do thank you for your kindness as i speak... i wish not to offend within the passing of are true friends
That hold are thoughts at night as we Dream...

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Mar 29 2013, 09:28 PM


I just thought to stop by and wish you well i Found a Picture that represents Hope...Wishing you well...

Your a good man Jakes Human you have Photos intime to prove it...

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Mar 31 2013, 10:11 AM

What a cute little bulldog puppy! You made me smile on a day when, like most holidays, I'm feeling the loss more than usual. Thanks for sending the picture and cheering me up. You are a kind and thoughtful person, My Doxie and Me. Hope you have a nice Easter.

Posted by: My Doxie and Me May 18 2013, 08:53 PM

To a friend Mr.Jack

True Viking...

Gabe Thank you for your kind words.. Yes they have healed me through your friends love as you write
I can hear his whispers as Mr. Jack ...

Posted by: Gretta's Mom May 21 2013, 08:18 PM

Hello Jake's Grandpa

Many thanks to you and Jake for coming to Rufus's biirthday party and for joining in the "prayer-hum" for Trevor's mom. As I said in the round robin e-mail: SHE PASSED.

Jake is such a wonderful dog. He makes you laugh as he walks, he frightens off danger with his jutting jaw and big teeth, and he makes you happy witih his great big soft heart.

Gretta and Rufus's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa May 27 2013, 07:25 AM

Todd and Jeanne, thank you for your comforting thoughts. Yes, Jake could look menacing, but he was really a big softie with a heart of gold. It has been 10 1/2 months since we lost him and I'm still grieving every day. I doubt that the profound sense of loss will ever go away. Thanks again for your kindness and my best to you both.

Posted by: My Doxie and Me May 31 2013, 07:03 PM

Mr. Jake Forgive me for my words as I sit watching a Dachshund in the window of life waiting for a friend...

As a Friend brings comfort and a sense of joy as we sit in time to choose a friends thoughts as one day they move beyond
Are touch as we are forced to kneel and Whisper the Names that Reach are Hearts...

Mr. Gabe please forgive me you write and I sit Beneath the Desk with a friend to see How much love and thought
that become your Silent words... Priceless as I can hear them like Chimes in the Wind of Life long friendship as you
care for a True Viking that stands by the one that he calls his Friend...Mr. Gabe I can see the Heart that has been Givin
by a Special friend even if he sits Beneath you he stands Taller with the Words you speak as I Kneel for Jake...
I Thank you for sharing a true friends life with a simple man that becomes in touch with a Beautiful life...

The leash of life that Becomes us holds are Hidden love for a friend as we speak are Broken words as we...Miss them..
As we call there name when we need strength;....As the leash of life calls are Friends name we kneel to hear the whispers
of a close friend that lays within are Heart as we speak for them....

We where with him when he peacefully took his last Breath...As you keep a Promise to a friend..

Your words to Jake are a Reflection of my own Thank you for sharing.

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jun 10 2013, 07:53 AM

Thank you, my friend.

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jun 11 2013, 06:45 AM

Good morning Jakes Grandpa

Ten and a half months. Oh Jake's grandpa, every day seems like a new anniversary and a reminder that we will never see our loved ones on this side of heaven. My first dog Gretta openen my heart to love and I though I would die when she went home. Soon she sent me Rufus the Goofus who patiently and plafully worked his way deep into my heart. For me it has been much sadder this time, expecially given what else is going on. The grinding, everyday pain may never go away. It reminds us how much we love them and how big a part of our hearts we exchanged with them. You're a man in a million, Jake's Grandpa, for so truly loving Jake. We're with you - like the proverbial reed that can so easliy be broken individually but who are indestructable when bound together. Thank you for everything, Jake' Granspa. Here's a big cyber hug and some strength rays coming to you.

Gretta and Rufus mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jun 17 2013, 07:53 AM

You are right, Gretta's Mom, they stole our hearts away. Now a part is missing, but I pray it will be restored again someday. Thanks for the hug and strength rays; I can certainly use them today.

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jun 17 2013, 09:48 PM

Good evening Jake's grandpa

there's an old spiritual that says "Sometimes I up, sometimes I'm down, sometimes I'm almost to the ground" And that's what grieving for a soul mate who was gone to the Perfect World feels like. When you are down and almost to the ground, remember we are with you, the Bob Squad and many others. You are not alone. People here DO get it because we have all been through it. I know this doesn't make the hurt go away, but it helps a little knowing that there is a place where people care about you and where you can go where we will share our strength and love.

Sleep well, Jake's Grandpa

Rufus and Grettas mom

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jun 19 2013, 06:28 AM

Good morning Jake's Grandpa

Jake says to tell you to have a good day today and smile when you remember his antics, OK?

Rufus and Gretta's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jun 19 2013, 10:04 AM

You made me smile, Gretta's Mom. Thanks.

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Jun 21 2013, 05:01 PM

Do Dogs Go To Heaven...
(Opus 4) By Dan Atcheson (5/20/00

My little bully passed away, no more to breathe a sound.
I held him for the last time, then entombed him in the ground.
Day and night I wept so much, in the tears I thought I'd drown.
I searched my soul for comfort, but no peace therein was found.
In great despair, I hit my knees and then began to pray.
"Father will I ever see, my friend again someday?"
I raised my eyes and saw an Angel standing near a gate.
I sensed an inner peace I'd never felt before that day.
The angel smiled and said to me, "Oh man of little faith"..
God sees every bird that falls; He knows your bully's fate.
I have met your friend, I saw him pass my way.
Your precious friend is still alive; he just walked through this gate...

Paradise is lovelier than you can comprehend.
No pain or grief, no tears or fears, and life will have no end.
God gave to man His only Son; to cover all his sins.
So why would God withhold from you, your pure and loving friend;
The angel took me by the hand and said, " Now come with me.
A glimpse of paradise I'll give, to you so you can see"
Through the gate and o'er the Rainbow Bridge we did proceed.
Through green valleys filled with flowers, rolling hills and trees.
Wow, so this is paradise!" The place filled with joy.
I saw my bully playing there, with dogs and cats and toys;
He also had some doggie treats, and food that he enjoyed;..
He'd made a lot of new friends there, including girls and boys.
Then I saw a child come near, and hug my little mate;

She said to him, " I love you so," and kissed him on the face;..
The angel said, "The child just crossed the Rainbow Bridge today.
God's love for her would be enough, in that make no mistake.
But in His love; He knew full well. the child would want a mate.
This is why God called your Friend Jake unto this splendid place.
God's entrusted her with him,'til you pass through the gate."

I pleaded, "May I hug them both?!" The angel answered, "No!
You'd violate a sacred place, and now it's time to go;"
He led me back across the Bridge and through the gate to Home.
He left me there with new-found hope and a peace within my soul.
If someone ever asks what happens to a friend that dies,
Just give a gentle smile of joy and look them in the eye.
Take their hand and comfort them and tell them not to cry.
For Dogs don't die, they simply cross a bridge to paradise.

To my Friend Jake as I look into your heart I find words so close to mine I break.....
Forgive me for these words I bring.. I find peace with them looking within your friends place...

Gabe you have given words of comfort just by standing next to Jake and I thank you for the picture of the Doxie and bully side by side
my friend always stands taller then I...So I kneel with whispers in hopes to catch a glimpse of my friend running across the Rainbow Bridge..

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jun 25 2013, 07:16 AM

That is beautiful, Todd. It must be raining in here, for my cheek is wet. Thank you for your kindness, friend.

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jun 29 2013, 09:17 AM

Oh Jake's grandpa

Aren't Doxie's poems truly amazing! They speak the language of the heart, not the brain, so they bypass our constant brain-thoughts and go right into the heart. My friend, you are a wonderful man. Not every man would have opened his heart to the world and let us know about the suffering that goes on in a grandpa's heart. So let's all join hands and hum for our animals children who have preceeded us into the Perfect World and tell them we're sad for a time but all our tears will be wiped away the moment we see them come racing up to us when it's our turn to cross over to join them in the Perfect World.

Gretta and Rufus's mom

P.S. Just becasue of Jake and you, I'm thinking a bulldog might be my next dog-boy. I have five steps going up into my apartment. How much of a problem will that be for a bulldog to climb?

B;essings always

Gretta and Rufus's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jun 29 2013, 10:37 AM

Yes, My Doxie and Me's words are a comfort to me, as are yours, Gretta's Mom. Thank goodness I found this place. It is a great help to know that there are others who understand our grief and pain, and who care about us.

As for the steps, they wouldn't be a problem for a bulldog. Jake routinely ran up and down the flight of stairs in our house with no trouble. The going up was easier than the coming down, but I taught him how to do it by putting a treat on every other step and helping him come down to get them. He picked up on it right away. They say bulldogs aren't very smart, but Jake was a pretty quick study and never forgot anything once he learned it.

You should be aware that English Bulldogs are relatively high maintenance creatures. They can have a lot of allergies and a few other things that may require more trips to the vet than some other breeds. Plus, they are not known for having long lifespans. You must also be very careful with your heart, because they will steal it away and won't ever give it back. wink.gif

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jun 29 2013, 03:11 PM

Thank you for the heads up about English Bulldogs and their health problems. And their short lives in which they steal your heart and never give it back. That is a precious thought, Jake's Grandpa. rolleyes.gif

Posted by: LoveMyMickey Jul 6 2013, 06:17 PM

Dear Jake's Grandpa,

I thought I would stop by to say hello and to see how you are doing. I know this grief journey is super hard, but I hope you're feeling better day by day and remembering the things that Jake did to make you smile........I feel like I'm at a stand still in my grief journey, feeling better, but I miss our Mickey soooo much and I have my sad days.

Take care and God Bless You!


My Doxie and Me,

Your poems and pictures are beautiful and are a comfort to everyone. I hope you are doing well....Thank you..


Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jul 12 2013, 07:45 AM

Hi, LoveMyMickey, and thanks for asking about me. Like you, I am doing better. I still miss Jake a great deal but, after almost a year, the pain is not so sharp. I can think of him with fondness and smile at the things he did, but always with a twinge of sadness. I suppose some of us never really get over the loss of a truly loved one, but that's OK; I wouldn't have it any other way.

Thanks again and may God bless you, too.

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jul 14 2013, 07:45 AM

Hello, my precious Jake. It was one year ago this morning that we had to send you to a place where you would no longer suffer from the terrible illness which struck you in the prime of your life. I hope that you are happy there and that you will wait for me to join you, for I know that God will bring us together again. Until then, I hold your memory in a special place in my heart; you are always missed, but never forgotten. I love you, my sweet boy.

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Jul 21 2013, 01:19 PM

Gabe and Mr. Jake

I have a story to tell you both a random encounter lucky moment an insight to the life that touch are hearts
My friend Free/Friede needs a nail trim busy day after work i pick my friend up high in the air as she looks down
on me and i say lets go for a ride... Simple day as her ears sing with the Winds as i'am filled with memory... As we
Arrive at Pet Smart i stand in line waiting and a Bully walks in a lovely young lady in tow.

My observation as i hold my friend in my arms the young lady kneels to comfort the Bully as she rubs his jowls as i
look down i cant help but notice how larger then life these Beast/Vikings are seems my words where point blank in time
What i failed to see the picture of jake dressed in a shirt surrounded by the ones he loves is just the King Himself;..

The lady behind the counter says are you ready to the Bully and the young lady nods the bully looks away This is the impressive part
Great come on lets go the lady behind the counter pulls at the leash as the 70 pound plus bully is having none of this as i watch in silence
The young lady still kneeling looks to her friend and she speaks Its ok go on as the bully eyes where constant connection with his friend
His own language as he turns his head towards the lady with the leash his little tail begins to sway as he follows a stranger only with his
best friends permission she stood up only after her true friend was out of sight. What i missed in the pictures is how truly massive your
friend is in real life Like a Viking; I just needed to see it for myself what a site it was...

Now for free she is a good girl when it comes to nail trims she needs to be held and will not go willingly as i see how intelligent your friend
can be or should i say how tolerant the larger then life Bully can be; Gabe thank you for sharing Jake he has opened my eyes where
in the days of my friends passing i would have missed Thank you.

Mr. Jake you have touched my life only after you have passed this speaks volumes of your friend you have kissed goodbye...

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jul 22 2013, 07:09 PM

Happy First Angel-versary, Jake! What a celebration it must be to have a birthday in the Perfect World. And the best present of all is to have your grandpa, who loves you more than anything else in the world, wish you a happy birthday - through his tears - and send your picture to the whole world so we will recognize you when we get there.

I love you, Jake.

Gretta and Rufus's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Jul 29 2013, 09:18 AM

You have both touched my life and my heart, My Doxie and Me and Gretta's Mom. Your kindness is balm for my lingering grief. Thank you both so very much.

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jul 30 2013, 04:41 PM

Jake's grandpa

Our hearts will forever be hollow because our precious dogs left behind a piece of their hearts and took a piece of ours. That's where the hollow, empty, longing feeling comes from. We grieve in proportion as we loved and are loved - I'm sure of it. And like finds like so our little group found each other. I get second dibs on petting Jake-y!!

Another pensive evening alone,

Rufus and Gretta's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Aug 7 2013, 06:55 AM

Gretta's Mom, you can pet Jake all you like. I get to pet Rufus and Gretta, though.

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Aug 7 2013, 12:17 PM

It's a deal - made in heaven!

Posted by: Bobbie Aug 15 2013, 07:49 PM

Hello Jake's Grandpa!

A quick note to thank you for loving Jake as you did. It is a tribute that you will always have.

Trevor is very proud to have Jake as a GOOOOOOOD friend.

Don't forget that every time you see a butterfly, Jake is saying hello and checking up on you!!! (it's true)

Have a peace-filled night!


Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Aug 20 2013, 06:27 PM

Hi, Bobbie! It's really great to see you posting here again. I'll keep an eye out for for those butterflies.

Posted by: Bobbie Aug 25 2013, 01:28 PM

Hi Jake's Grandpa!

Yup - keep an eye out for the butterflies. Only those of us that were/are lucky enough to have love(d) a pet know what their real meaning it. And YOU are counted amongst those that truly know.

Your Jake was/is one lucky fella. He knew you and felt all the love possible. Thank you!

Have a great week and know that Trevor and I love you!

Trevor's Mom (Bobbie)

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Aug 28 2013, 07:09 AM

Thanks, Bobbie. Love ya!

Posted by: Bobbie Sep 5 2013, 10:34 PM

Hi Jake's Grandpa and Jake!

I hope you are both doing well. I know at least one of you are! smile.gif

Well, I am losing my hair and have developed male-pattern baldness! I have the same hair pattern as a good friend and neighbor, Mr. Ralph, who loved Trevor mightily. Way to go chemotherapy!

J. Grandpa, you are a wonderful person and I just know that Jake is smiling on you every minute and is continuously sending you lots of love! wub.gif
Have a good weekend.....and GO RAVENS!!!

Trevor's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Sep 13 2013, 06:54 AM

Hello, Bobbie, and thank you for your good wishes. I hope that you are feeling OK and that Trevor's spirit is with you. As for your hair, take it as a sign that the chemotherapy is doing what it should. What good is hair anyway? It's vastly over-rated and a pain to take care of. Maybe I'll shave mine off in your honor. wink.gif

Posted by: Bobbie Sep 14 2013, 06:20 PM

Hi Jake's Grandpa!!!!!!!

You would really shave off your hair for me???????? WOW! But you don't have to. One thing about less hair is that you don't get fleas (Oh! I forgot, that's true with my boys only. laugh.gif ) One does save on the amount of shampoo being used, though.

Trevor is sending me all sorts of happy vibes because I am having a great weekend - being with my grandkids and great nephews! What is better than revving up the kids and then going home????

I'm sure Jake and Trevor and Gretta and Rufus and Mickey and Jenna are all having a rand time right now. Hope so.

Love you much!

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Sep 28 2013, 07:34 AM

HI jake's grandpa

Thinking of you and Jake and your heart and your smile and your love for Bobbie and your prayers for our family .... oh and just all kinds of good stuuf about you and Jake. Thank you for being Just looking at Jake's face makes me smile. And I'm practicing my bulldog growl. Do they growl? Or are they more like Whispering Muscovy ducks who latch on to you pant leg and NEVER let go.

You are a treasure in my life, Jake's grandpa. Thank you for the gift of your friendship.

Have a good fall day.

Gretta and Rufus's mom

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 8 2013, 07:20 AM

Thank you both, Bobbie and Gretta's Mom, for your kind thoughts and good wishes. I hope that y'all are doing well. I'm OK, still missing my Jake everyday, though. I hope he's enjoying a good afterlife with Trevor, Gretta, Rufus, Jenna, and all the other good dogs of our friends here.

And, yes, Gretta's Mom, bulldogs do growl. At least mine did, especially when he got tired of waiting for me to do something for him. I didn't mind, though, and wish he were here growling at me now.

Posted by: Bobbie Oct 8 2013, 07:09 PM

Hi Jake's Grandpa!!!

Jake was a lucky fella, you know. He got to know his Grandpa really well and know that his Grandpa loved him a LOT!
None of my boys got to know their Grandpa and even I only got to know one of mine for a few short years, as he went to Heaven when I was just 10 years old.
YOU were a totally terrific grandpa and I also know (on good words from Trevor) that Jake is in Heaven telling everyone (even those who have heard it all before) how simply marvelous you are!

Just thought I'd let you know, in case you didn't.

Trevor's mom, Bobbie wub.gif

Posted by: Jake'sGrandpa Oct 10 2013, 07:27 AM

Thanks, Bobbie. I appreciate your saying that. I get to feeling pretty low about losing Jake sometimes and it helps to hear such things. Hope all is well with you and sister Jeanne.

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Oct 14 2013, 09:36 AM

OH Jake's grandpa

Thank you for the beautiful bouquet of flowers. And it does help. Every good wish that is given to me takes a little bit off the load. And just knowing you are a praying man helps even more - because our God is a loving God and He helps his dear children along.

Thank you so much, Gabe. (I'm still coming to visit you someday and go to New Orleans.)

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Oct 29 2013, 09:16 AM

Hi Jake (and your grandpa)

Thank you for joining in the big prayer-hum and party for Trevor's mom and dad. They went on their big trip and visited Trevor's mommie's and he gave her the biggest hug ever. Thank your grandpa for all his precious prayers for her ... they worked.

Say hi to Gretta and Rufus for me, OK?

Their mom

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Dec 3 2013, 07:40 AM

Jakie!! Get ready for a BIG party tonight at Rufus and Gretta's house!

7PM EST (just listen for all the noise if you don't know what this means)!

Party as long and as loud as you can and we'll listen for you then!

Eat as much as you want (no tummy ache danger) - romp around, bark LOUD - howl if you want to!


It's for Trevor's mom. She got a very good report from her doctor yesterday!

And when you're done partying, bow your heads and go see the Good Man and thank Him for doing that for Trevor's mom.


Gretta and rufus's mom

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Feb 23 2014, 09:14 AM

Oh Jake, We need your help today. Trevor's mom has become very very sick. I've asked Gretta and Rufus to organize a giant prayer hum for her. We need your help. You sing such beautiful bass. When you hear the prayer hum getting started, would you gather up all your friends in the Perfect World and go to the feet of the Good Shepherd and hum as hard as you can to plead for Trevor's mom's life. Hum, cheep, moo, grunt, purr, shriek, - any sound an animal makes can be a prayer. Oh thank you Jake-y. Your are a beautiful and wonderful dog.

Rufus and Gretta's mom (in tears)

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Apr 24 2014, 06:18 AM

Hello Jake-y, the world's grandest bulldog! BY now you know that Trevor's mom has joined all of you in the Perfect World. At last her suffering, pain and fear is over. At last she is in the company of the Good Shepherd and all of the animals she loved and who loved her. That gretting parade for her as she was carried into the Perfect World in thee arms of the Good Shepherd must have been spectacular. Trevor at the head and the hundreds of her own and others' animals whose lives she touched all clamoring in joy and wanting to get a touch from her blessed hand.

Your grandpa has been SO kind to us all during Bobbie's ordeal on earth and even after she left us to join you. He has written me so many words of wisdom and comfort. He has even asked the Good Shepherd to say some special prayyers that we down here on earth call "Masses" for Trevor's mom.

Even though both your Grandpa's eyes and mine are filled with tears of loneliness and sorrow, we know that one day we will join you in the Perfect World anad there is an old song that says "what a day of rejoicing that will be." I can't wait to spend a whole day with you, snuggling in the cool shade and swapping stories about heaven and earth.

I love you, Jake! You're a champ.

Gretta and Rufus's mom

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jul 6 2014, 05:19 AM

Hi Jakie and Grandpa

It's been a long time since i wrote to you but that doesn't mean I've forgotten about you and all the kindness and love you have shown us during the past year. it has been a year of great tragedy as Trevor's mom. my dearest younger sister, has gone to her place in the Perfect World. This has been even harder than losing the two best dogs in the universe: Gretta, the kindest chocolate lab who ever lived, and Rufus, the sweetest BIG black dog there has ever been. I'm glad I had the practice with these two beautiful spirit dogs, because having a beloved person leave this earth is MUCH MUCH harder.

Thank you Jake's Grandpa, for sharing Jake and his story with us. Both of you are true gifts to us in our hour of sorrow. I hope life is treating you, Jake's Grandpa, with all the love and joy that you so richly deserve. Thank you and may God bless your richly every moment of your life.

Love to another of our musketeers,

Gretta and Rufus;s mom

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Jul 20 2014, 05:58 AM

HI Jakey

I love your "mug"! It's a face the only EVERYONE could love - especially a grandpa! Jakey, could I ask you a favor? Could I borrow your strength for a week? I need to go visit my father far away. He is very sick and may be joining you in the Perfect World soon. Gretta and Rufus and Trevor's mom can tell you all about him. The ton-weight on my heart makes it seem that the travel will be a huge effort - airplanes, car rentals, hotels. And then I don't know how I will be able to spend three solid days with my dad. But the Good Shepherd will be my strength - and you, too. People are so funny. They think bulldogs are so fierce - you and I know it's all a mask - bulldogs have the most loving hearts of all - and you guys are so funny. You bring joy to our hearts. So, Jakey, I'm sure your grandpa wouldn't mind lending you to me for a week to be my protector. And when I look at your strong muscles and big teeth ..... I will be completely confident in anything I have to do.

Thank you for coming to earth, Jakey. Thank you for brightening the heart of your grandpa. Thank you for being his "waiter" in the Perfect World. Your booming voice will let everyone know when he arrives at the gate of the Perfect World.

Say hi to everybody I know and if it's not too much trouble, maybe you could help Rufus and Gretta and Trevor's mom organize a prayer hum or two for my dad and me.

Even though I've only seen a picture of you, I know I love you, Jakey.

Gretta and Rufus's mom

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Aug 19 2014, 05:31 AM

Good morning Jake-y!

Have you met Trevor's grandpa (we call him "the dad") yet? He came to the Perfect World about two weeks ago and he will be in the Trevor section. He's the kind, gentle old man that's always smiling and telling Trevor's mom how much he loves her and they are always laughing about something.

Romp on over there and say HI to the dad. I just KNOW he'll love you - for your face, for your body - and for your happy and loving heart - all the things I love you for. I can't wait to meet you and spend a whole day playing with you.

You're the best, Jake-y boy. NO wonder your grandpa loves you so much.

Have a great time in the Perfect World today.

Gretta and Rufus's mom

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Sep 1 2014, 08:14 AM

Good morning Jake-y

I'm sure you and The Dad have become fast friends - well maybe slow friends. Don't feel bad when he laughs at your face - he laughs at anything unusual. I can imagine you two taking afternoon naps, one outsnoring the other. And, not the the other dogs in the pack, YOU like to walk slowly and follow him whatever direction he takes.

Thanks for loving The Dad. Everybody who knew him on earth loved him. I love and miss him just like your grandpa loves and misses you. Someday there will be the biggest party heaven ever saw, "when we all get together."

Have a relaxing day, Jake-y Boy. And be sure to send some love-rays down to your grandpa, OK.


Gretta and Rufus's mom

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Sep 21 2014, 08:31 AM

Hi Jake-boy

How's it going up there in the Perfect World? I'll bet your grandpa still misses you and loves you and thinks of you often. Who would not miss a great bulldog like you! You know what you show the world? Something that most people down here have forgotten. That it doesn't matter what you look like. it doesn't matter if you're fat or walk "funny". it doesn't matter if your lower jaw and teeth stick out. It doesn't even matter if you snore when you're awake. All that matters is that your heart is full of love! Thank you for showing all of us that "All there is is love." I love you Jake-y.

Gretta and Rufus's mom

Posted by: Gretta's Mom Nov 28 2015, 01:06 PM

Happy (belated) Thanksgiving, Mr. Jake! I love you!

Posted by: My Doxie and Me Nov 22 2018, 06:58 PM

Mr. Jake please forgive my Broken words...

As we sit in the rain at are favorite Bench are words resonate through time
and they touch so many yet the rain fall prevents us from truly seeing a best friend....

I leave this rose as to Honor a Great Friend Mr.Jake...

Thank you for Helping me find my friends Paw Prints forever
in your Debit...

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