Need Advice On New Kitty

With all the time I've been spending at the shelters in my search for Gandalf I'm thinking about adopting a new kitten. Am I crazy for wanting to do this so soon after Gandalf's disapearence? I'm not looking to replace him in anyway, I couldn't if I tried. I'd just like a kitty that is more social then the two kitties I have, one who is in your face and doesn't run from it's shadow.

Max and Sabrina are 1 year old siblings who had a rough start in life and were pretty much kept apart from other kitties at the SPCA where I got them from. While they are loving, they are not very social, are very skittish and hide whenever anyone comes over. They have a very close bond.

So, should I add a kitten? What sex would be most likely to be accepted? Any advice would be appreciated.

Hugs,
Dawn

5 Weeks Tomorrow

Tomorrow Gandalf will be missing 5 weeks. I miss my little gray kitty so much. I've just about exhausted all my resources for finding him. Yesterday I put up more posters a little farther away and I keep waiting for the phone to ring. I check the local shelter online multiple times a day. I go there once a week to check the DOA and injured lists and check out the kitties just in case. I'm losing hope that he'll come home on his own but I still put food out every night, so far I'm feeding a black kitty but not Gandalf.

I go to bed every night hoping that he'll be home in the morning. I awake every morning sad not to feel him running up my body and seeing his little gray face peering at me nose to nose. My emotions alternate between grief and hope, I'm not sure how much more I can take. Some days are better than others but there aren't many moments when he's not on my mind.

He is only 11 months old and I was really hoping to have him for many years. After so much loss in the last year I tried not to take anything for granted. I showered him with love and treasured every moment with him but I want more time. Gandalf touched my heart more deeply and quickly than any animal I've ever had. I just can't believe he's not out there somewhere waiting for me to find him. Maybe I'm being obsessive and overly optimistic......

I have two 1 year old kitties named Sabrina and Max and as much as I love them it's just not the same. I know they miss him too, along with my black lab Thor. They still look for Gandalf to play with and my lab whines when I say Gandalf's name.

My husband is over it and told me last week that I should just get over it and move on. It hurt my feelings when he said that and I can't. My husband admitted that he's just not that attached to the cats but Thor our dog is different. I know he will suffer as much as I will when we lose Thor. All of this has made me appreciate each day with my furbabies a little more but it also reminds me that someday I'll feel this pain all over again.

Gandalf I love you so much. I miss you and I'm trying hard to find you. Come home little buddy, we need you.

Hugs,
Dawn

Can He Still Be Alive?

When Gandalf first went missing I begged God to send him home or let me dream of him. Gandalf hasn't returned and I didn't dream of him for the first two weeks. I'm not extremely religious so I'm not surprised that my begging and promising hasn't brought Gandalf home. I just have trouble believing that a merciful God would continue to punish humans for the sins of those long in the past. I'm not trying offend anyone I just want you to understand where I'm coming from. I started dreaming about Gandalf the third week. All my dreams have been of him coming home which is what I want so desperately so I'm sure my subconscious is working overtime.

Last week I had something else happen...... Gandalf was last seen sleeping on a blanket under the table in the living room and I've left the blanket just where it was. There is also a kitty condo right next to the table with a couple of kitty toys in it. Gandalf loved the condo and the toys including a ball with a bell inside. My other "kids" haven't been over to that corner since Gandalf left but one night last week Max went over there and was checking stuff out. Max didn't touch anything, it was like he was looking for Gandalf to play and when he didn't see him he walked away. A few minutes after Max walked away the bell inside the ball made noise but didn't move. I know it made noise because my black lab Thor heard it too and got up off the couch to go over to check it out. Thor even wimpered and then laid down next to the condo and stared at the blanket looking for Gandalf. They were buddies, my little gray kitty and my big black lab. No one was near the ball when the bell rang. I'm thinking it's a sign from Gandalf but.........

Can Gandalf be alive if he's sending me signs?

Dawn

Gandalf Is Missing.....

My sweet baby Gandalf has been missing from home since late on March 28th. I've walked the neighborhood calling him, I made flyers and put them in my neighbor's mailboxes, I put flyers up around the neighborhood, I gave flyers to the local vets, I ran an ad in the newspaper and I check the local shelters daily. No Gandalf...... I'm absolutely heartbroken.

Friskie my cat of 16 years died last July. He was sick but he fought for life until the last minute. Friskie's death was hard on me but I was comforted in knowing that he'd had a good long life. In August I adopted three kittens, Gandalf, Max and Sabrina. Right from the start Gandalf captured my heart. He was friendly when the other two were really standoffish. He brought me joy and I love him so much. Gandalf was last seen sleeping on a blanket under the table when I went to bed on March 28th.

I'm having a really hard time dealing with this. He wasn’t even a year old yet and had a great life ahead of him. I tried to keep them inside but we have a black lab and a doggie door and the kittens figured out how to use it. I've looked for him everywhere I can think. Logic tells me that he's not coming home but I just can’t give up hope. Somehow I feel like if I give up hope he’ll never come home. I can’t stop thinking about him and I’m in tears whenever I do. Not knowing whether Gandalf is alive and well, alive and suffering or dead is just killing me. It’s been 3 weeks and it still hurts just as much as that first morning he didn’t come for treats. Is there still a chance for him?

Heartbroken,
FurBabyMom