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Sockers
post Nov 1 2007, 05:40 PM
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Hi all. Another sad day today. For some reason I've felt very hopeless since this morning's 4 a.m. calling, and I'm really tired of being sad all the time. I want my normal life back!!

Barb, if you need to take a break I can certainly understand that, but I hope it's not because you think your suggestions are being ignored. I am certainly considering all your ideas, and have very much appreciated all your advice. After all, you have lived through what I am dealing with right now. Who better than you to be here and walk people like me through this pain, and offer practical solutions that are proven to work? Your ideas are as valuable as anyones. Right now I think I'm just emotionally drained, and it's putting a strain on my work and my home life. But again, please don't think you aren't appreciated because I certainly thank you for caring.

Kimberly, in one moment, I like to think that Sockers will just walk up to the door some day soon and want to be let in, and in another my brain tells me it's not gonna happen. If you all knew how timid she was of things unknown before she left, (or was chased away) and how much she loved to eat, and sleep in her bed, it still just does not seem possible for her to be gone this long without something catastrophic happening. But then there's no sign of that either. So it continues...

Chloe's mom, I am SO happy for you! You have your precious family member home with you again, and can once more enjoy the peace of a normal existance. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers for me and Sockers, they are much appreciated.

I have not given up, but I am discouraged. I don't know what else to do besides try to not think about her so much. Now I'm off to church. Maybe I can find some peace there.

Thanks again to everyone for caring,

Jacki
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paris
post Nov 2 2007, 06:44 AM
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Hi Jacki.

I understand exactly how you feel. When Bennett was gone for so long, it was not normal, even for him. The worst part was the not knowing. If a pet dies, it is horrible, but you have definite answers, you grieve, you go on. A missing pet you are never sure, and this is so hard on the brain and emotions. When do you give up? Part of you says one thing, another part says something different. You hope at the same time you dispair.

Get assurance that Sockers is microchipped, and you have put out flyers and ads, so if someone does find Sockers they can contact you. Since Sockers is shy, she may not be making herself known to anyone. Eagle, the little dog, survived in the woods for months....and Sockers is a better hunter than Eagle! So it is likely that, say if Sockers got chased out of the territory, she is doing fine out in the wild, and nobody sees her! Cats hide really well and come out in night.

Have you spoken to your neighboring farm owners?

Paris.
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post Nov 3 2007, 01:10 AM
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I just want to add my profound sympathy and concern for the return of your loved one.
You both are in my thoughts and prayers.
Dayna


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paris
post Nov 9 2007, 02:01 PM
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Jacki,

How are you doing?
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Sockers
post Nov 10 2007, 08:23 AM
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Hi Paris, thanks for asking.

I'm doing well. Still not one lead on Socks, not a phone call or even a "probable" sighting. It will be three weeks tomorrow.

I haven't been on here for awhile because I needed to try to focus elsewhere and get my head straightened out. Losing Socks really threw me into a state of depression like I never expected or experienced before, and it got to the point where I wasn't able to function normally. I had to do something about that so I went to my doctor who offered much empathy, and medication. At that point I agreed and took the first one that evening. Understand, I am hypersensitive to any kind of meds and have had reactions before. Well this time was no different, and after a jittery, sleepless, awful night I decided then I would have to get better on my own.

The mind is such a powerful force. After making sure that I had done everything I possibly could do in order to help Sockers come home, I made peace with it. I also started eating better, and got back to exercising daily. I now have the outlook that Socks is either on a fantastic adventure and is having too much fun to come home yet, or she has found another home and may come back eventually, or ultimately that I may never know in this life what happened to her. I was able to do this by knowing in my heart that I have done all I can, for now, and lots of prayers.

I also believe nothing happens by accident, and this experience is meant to teach me something. I will never give up hope that Socks might come back, and I will continue to run the adds and keep the posters up for the near future, but my life has to go on. I am very blessed by SO many things, and I now focus on that and try to take care of myself.

All of you people here have been amazingly supportive, compassionate and helpful, especially during those first few horrible days when the pain of loss was almost unbearable. I thank you all so much - I don't know what I would have done otherwise.

I will certainly let you all know if Sockers ever does return. Wow, wouldn't THAT be a joyous day?! Thanks again for all your prayers and encouragement, and maybe if someone new happens along here, I'll be able to do the same for them as you all have done for me.

Peace to you all,
Jacki
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paris
post Nov 10 2007, 02:56 PM
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Jacki,

I know this is horrible but I agree you have done everything possible. It still is likely that Sockers is living somewhere and has not resurfaced. A cat can survive for years, and Sockers is one of those cats. She is microchipped, which is very good. Keep the lost/found ads active. I hope, and pray, that fate will bring you two together again. Not getting a phone call about Sockers doesn't mean anything either way.

Please keep us posted and I wait for the day to read some good news.

Take care of yourself, good person.

Paris.
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Sockers
post Nov 18 2007, 08:05 PM
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It will be four weeks tonight since Sockers disappeared. I remember the last time I saw her and didn't make her come inside for the night. I wish so much that I had! I'm still hoping that she will someday come home, but less as the days pass. I re-made my posters this weekend, even bigger than before, because I just can't give up yet. I don't think about her as much as when she first went missing, and I feel bad about that. At times though, it still hits me like a ton of bricks that she's gone. I had a dream the other night that she came home, and then I woke up to the same old sinking feeling.

I've learned to deal with the grief, but I still just miss her so much. I look forward to the day when I can think about her and not cry or feel sad, but remember the joy she brought to my life, and all the fun and love she gave me. She was a gift that came to me at exactly the right moment, and I wasn't ready to give her up!

Please continue to keep me and Socks in your thoughts and prayers.

Thanks,
Jacki
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Zita'sMom
post Nov 18 2007, 11:47 PM
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Jacki

My Zita went missing the same time as your Sockers so I know how you feel. However, I live in an isolated area with not so many neighbours (who all know she was missing), and I now know that cougars are an extreme risk at night here. I also know that in this case no remains are ever found. So I have accepted the most obvious truth for my dear sweet Zita. I know she would have been home long ago if she physically could.

However, I heard stories from so many people about cats showing up after 2 weeks, after one month, 7 months, and in one case 10 years later! So I truly hope your Sockers is found and returns to you one day soon.

Most of these cats seemed to be living only blocks away. I don't know where you live and what the likely risks are for Sockers, but there still could be hope. However you can't live in constant stress and pain of thinking about where she is. I grieved for Zita during the first week, then went back to disbelief, then back to grieving. I am still grieving and I don't think I will ever be resolved at her loss. She was only 3 years old.

I send my Zita love every time I think of her. That's all I can do now. I even have thoughts that she be reincarnated and come back to me in this lifetime. Maybe crazy thoughts, but I wasn't ready to let go of her, not anywhere near ready.

take care of yourself and I send Sockers my love and best wishes.

Jan.
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post Nov 19 2007, 01:14 PM
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Read "4 weeks today" by Eagle's Mom..in this Section. Miracles do happen!

I do hope you and your baby reunite soon. A missing pet is so heartbreaking, words are hard to come by. take care and don't give up.


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Sockers
post Nov 30 2007, 07:00 AM
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Today is day 40 without my Sockers - 6 weeks this coming Monday. It's gotten cold here for KY, lows in the 20s, highs in the 30s. I still wonder if she's hungry and cold, trying to survive and come home. Life keeps going, but I still miss her so badly sometimes it physically hurts. I was going through some pictures last night and found some more of her a few winters ago, Sockers and her sister playing under the Christmas tree. I just burst into tears. That's how it is now - although I still think about her a hundred times a day, sometimes her absence hits me like a punch in the stomach at the most unexpected times.

We had a nice lady call this past week saying she had seen a cat matching our poster pictures hanging out in her neighborhood the last week or two. Just as I was getting home from work she called again and said "she's here now, come quick." So I did, and although she looked really close to Sockers, it definitely wasn't her. In fact we haven't had any positive sightings at all. For some reason though, that episode renewed our efforts and rekindled hope that she might still be around.

My posters are still up, we passed out another 100 or so flyers that same day, and last night we put a trap out in the yard for the first time. Haven't set it yet, but will soon. I only see two cats around our house these days and I know they've been eating the food left out. I really never thought I'd need to trap Sockers if she came this close to home, but i don't want to let a chance of getting her back pass us by either. After this long being gone, I don't know what to think anymore.

When do you you finally say "enough"? I know there's no definite answer to that question as there are no answers to many of my questions concerning the disappearance of Socks. Hope in this case is a strange thing. It's hard to live with it, and without it.

Thanks,
Jacki
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Zita'sMom
post Nov 30 2007, 11:47 AM
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QUOTE (Sockers @ Nov 30 2007, 07:00 AM)
When do you you finally say "enough"? I know there's no definite answer to that question as there are no answers to many of my questions concerning the disappearance of Socks. Hope in this case is a strange thing. It's hard to live with it, and without it.

Hi Jacki

I know exactly how you feel. My Zita vanished the same time as your Sockers. I talked to various psychics, mediums and animal communicators and got all different conclusions. I even paid $300 to talk to Sonya Fitzpatrick, the pet psychic. None of it really gave me the concrete evidence I needed. Common sense in my case says that a cougar got Zita - she was a homebody and the lack of a body suggests she was taken. My gut really feels she is in spirit, but at times I have had a phonecall about a cat looking like her, and like you, got my hopes back up again. What I really wanted from an animal communicator was evidence (without knowledge of our situation or where we live) that convinced me of what happened.

A couple of days ago an animal communicator I spoke to gave me a description of a "dog" that she felt took Zita. The "dog" had short ears, a broad face, yellow eyes, a short coat and a dusky even coloured coat. To me that really sounded like a cougar. When I asked her, she said she had an image of the pit bull that lived next door to her and it was about as cougar-like as you could get in a dog. To me that was confirmation that what I think happened did. She also said some things that jived with words / images I have received myself when I have tried to connect with Zita (psychically).

I miss Zita so much that, like you, it hits me like a punch in the stomach sometimes. But I am accepting now that I have to live life without her, much as I would not choose to if I had the choice. I don't know when I will see her again, but the connection through love never dies. I try to use the memory of her sweet loving Buddha energy to motivate me to do greater things.

take care

Jan.
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paris
post Dec 1 2007, 07:04 AM
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QUOTE (Sockers @ Nov 30 2007, 07:00 AM)
When do you you finally say "enough"? I know there's no definite answer to that question as there are no answers to many of my questions concerning the disappearance of Socks.
Thanks,
Jacki

Hi Jacki.

Your question is the one I had when Bennett was missing. When do you say to yourself, to let go. this to me was the hardest part. I envied in a strange way the people on the death/dying forum. At least they had some peace of mind and could start the grieving process.

I used to play games in my head, tried to convince myself one minute "he's alive, he'll be back" and the next "he's dead, he died like this or that and it's over."

There are so many possibilities. It's hard to give up. I think it's smart to keep looking and posting lost/found, but maybe to not dwell on it. Just have peace of mind that the feelers are still out there, because cats do show up and people need to know they are missing. I still think he might have gone back to the old neighborhood.....maybe.

I wish I had the magic crystal that could tell you where Sockers is.
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