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Lenny's Dad
post May 5 2008, 08:50 PM
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We considered cremation for Lenny. To me, Lenny's body is no more him than the bag of fluff we have in the cupboard. I've tried holding it and cuddling it but it's not him. So cremation would have been ok. But for my wife, there's a part of Lenny who is still Lenny's body, and she couldnt face cremating him. So I said we'd bury him in the back yard.

We have opted for a container that should stand up to a few years underground without any great problem. I then dug down about 4 foot. It was incredibly hard. I have a huge cast iron pole that is used to break up dirt. My wife offered to try but couldn't lift the pole. It got to a point where even this monster wouldnt go in. I ended up with my powerdrill drilling smaller holes in the bottom of the hole so that I could add water and then try to break it up. Even the power drill was overheating. Smoke was coming out of the holes I drilled in the ground, the drill was so hot that I could feel it through the gloves I was wearing. I probably looked ridiculous. But it had to be done.

It took me two days. At times I couldnt get out of the hole because I was exhausted. I also have artheritis that makes some things difficult. When I did get out of the hole, I tried to throw a piece of mud away half the size of a golf ball but couldn't. I'm not the physical type at the best of times.

But I did it. My wife was there constantly, shoving clay and doing everything she could to help.

We'd laid lenny in our bathroom. We left the extractor fan going full continuously. When we went to fetch him and place him in the box I had for him, he looked unchanged. He might have been asleep. I have never known a dog to stay the same - usually there's obvious signs, especially after a couple of days. I honestly think it was a gift to us, so that our last view of him could be as if he were asleep.

It was a physically and emotionally exhausting time. I've never known clay so hard. I've broken up concrete before, but this was harder. I buried my parents dog - Chip. I buried Lenny's brother, Charlie, who lived with my wife's parents next door. That was hard - in every way - because he'd always been close to us and looked on me as a protector. But Lenny's was the hardest. But we always did our best for him since the day we drove to Halls Gap to pick him up, and we weren't going to stop now. So we did it.

The grave was (i must admit) the best hole i've made. The sides were very straight, and even the edges were crisp. It acutally looked professional - if not so deep and smaller.

Despite the pain in doing it, I needed to do it for him. I couldn't get help - it didn't seem right. It seemed as if only myself and my wife were entitled to do this. He needed a proper resting place and we needed to provide it.

I think it helped us a lot. From some of my posts you might wonder! But I'm still here (just) 3 weeks later. true, I did cry my eyes out again last night - everytime I am not totally distracted, I lose it. But I could not have gone on if I hadn't done my best for him with my last gift.

We'll do a bit of tidying up round the grave, maybe a small ornamental fence, and a little headstone. Nothing too gawdy or gothic. Just a sweet reminder of a sweet heart - as if I needed a reminder. My Lenny, though, is not down there. Part of him has gone elsewhere, and part of him remains with me. His final gift to me.



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post May 5 2008, 09:14 PM
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That was a labor of love for your Lenny. I can understand why you took such meticulous care in preparing his resting place. Though you say "goodbye for now," one say you "say hello."
Planting a tree in remembrance of Lenny is a wonderful tribute to him and demonstrates just how much you love him. wub.gif May you and your wife find peace and comfort in knowing your Lenny rests in a place of love.


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Lenny's Dad
post May 24 2008, 07:52 AM
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We havent done anything with his grave yet. We want it to be nice but have been back and forward with my wife's mother in hospital.

That has the effect of distracting me, which gets me through a lot of the day, but all I have to do is look at his picture, or think about him and I'm a mess. I still can't believe it has happenned and I still can't cope with it. I just want to get into the picture of him and hold him.

I look at some of the later pictures and think about how he was in the end, and I know I did the best for him. But its still hard.

I created a book about him a few months ago. I got a couple of extra copies and gave them to the two vets in Lennys life. One hadn't seen him for a while but he was very pleased to receive a photographic record of Lennys life. The vet who came in to help him to sleep cried when she saw the book. She's a lovely lady, and it's good to know that it's not just us who obviously were so affected by my darling doggy.

He left a legacy of love.


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