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lynette
post May 25 2009, 09:44 AM
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It's been seven weeks since we had to send Hunny to meet Lily. I still miss her so very much. Most of the day is fine, but every once in a while it's just like being hit by a tidal wave. Just a sudden wash of pain and sorrow for both Hunny and Lily. I can't believe it's been 11 months since Lily had to leave. I wish I could see them again. I have them both on a pet memorial site too, but I find it hard to go there since Hunny left. It's such an empty feeling without them, even though we have four other dogs. It's not the same. I wish they could have lived a lot longer. I sure hope these pups live to a ripe old age.

Just having a blue morning I guess.
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post May 25 2009, 01:27 PM
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Hello, I'm very sorry for your two losses and wish you the best to you and your family and most of all to your sweet babys up in Heaven, God Bless you all. Hugs, Jorge wub.gif Attached File  Buster_and_Jorge_2.jpg ( 29.21K ) Number of downloads: 1
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lynette
post May 25 2009, 01:45 PM
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Thank you so much.
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Trulie
post May 25 2009, 06:52 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. It has been just over a month since I lost Pepper and I have good days and bad days, sometimes I find I just feel like crying and other times in the day I feel o.k. Today I was feeling sad as she used to love to be outside in the nice weather. I can't imagine losing two dogs so close together. My dog was only 6 1/2 when she died. I will be getting new puppy on June 13/09. I hope too that the new pup will live to a ripe old age. It is sad to lose them at a young age. My thoughts are with you.
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post May 25 2009, 07:00 PM
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It's been 5 weeks since my boy went to Heaven and I, too, have good days and bad days. yesterday was a bad one and I cried alot. Today is a bit better. I agree, it's twice as bad to lose them when they're young. My boy was only 7 when he left me. I have started searching for a new puppy and I am looking for a breeder who focus's on health and longevity as well as temperament. I miss my boy, but I also miss having a dog in the house. Does anyone else feel torn between wanting another and feeling that it's disrepctful to the one I'm grieving for to get another so soon? This emotional tug-of-war with myself is also causing me a lot of sleepless nights. I'll say a prayer for you and wish everyone on this site peace.

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post May 25 2009, 08:23 PM
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QUOTE (Hslesgirl @ May 25 2009, 08:00 PM) *
It's been 5 weeks since my boy went to Heaven and I, too, have good days and bad days. yesterday was a bad one and I cried alot. Today is a bit better. I agree, it's twice as bad to lose them when they're young. My boy was only 7 when he left me. I have started searching for a new puppy and I am looking for a breeder who focus's on health and longevity as well as temperament. I miss my boy, but I also miss having a dog in the house. Does anyone else feel torn between wanting another and feeling that it's disrepctful to the one I'm grieving for to get another so soon? This emotional tug-of-war with myself is also causing me a lot of sleepless nights. I'll say a prayer for you and wish everyone on this site peace.

Carol

Carol, I am feeling the same emotional tug-of-war that you describe. At first I couldn't bear the thought of a new cat. Now I'm starting to think a kitten would cheer me up. It will be nice to have a new pet, but at the same time, I feel like I will never love another the way I loved Sydney, so I will never experience quite the same joy that she brought to my life. That makes me very sad.
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Hslesgirl
post May 25 2009, 09:38 PM
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QUOTE (Jess @ May 25 2009, 09:23 PM) *
Carol, I am feeling the same emotional tug-of-war that you describe. At first I couldn't bear the thought of a new cat. Now I'm starting to think a kitten would cheer me up. It will be nice to have a new pet, but at the same time, I feel like I will never love another the way I loved Sydney, so I will never experience quite the same joy that she brought to my life. That makes me very sad.


Thank you very much for your response. You'd be surprised how many people I know who wouldn't give getting another a second thought! I just keep wondering if I rush into it would I ever love the new puppy like I did Austin or worse yet, constantly compare it to Austin. That wouldn't be fair to the puppy.
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post May 25 2009, 09:56 PM
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Hsles - You might compare personalities, but I don't think you would think one was better than the other, or anything like that. We got a new cat when one of the two died (reluctantly, but the other cat drove this decision) but it's a NEW animal, not a replacement for the previous one. Maybe you saved it. In any case, you will give it a good home. It will not replace your previous pet, but if you loved your previous pet (obviously) that loss leaves a gap. Give your love to a new pet, you are not disrespecting the previous animal in any way. In fact, it is a sign of respect, in that the previous animal was a very important part of your life. Give another animal a loving home.
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Trulie
post May 26 2009, 01:02 AM
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I was torn about getting a new puppy but I too miss having a dog in the house. I miss Pepper like crazy and no other dog can replace her and at times I am torn but I still have so much love to give and there is a puppy that needs a home and somone to love her. No dog can replace Pepper I feel I am meeting a new friend, I also think is it possible that I can love another dog as much as Pepper, but I had dogs before Pepper that died and I thought the same thing when they died and I loved Pepper so much. I find all the dogs had their own personality and I loved them all for their uniqueness. I had a dream last night of Pepper the first I have had since she died and it felt so real that she was here that I missed her alot today. There are going to be good days and bad days for sure for many months to come.
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lynette
post May 26 2009, 09:30 AM
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Thanks to everyone who replied. And I'm so sorry for your losses.

A new pet will never replace the one you lost. And you will not love them like you loved your old friend. You will love them, and you will love them just as much, but it'll be different. They all have different personalities and there are other pets out there who need someone to love and take care of them.

We adopted Izzy about ten days after we lost Lily. Maybe it was karma. Because we lost Lily June 24, and Izzy was surrended by a puppy mill breeder on that very same day. Sometimes, I like to think that Lily left so that we could give love to another needy animal. We also rescued Lily when she was 18 months, so she knew the value of a new home. We have since adopted two more since then. Hunny had the chance to know all of them. And then, just three weeks after we lost Hunny, George came into our lives. Karma again? I was walking our pups one day when I mentioned to my daughter that maybe we need a big dog to protect our beagles from the neighbours big dogs. And then just two days later George showed up at my work. We believe that some one dumped him. He's about a year old. My husband believes that Hunny sent him to watch over the pups. Nice thought, but I'm not so sure about that.

Anyway, if you loved your beloved pet so much, I'm sure you all have room in your hearts to love another. It does hurt so very much when we lose them, but I for one, would never have missed the time that I had with each and every one of them. They have a special place in my heart, and they took a huge chunk of it when they went to heaven. I miss them all so very much and some days it just hurts so much. But I feel sorry for people who have never known the love of a pet. They are missing out on so much.

When you're ready - you'll find that next special baby and you'll love them with all of your heart. Like they say it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. And I believe that it is not disrespectful to find another one. When Lily left, Hunny missed her so much. When we got Izzy, then Barney and then Casey, Hunny opened her heart to each of them even though she was sick. I think they helped her live as long as she did. Unfortunately she only had two weeks with Casey.

I am not a religious person, but I do believe in ghosts, so there must be another life after this one. And I had such a hard time when Lily left. Finally, after about six months, it popped into my head, what if she is trapped here and can't move on because I miss her so much? I couldn't bear the thought of her being trapped in between worlds. So, I think it was at that moment, that I "let" her go. I let her spirit move onto the Rainbow Bridge. I needed to believe that she was in a good place, and that she was happy and healthy and having so much fun. I didn't want her to be holding on to me. Her happiness meant so much to me. It was only then that I was able to move forward (as much as I could with Hunny being so sick). And now Hunny is with Lily and they are both together. That brings me so much peace. They belonged together. And one day I hope to see them again. But until then, I need for them to be happy and healthy. At this point, my happiness is not as important as knowing that they are together and that they are happy and whole again. I imagine them plodding and running through lush green fields and meadows. And traipsing through water filled ditches. That is what they loved to do.

Anyway, take care everyone. There are so many unfortunate cats and dogs out there who are so desperate for love. Even though they only get to stay with us for a little while, remember how good it feels to love a precious baby.

My thoughts are with each and every one of you.
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lynette
post Jun 2 2009, 11:38 AM
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I am missing my babies so much today. I can't stop crying. I can't believe that it will be a year June 24 since we lost Lily, and ten weeks this Saturday since we let Hunny join her. I'm at work right now and all I want to do is crawl into a hole and bawl my eyes out.

I miss them so much it hurts.
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lynette
post Jun 15 2009, 11:35 AM
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I know this is probably not what this site is for, but:

Dear Hunny and Lily.

I miss you both so very much right now. I can't believe that it will be a year June 24th Lily. I miss you as much today as I did when you left us so suddenly last year. And Hunny I miss you too. I wish I could hold you both tight and never let you go. I just feel so empty at the moment. Just having another blue moment. It doesn't take much to trigger a strong wave of emotion for you both. They just played your song on the radio Hunny. That always makes me cry.

The pups are doing fine. Sometimes, I wonder if your still with us Hunny, cos every once in a while Izzy will just look around the room, but high up. It's like she's looking at something. I hope it's you that she sees. You too Lily. I know you never had the chance to meet Izzy, but I like to think that you left so that she could have a chance at a good life, just like you had. God, I miss you both so much. I wish you could come home.

Finally looks like we're gonna get some summer. You both loved this time of year, cos we always went for walks and you two could wander around the field or just run off ahead. I miss our walks so much. Don't do that very often now. Just too difficult with four dogs. The beagles just want to sniff the ground and it takes them ages just to walk half a mile. Oh well, maybe that will change as they get older. I like to just sit on the front deck and "watch" you both walking to Nan's.

Oh well, better go now. I just wanted to let you both know how much I am missing you.

I love you both with my heart and soul. I wish I could just hold you again. Hunny, I guess it's time we buried your ashes eh? I just can't seem to let go. Lily, I mean no disrespect by not laying Hunny next to you. I wish we would have had you cremated too and then both of you could stay with me forever.

I love you both.

Love Mum.
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post Jun 15 2009, 02:25 PM
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Lynette,

I wish I could just hug you and cry together. It's only been 8 days since Sammie left me and the pain is still so very raw. I haven't cried much today (which makes me feel guilty) but I have this horrible chest pain. Breathing in and out hurts. It is a rainy, gloomy old day and I wish I was home with Sammie curled up on the couch being lazy. The more I am reading and studying things I believe your babies and my Sammie can see us. I believe they will make themselvers known by either a dream, a vision, a smell or watching your other pets looking up at them. I think that is a definite sign that both of your babies are still there in spirit. It still sucks b/c I want to hug and kiss her not imagine her spirit. I think I'm getting mad now and I'm not even sure at what. I'm just mad this hurts so bad and I'm mad our babies had to leave us. I went to Barnes and Noble and bought the book "All Pets Go to Heaven" and I'm hoping to find some comfort in that. I'll let you know if it helps me. Try to do anything to keep your mind on something else. Look at me telling you to do this when I can't figure out how to do it myself. Minute by minute, day by day is all we can do. One thing I'm sure of right now.....you loved your dogs and they knew it. They were loved and cherished and loved you so much back. My friend keeps telling me that all the love Sammie gave me is worth far more than the pain I feel now that she is gone. I know that is true but wow is it devastating. I hope the next hour is better than the last for you.

Melanie
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lynette
post Jun 15 2009, 03:52 PM
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Melanie - you are so kind. I wish the pain could go away and that they were back here with us. I know it will fade in time, but yes, I still feel guilty if I don't shed a tear when I think of them. Not that that happens very often. I know they all knew that they were loved. And the thought that they are watching over us is very comforting.
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lynette
post Jun 22 2009, 12:03 PM
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Another blue day. Recently, I've found myself wondering if Hunny would still be alive if we hadn't put her to sleep. I miss her and Lily so much. I can't believe that it will be a year since we lost Lily. I love them both so much.
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post Jun 23 2009, 12:38 AM
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I know just how you feel Lynette, I wonder too if my Buddy wld still be here if I hadn't had him put to sleep. We ask ourselves some strange questions indeed.
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lynette
post Jun 24 2009, 09:17 AM
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One year today we lost our precious Lily. I can't believe it! I miss her so much.

It has been such a long year. Probably the worst of my entire life. First Lily left us so suddenly and unexpectedly, then Hunny got sick - she left us this past April. It has been such a long recovery. Losing two precious angels in less than a year I'm surprised I survived it this well. But then I guess I haven't had much choice. Life doesn't stop because I lost my babies.

Still haven't buried Hunny's ashes next to Lily. Just can't seem to bring myself to do that. There is some kind of comfort having Hunny sitting in the living room. I just wish that we would have had Lily cremated. She could be there too.

I hope that they are both happy and healthy once again. I'm so proud of the way Hunny handled her awful disease. Lily would have been proud of her too. I know Hunny missed Lily so much and maybe if Lily had still been here Hunny would have beat the cancer. Maybe, such a big dream.

I hope that they are running through the lush green fields up there, or wherever they are. I hope that aren't missing us too much. We miss them, but we need for them to be happy until we are together again.

Hunny, Lily - we miss you so much. We love you with all of our hearts and will forever. Keep having fun. Till we meet again my babies - I love you. Hugs and kisses from us all.

Love you both.

Love Mum.
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post Jun 24 2009, 10:37 AM
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Lynette,

I am sending hugs your way today on the 1 year mark of losing Hunny. With all my heart I believe that Hunny and Lily are together romping around having the very best time of their lives and will see you again someday and it will be even more amazing than when they were here on Earth with you. That doesn't stop the pain or the intense sense of loss in our hearts I know but hopefully you can find comfort in that. I've read so many of your posts to other people and you really are helping others by sharing. You have a wonderful heart. May God give you peace and comfort today.
Melanie
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lynette
post Jun 24 2009, 11:35 AM
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Thanks so much Melanie.
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lynette
post Jul 30 2009, 04:23 PM
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To my dear babies, Hunny and Lily.

Today is my birthday and I feel lost and empty without you here to share it with me. Last year was really tough because you had already left Lily, but this year both of you are not here.

I miss you both so much. I sure hope that you are happy together - wherever you are. And I hope that you are close by and watching over all of us. I would love a visit from you sometime.

It's getting easier, but still have waves of emotion. The pups are doing well. Barney and Casey are into everything, specially Casey. Izzy is doing really well. It seems that since George showed up she's really started to come out of her shell. She listens when we call her, she plays with the others more. She is definitely a lot more relaxed now. Still has her moments, but that may never change. I know they all miss you Hunny, except George of course, he never had the honour of knowing either of you. I know they would have all loved you Lily. Hopefully, one day we will all be together again.

Carly's doing well. She's bored at home now though. I keep telling her to call her friends, but she says she can't be bothered. She's reading lots and doing puzzles.

Dad's good too.

Anyway, just needed to write this down. I miss you both so much and I will always love you with every beat of my heart.

Love always.

Mum.
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