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JenniferLynn
post Oct 13 2005, 07:09 AM
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Hi. I just found this forum in my desperate search for something to help me.

I have two doggies we've adopted from the shelter. My first, Freddy, is 11. I got him 10 years ago. It's along story but he came into my life at a time of great turmoil and grief. By all accounts, I should not have even been able to adopt him but I did and he has been my heart ever since.

My husband and I are childess by choice, preferring to focus on our dogs. We are also big supporters of animal rescue and the work of the IDA, ALDF, ASPCA and HSUS. We didn't even take vacations for the first 8 years we had Freddy because we didn't want to leave him (and then his "brother"). Finally, last year, we went away for 5 days but my brother houesitted--no way do they go to a kennel.

I had always convinced myself that Freddy, a small, mixed breed, would be one of those dogs who lived until 15, 16 or even 17.... but on Tuesday night, he just collapsed out of the blue and we rished him to the emergency room. To make a long and painful story shorter, he has extensive cancer in hsi spleen and liver. This type of cancer creates blood blisters on the organs and one had burst,causing internal bleeding...this is what caused him to collapse (blood pressure drops rapidly).

It was a difficult decision but we went ahead and had them do surgery, hoping against grim odds that perhaps it had not spread or the growths were benign. Unfortunately, his liver is covered with spots and although the biopsy isn't back yet, the surgeon said it was "textbook" for malignancy.

They tell us chemo won't do much good.... and that given the advanced stages of the disease, he is probably looking at 1-2 months. My mind doesn't comprehend this--they took out the diseased spleen...shouldn't that help???? They tell us that what will happen is, we'll bring him home and he'll eventually have these bleeding episodes until the "big one" comes, at which time, we'll bring him in and probably have to consider putting him asleep. Good news is that he looks good post-op...I am hoping to see him today, as they told us not to come last night becasue it wouldn't be good for him. I wanted to wait there all night but we had tot ake care of Elmo, his brother, who is confused and sad...

I feel like the world has gone dark. I feel like a body with no soul. I want him home and am wondering if putting him through the surgery was a mistake. I am praying so hard that we get some time with him...do you think there can be a miracle? Maybe he'll live a year or somethting?

It took every last cent we had to pay for the surgery and I am worried I am going to lose my job if I can't focus and go back to work...but what happens when he leaves us? I feel like I won't be able to go on....I can't stop crying now and calling his name.... What will happen to me? I just want to be with my beloved Freddy.

And I feel so guilty....why didn't I see anythign sooner? But he was so normal--he acted like a 2 yr old! So sprightly and lively....then all of a sudden....how can this happen????? I don't understand... And I feel so guilty about my Elmo.... I love him but all I want is my Freddy.... maybe this is happening because I am a horrible person? They say that Freddy isn't suffering... that the bleeding episodes cause the fatigue and collapse but not pain....

I just don't know what to do...I am so lost. I am screaming, "NO" inside....and I can trick myself into periods of 3 or 4 minutes where I pretend it's okay.....then my mind floods...What if he dies while we are at work? What am i going to do with his precous and most beautiful little body? Is there anything I can do? What about healers? I can't quit my job.... I feel like I am slowly being buried.

I see everyone here is struggling and coping....I know my pain is not unique...but I feel so alone. Please tell me what to do.

Here is my most beloved soul:
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post Oct 13 2005, 08:57 PM
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The biggest thing I want you to do is know you are filled with LOVE for your baby ~ the sudden physical ailments our animals suc%%b to make us feel so helpless and as you said so well a body without a soul ~ however the best thing we can do is muster up all the LOVE we possibly can and emit that to these sweet angels as they go through these trying events of their lives ~ Of course they do not deserve this ~ however it is something that although we do everything we possibly can to avoid it there are times when the little guys have to face these challenges ~ the biggest and best thing to do is trust your love and use it to strengthen your spirit so you can move forward to reach your dear one with a golden and pink cloud of protection ~ this can be done even if you are not physically present because we are connected to them at such a different level ~ animals live in a totally different realm and as their companions they allow us to glimpse it and be part of it together with them ~ I send you comfort and peace as you face this trying time ~ I cannot begin to know how you must feel but please know above all you are NOT ALONE ~ May You Find the Peace in the LOVE you have ~ My thoughts are with you ~ In Kindness and Peace ~ Kathryn


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Peace Be With You ~ Kathryn ~ Angel Amber ~ Angel CC~ and Sammie

I lost my Amber Tabby Girl of nearly 20 years on 3/28/05 after a valiant battle with end stage CRF. Always a beacon in the storm ~ steady and true.

C.C was my purebred White Angora I lost to cancer on 10/22/05 at age 13~ A Big Gentle yet Oddly Eccentric Creature ~Through his congenital deaf ness ~He brought an innocent joy to my life and light to my heart

I also adopted an 8 yr old Burmese named Samantha who led me back into my own room ~ still a stranger to me ~ she sweetly gives peace to Amber's final days spent there and lights my way to see in the darkness of the spaces that my precious CC has left behind.
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post Oct 13 2005, 09:46 PM
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I'm not sure where you're employed, but if you don't have vacation or sick leave available, maybe you could take a leave of absence? Or, if you have a close relative that is getting on in years, and could use some assistance, maybe you may try to get time off work using FMLA? And if your dog also benefits from your presence at home, hey all the better . cool.gif
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JenniferLynn
post Oct 13 2005, 10:21 PM
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Thank you for your replies. smile.gif

Luv_my _catz, your words are wonderful and I am gearing up to wrap my Freddy is that love--I have to be positive for him, because, as you say, they know things about us and sense our energy and my eneregy must exude hope and love and encouragement towards him.

As for work, I am going in tomorrow and talking to my bosses. they are nice people and I am hopeful they will work with me--there is no other choice for me... Freddy and being with him are the most important things right now. My husband and talked and we think we have a plan to get Freddy through post op/recovery, then daily maintenance...I can work from home 2-3 days a week and my husband can come home at intervals during the day otherwise and my mom can come (she has a lot of vacation) on days we can't be home for some reason. We have to try to protect our jobs, as that money will allow us to provide the best care for Freddy. he is at one of the ebst veterinary hospitals on the east coast right now... We are sparing no expense and will use up all of credit cards if we have to.

The FMLA sugegstion is great as a back-up plan. I have a very sick grandfather (in fact, I was out of work for a few days last month to be with him when he had his heart attack)...

As for my beloved, he looks good considering and his incision is healing very well...he doesn't want to eat but they say that is not unusal right after surgery. I spent 2 hrs with him this afternoon and we just got back from another hour. They think he can come home tomorrow. I am happy in this very "false" way...happy he will be home but knowing that the real picture is very finite. I told him today about all the treats I am going to make for him....and all the naps and snuglging (his favorite activity anyway) we'll be doing.

Thank you...this forum is amazing. I have read--and cried--through many of the stories here...the ONLY thing that helps me cling to sanity is knowing I am not alone... there are others who appreciate the beauty of these companions and understand their gifts.

wodner if anyoen has any experience with this type of cancer ...here is a link: LINK

Do any homeopathic remedies help? They are discouraging chemo...but I don't know.... I want to make the best decision for my Freddy, not for us.

here he is just last week.... my most precious love.
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post Oct 14 2005, 03:05 PM
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My heart goes out to you. I just lost my precious dog Rudy on September 25. I am heartbroken, both from his death and from his illness. He was 10. He had kidney cancer. He started to show symptoms in January but tests showed nothing, and it was not diagnosed until late July, when he was more sick. At that time the vet believed it was a mass on his spleen, and he wanted to do exploratory surgery (because of the danger you mention, of a sudden bleed). I took him to a specialist instead who was able to determine that it was advanced kidney cancer that had spread to his lymph nodes, and that he was not a good candidate for conventional therapy. We were told that Rudy would not live longer than a month.

He was still fairly vital at that time, and so we didn't give up hope. We found a holistic veterinarian. Although she couldn't save him, and I wish he lived a lot longer, I credit her with giving Rudy a good quality of life for two months, until two days before he died. Had his cancer not been so advanced, he may even have lived longer.

My parents dog, Hobo, died of bone cancer at age 8 1/2 in 2004. He lived a year after being diagnosed, and until a couple of weeks before he died, he had a high quality of life, too.

You may be able to find a holistic vet near you by visiting the American Holistic Veterinary Society http://www.ahvma.org/referral/index.html

I highly recommend a book by Dr. Martin Goldstein, a holistic vet, called The Nature of Animal Healing. Do research on the Internet - it is amazing how many resources you will find.

Some things we learned from these experiences that may help. Cook a homemade diet, with 90-95% meat and no more than 5-10% carbohydrates (such as brown rice, white potatoes, or veggies such as broccoli or brussell sprouts). Add salmon oil to your dog's diet. There are several other supplements, including vacustatin, co-enzyme 10, artemesinine, chi-ko & cur%%a, SAM-e, and l-glutamine, new life colostrum that might help. A high quality multivitamin is another good addition to the diet. Hydrazine sulfate might help to stop the weight loss associated with cancer (if you use HS be sure to follow the dietary and vitamin guidelines for things to avoid feeding.) (That said, when all else fails and your pet doesn't feel like eating, let him eat anything he wants.)

Most important, shower him with affection, and cherish every moment. Do the things he loves. Try not to be too sad around him (I know this is hard), he will take cues from you. If you are a spiritual person, pray.

We didn't want to leave Rudy when we had to be gone from home, either. We both used a lot of vacation time. I worked a lot at home, and when I couldn't, my husband came home every day at lunch time and immediately after work. It was hard sometimes, but we made it work. People at our jobs were more understanding than we expected.

Please know that you and your precious (what an adorable picture!) are in my thoughts. Remember to take care of yourself a little, too.
Gina
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JenniferLynn
post Oct 14 2005, 10:20 PM
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Freddy came home today. He is doing well post op. We will have a consultation in 10 days with the oncologist to decide on chemo....I am inclined to try it. Dogs handle chemo much better than people do and if he is in the minority who don't, we'll just stop it. Can you do chemo and holistic medicine/diet? I am indeed looking up holistic vets in my area (I feel lucky--2 are within 20 min.)

Unfortunately, we are on a day-to-day basis. He could go at any moment--literally--but the average survival for this is 19-65 days without chemo--a bit better with. I am focusing on enjoying every minute with him and loving him.

I am facing a difficult decsion. I am considering tyring to get a LOA from work and to ease finances, selling my wedding rings. I don't want to make any rash decisions but I am thinking about it. When I look back on my life, I want to know I was with Freddy as much as possible, not sitting at a stupid office. Things like "career" and stuff just don't mean anything to me now.

Unfortunately, we have run though our reserves between recent emergency home repairs and Freddy's medical bills and the chemo will cost several thousand more.... If I sell my rings, we could easily live for 6-8 months on one salary without incurring additional debt and pay for the chemo too.

My boss seemed nice initially when I went back to the office today but later in the day today she made a comment that made me unsure of how she really feels...she had said I could work from home 2-3 days a week but already is giving me grief about Monday... When I said I just didn't know about how Freddy would do home and what kind of care/supervision he would need, she just looked at me funny. I am angry. I am frustrated. I think others who are not close to you and can understand worry about how your "dog problem" will cause them inconvenience.

My mom is coming over to see if her laptop for work works here and then she can come down on days I have to work in the office....at least if he passes, she'll be here. As evidenced by her generosity, she loves him very much too. I have 24 vacation days left. I am going to see how this week goes...then make some decisions.

So we're day to day here...it is a bizarre world--happy to have him but terrified that the next minute will be THE minute the tumor ruptures that will kills him. The days ahead are very dark and I am struggling.... I really feel at moments that I can't do it.... All i see when i look ahead is an endless stream of days without my beloved soul... He is in every part of my being...he is dying, so I am dying.

Gina, many many heartfelt thanks for your post. smile.gif I especially appreciate your mention of your work arrangements--it gives me more hope that I can work it out--my husband can come home at lunch too--he works MUCH closer to our home than I do.

PS I can't eat or sleep....I tried to eat today and I threw up.
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post Oct 15 2005, 03:24 PM
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You poor dear ~ I have read your recent post and again I have to say that it gives me such inspiration to read the dedication and love that you are manifesting for your dear angel ~ my 13 year old Angora cat named CC is recouperating from surgery to remove a mast cell tumor (9/17) ~ they told me these are normally 99% benign in cats but because he is not eating his normal boat loads of food and I am a basket case over that - I just lost his "step sister" in March ~aged 20 years after a long siege with CRF ~ I am also at that stage of not being able to eat or sleep in my room ~ I stay downstairs with him ~ (I have another 8 year old Burmese I recently rescued from the Shelter living in the Master BR) I keep thinking about how I wish he could talk to me and tell me if he is feeling weak or happy or what ~ to complicate things he was born deaf and cannot even hear my words of comfort ~ I completely empathize with you and send prayers of comfort and love

I repeat what I said earlier in my other post to you ~

Of course they do not deserve this ~ however it is something that although we do everything we possibly can to avoid it there are times when the little guys have to face these challenges ~ the biggest and best thing to do is trust your love and use it to strengthen your spirit so you can move forward to reach your dear one with a golden and pink cloud of protection ~ this can be done even if you are not physically present because we are connected to them at such a different level ~ animals live in a totally different realm and as their companions they allow us to glimpse it and be part of it together with them ~ I send you comfort and peace as you face this trying time ~ I cannot begin to know how you must feel but please know above all you are NOT ALONE ~ May You Find the Peace in the LOVE you have ~ My thoughts are with you ~ In Kindness and Peace ~

Kathryn


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Peace Be With You ~ Kathryn ~ Angel Amber ~ Angel CC~ and Sammie

I lost my Amber Tabby Girl of nearly 20 years on 3/28/05 after a valiant battle with end stage CRF. Always a beacon in the storm ~ steady and true.

C.C was my purebred White Angora I lost to cancer on 10/22/05 at age 13~ A Big Gentle yet Oddly Eccentric Creature ~Through his congenital deaf ness ~He brought an innocent joy to my life and light to my heart

I also adopted an 8 yr old Burmese named Samantha who led me back into my own room ~ still a stranger to me ~ she sweetly gives peace to Amber's final days spent there and lights my way to see in the darkness of the spaces that my precious CC has left behind.
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JenniferLynn
post Oct 16 2005, 10:11 PM
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Kathryn, thank you. i have been working on myself (with the help of my mom, husband and grandmother) to get control. I am throwing myself into figuring out the "canine cancer diet" and herbal supplements... Plus, I have elarned (too late) some horrible things about commercial pet foods and want to get an organic brand for both my dogs asap....

The Internet is at once wonderful and overwhelming...so much info...dogs with hemangiosarcoma dying after 2 days post op....another living 4.5 YEARS after surgery without chemo! Dozens of pages about herbs and diets.... I am trying to wade through it all. We go to the oncologist in about a week (will know tomorrow when i call for the appt.)...we'll see...

Back to the office tomorrow...mom is coming to stay with freddy...one day at a time...

Thank you. smile.gif
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JenniferLynn
post Oct 25 2005, 10:20 PM
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We saw the Oncologist today and unfortunately, Freddy is in Stage III of his cancer and is not a candidate for chemotherapy. We pressed and she said she's normally willing to try but although most dogs tolerate chemo well, it's the dogs with advanced disease like Freddy who tend to get sick. She was very much against even trying at this point.

The knowledge I have reluctantly gained from countless hours I have spent reading about this wicked disease confirms what this doctor is saying to me. Our regular vet spoke very very highly of her, as have others. My mind began racing, "We'll take him to new York City...We'll take him to Cornell or UPenn for experimental treatments..." But he's had the best conventional veterinary medicine has to offer and it's just too late. We just can't beat this cancer.

So, we are focusing on making him happy--which he is...he has no idea he has cancer...One day...maybe in a week...maybe in 2 weeks, or a month, he will start to bleed uncontrollably inside and we'll know....And we'll have to end his suffering. There are no heroic measures with this disease--I asked about every remedy possible so i could "get ready"... but transfusions only prolong an inevitable death. Nothing can fix it when the "big bleed" happens.

His physical body is dying and I can't fight this. No matter what I do, or how hard I work, I can't win. But I can fight to hang on to what Freddy truly is--a wonderful, beautiful soul who came and saved me, and I can't lose the person I have worked so hard to become, the person Freddy saved and loved and nurtured. I feel like I am standing on the precipice of a great and vast darkness. I am staring into its depths and it feels endless and hopeless...there is no joy and no love and no happiness... But I know I have to step back and hang on.. And the love and thoughts and prayers from all the people aorund me are what pushes me back from this edge.

I ask God to keep Freddy free of pain. I ask Him to arm me with the wisdom to know when I have to let Freddy go and the strength to do it. I ask Him to give us a miracle but understand if He can't. I will breathe in my beloved soul Freddy each day until he has to leave me. I encourage you all to love richly and freely and joyously, and live like there is no tomorrow when it comes to showing those close to you how much you love them. Today is all we really have.
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post Oct 26 2005, 11:24 AM
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Jennifer Lynn,
I hear you...I was exactly where you are now, back in August. Your attitude, about focusing on now and enjoying every moment, is right on. I also encourage you to try whatever holistic remedies you can manage (a healthy homemade diet being #1 and not that difficult to accomplish). The chance that alternative practices can save him are not great - but they may be able to extend his life a little - and even if not, they often improve the quality of whatever time is left. I'm thinking of you, and your adorable Freddie.
Gina
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post Oct 28 2005, 02:29 PM
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I am so sorry Jennifer.
It is so horrible to lose a pet.
There is nothing I can say to make you feel better.
I can only say that I am there for you and thinking about you and your faithful friend.
You wrote me such a wonderful post the other day about my dog Snowy, who died last week.
We miss her like crazy.
My mom doesn't want to live anymore.
My dad can't stop crying.
I feel like my world has turned upside down.
Snowy's death was sudden too. She was doing pretty good and then the pancreatitis hit and a week later she was gone.
All I can say is to make your dog as comfortable as possible. And tell him how much you love and appreciate him. Thank him for all of the good times and try to remember them when he passes. Our pets love us so much and wouldn't want us to be sad.
I will pray so hard for your best friend. Please know I am thinking and praying for the both of you.
Love Wendy
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JenniferLynn
post Oct 28 2005, 11:03 PM
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Gina & Wendy, thank you for your notes--they have truly warmed my heart.

I am doing a holistic regime for Freddy: homemade diet for canine cancer and supplements. Through a friend, I was able to consult a holistic specialist. I agree--if it can get him to Christmas (a miracle here), I'll be elated...But, I can't think about that--just today--and tyring to do the best for him today....I took off of work today and spent it with my babies...we snuggled and I cooked their homemade diet for them and we had a great day. biggrin.gif

Wendy, your note breaks my heart--I know about feeling like I don't want to live--I am FIGHTING this feeling every day...I have a great life but it just seems like without Freddy, it'll be miserable. Please hang on...My thoughts and love go out to your family...I am praying for you...please stay strong.

Jenn
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JenniferLynn
post Nov 7 2005, 10:31 AM
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We lost our magnificent angel Freddy yesterday, November 6, 2005. He collapsed in the afternoon, and we held him in our bed until about 9:15 when his soul left his little body. He was 25 days post-surgery. He was 11 years old. Even in his passing, he gifted us--we were allowed to hold him and love him up until God took him. Up until the moment he collapsed, he was loving his little life, playing in his yard yesterday and eating his roast chicken dinner...

The brave words I have written have left me now. I am struggling to breathe. The physical pain is unbearable. I am so afraid. It's all so dark. I see all the little black woolies on the carpet from his magnificent body... I touch the clip of beautiful hair I took from his precious head and kiss it and ache and cry out into the silence and he doesn't come.
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post Nov 7 2005, 12:16 PM
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Dear Jennifer, my heart goes out to you. Honestly, I think there is nothing I can say that will help very much, except perhaps that the passing of time does heal. My Rudy has been gone six weeks (yesterday) and I am starting to recover. Take care, try to rest and to eat, and when you feel up to it, post here. I have found this list to be a haven.
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post Nov 7 2005, 11:39 PM
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Jennifer, I'm so sorry. sad.gif
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Jennifer Lynn:
I see you have not posted anything for awhile and I worried about you. I know we never met, but your words have expressed the depth of my sadness regarding the loss of previous pets and the impending loss of my beloved kitty Maddie. I just want you to know you are NOT alone. Please look to your support systems, especially your faith during this difficult time. I am trying to tell myself that God would want me to continue on and not give up on life. I know that you were given a wonderful gift of love from your sweet baby for 10 years. I know he is going to be there to greet you someday soon in the next stage of life. I hope and pray you are well.
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post Jan 14 2006, 10:56 AM
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Gina, your thoughtfulness and kindness are so very, very much appreciated and heartwarming. I must have felt the positive vibes coming my way from you and checked in here today... I haven't been around for a while because life has taken some strange yet hopeful twists.

After Freddy passed, I thought I was going to die. He was my "life dog," the love of my life (yes, even my husband knows Freddy was the true love of my entire life). I was in a bad, bad place... Then, I picked myself up after a week and went back to work. Our surviving dog Elmo was very depressed. It was all so sad and hopeless. We were all going through the motions.

I wondered if I'd ever be happy again? Would life ever be good again? The house was so empty and lonely. We all just sat around, as if waiting for Freddy. I kept looking for a sign from him... a glimpse, a sound, a feeling, a dream....I kept a candle continuously lit in the window for him to light his way abck to me...But nothing came.

Then, one day, much to my own surprise, I visited petfinder.com on a whim. And there I happened upon a picture that went straight to my heart. To make a long story short, we ended up adopting two VERY neglected abandoned animals. The pair had been together since birth and were dumped in a shelter where they were horribly neglected and mistreated. They both had bilateral ear infections, worms, and skin infections, and were horribly filthy and had been shaved down to nothing with bald spots.... Max, the boy "lhasapoo", had a limp also and Peppy, the girl--supposedly a Lhasa Apso but doens't really look or act like a purebread Lhasa, had chronic bloody diarrhea too from eating somehting she shouldn't have... We have been very busy nursing them back to health and I am so happy to report they are doing wonderfully. Elmo has warmed up to them and I can see he feels so much better in a "pack" that includes some canine buddies. I can tell he still misses his Freddy--as we all do--but he is doing so much better. He used to just go and sit in the corner.... it was heartbreaking.

I am shocked and amazed at how this has happened. My grief for Freddy is still here--I still have crying episodes and moments of longing for him that are so painful and piercing that I almost can't breath... And my love for him is eternal and constant and omnipresent... and completely separate from what's going on with the other dogs...But these two dogs have brought happiness back--and we saved them. And little Elmo is doing so much better.

December was rough--all the stress and running around from vet to vet, and dealing with the new dogs' sickness and demands ran me down and I got very sick for the last 2 weeks of the year. Was home in bed most of the time... So it's been a journey and exhausting but I think we're all on track and settling in... and there finally feels like there will be a future for us. Adopting a new pet after losing a baby is a very personal decision. I knew someday we'd want to adopt again because we feel very strongly about adoption and rescue and we want to save as many as we can in our lifetimes. But I thought it'd take 6 months MINIMUM.... If you had told me before Freddy passed that in a month I'd have not one but TWO rescues, i'd have said you were crazy... but maybe this explains it:

Recently, I was talking a friend of mine who has suffered a simialr loss and I asked her, "Where is the sign from Freddy?" i told her that if I only had a sign, I would feel at epace and so much better...I needed to know he was still here with me. She just looked at me and said, "But Jennifer, you have the sign. Your heart is open to love again. Freddy has opened your heart. THAT, my dear, is the sign."


She is right.
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post Jan 18 2006, 01:25 PM
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Jennifer Lyn,
I am so happy that you rescued two deserving animals. It is a great tribute to Freddy.
Gina
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Jennifer Lynn,


I haven't been on this site for awhile but just read through your story.

You are an angel. wub.gif


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