I will have lost Opie 4 years ago in March. I still can not deal with it. When I'm not upset about him I am just "blocking out" the feelings. I go about my life not really thinking about how he is gone. Then once in a while, I do think about it, and I break down. It happens every couple of months. I just can't stand the thought that he is gone. He was the most special cat ever! I know that isn't nice to say when I have another cat here, his sister Lily. But there was something about Opie that was beyond anything I've ever known with a cat. He was "dog like" in his intelligence and admiration of me. I've never seen anything like it in a cat before. He slept in my arms every night with his paws wrapped around my neck. He was so special. Anyhow, I am just having a bad day where I am sitting here crying about loosing him. Sometimes I want to get another flame point siamese like he was just in hopes to somehow "bring him back", but I know that it would just end up a disappointment. I'm just so sad

Hi, missy, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Please let me try to offer you some words of encouragement and comfort.

Even though the calendar indicates that the one year angel-versary of our beloved companion's transition home to the angels has happened does not mean that the sorrow in our hearts automatically disappears. Rather it simply means we have endured through one of the most difficult challenges in our lives that involves adjusting our daily routines that no longer include the physical needs of our beloved companion. The adjustment to the absence of their precious physical presence continues and there will be times through the course of our continued earthly journey when we will still miss being able to hold them, touch them, see them, hear them. This is one of the many things that eternal love is, missy - - for love is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space.

Your beloved Opie is always a part of your heart and memories, missy - - so it is impossible for you to even try to "accept" his physical absence - - for this implies "getting over" and "moving on" as though he never existed. Rather this grief journey is one of "adjustment to" his physical absence which is a very painful journey - - both emotionally and physically. I know from first hand experience that the stress of grieving can cause episodes of clinical depression which can be eased with the assistance of a professional counselor. If you think you may be experiencing some form of clincial depression you may want to talk to your doctor or speak with a counselor. If this is the case this is not a negative reflection on you - - it is merely that your body needs some professional help coping with the physical effects of the trauma of your grieving for your beloved Opie.

One of the many things you need to know is that you are not alone in your grief adjustment journey, missy. We are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

I hope today is treating you and your precious Lily kindly, missy, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Opie's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, missy, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

Opie is so beautiful. What a beautiful spirit.

I know how you are missing him and I'm sorry.

THank you moonbeam and tess. I am typing this with Lily laying in my arms. Thank heavens I have her here to help ease the pain of loosing Opie. Thanks again for your comforting replies

Hi, missy, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I'm so glad you and your precious Lily are finding comfort with one another. I hope today is treating you and your precious Lily kindly, missy, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Opie's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, missy, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam