IPB

Welcome Guest ( Log In | Register )

2 Pages V  < 1 2  
Reply to this topicStart new topic
> Meet Lexi
LoveMyMickey
post Jun 30 2012, 05:33 PM
Post #21





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 1,193
Joined: 17-April 11
From: Kentucky
Member No.: 7,071



Dear Stacy,

I'm so sorry it didn't work out with Lexi, but I know in your heart you did what you felt was right and that is important. Months or even years later when you and your furbabies are feeling better, you might want to get another doggie. Or you all might just be okay without another one.

You can feel good that Lexi had a family to go back to, her mom and siblings. Someday she will make somebody a fine companion. Try not to feel bad Stacy, things usually work out for the best..........I thank you for sharing your story with us.

Hugs,

LoveMyMickey


--------------------
"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
Kaiasmom
post Jun 30 2012, 08:09 PM
Post #22





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 34
Joined: 21-May 12
Member No.: 7,613



Thank you LoveMyMickey. I am sitting here crying now after taking her back. I so wish it had worked out differently. The breeder was very nice about it, even though she said it had never happened to her before. I just couldn't live the way I was living for weeks or months hoping things were going to change. I was doing everything I could, researching ways to introduce cats and dogs to puppies and nothing was working.

It's the first animal I have ever given back, and I feel so awful about it, but as I said I never should have adopted her in the first place. I wouldn't be feeling like this if I had stuck to my instincts. As much as I wish things would have been different and she would have worked out, she has the ability to find a loving home.

But why do I feel so badly, I get attached so quickly and she really was a sweet puppy. I feel like a failure, that every decision I make is wrong or second guess myself. I wish I didn't feel this way all the time.

I don't think we will get another dog anytime soon, if ever again. I can't feel this sad all the time, the bad things hit me so hard. This time I did it to myself.


I'm so sorry Lexi that I couldn't give you the home you deserved, I hope you find a loving family.


Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
DannysMom
post Jun 30 2012, 09:44 PM
Post #23





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 1,113
Joined: 3-February 12
Member No.: 7,464



Stacy, if I may be permitted to observe something that has been puzzling me. From your latest post it appears to be that you got indeed very attached to Lexi in such a short time. If you do regret it so much now then why not take her back? You seem to be going back and forth from one moment to the next, and I was trying to offer support and encouragement. It seemed as if everything was okay. You seemed to be doing alright after talking to your vet tech about it, and he/she encouraged you as well and told you that this is quite normal. Perhaps you were just really trying to hard instead of simply giving it time and not worrying so much about it. Just like moon_beam said, dogs are very social, and Kona would have taken to Lexi after a few weeks. If they didn't have any serious incidents such as growling or biting each other then there wasn't anything to worry about. Kona is simply grieving, and your cats are being cats. I too had felt that I might have made a mistake about adopting Shelley so soon, but every time I thought about it and looked into those sweet, gentle, green eyes I just knew that she was a keeper and that I couldn't possibly part with her. And time has proved me right. If you really miss Lexi so much now then perhaps your heart is telling you to get her back. For me it's just very difficult to tell as I said before because you are going back and forth so much. I hope everything works out for you either way.


--------------------
Danny: March 4, 2001 - December 28, 2011
Tina: October 27, 1997 - April 28, 2012


To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
Kaiasmom
post Jul 1 2012, 12:22 PM
Post #24





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 34
Joined: 21-May 12
Member No.: 7,613



After a long night of thought and reflection my mom and I have decided to go get Lexi back and give it 100% effort to make it work. I have not stopped thinking about her since we dropped her off and I know we can give her a good life. It was getting better I just need to relax and not go completely crazy.


Thank you for being so understanding and helpful through my craziness. I promise I'm not always like this.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
LoveMyMickey
post Jul 2 2012, 11:39 AM
Post #25





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 1,193
Joined: 17-April 11
From: Kentucky
Member No.: 7,071



Hi Stacy,

I was wondering if you have gotten Lexi back yet and how things are going. I know you love little Lexi and I hope everything works out for you and all your furbabies. ((((HUGS)))) P.S. By the way Stacy, you're not crazy, you're grieving, and I know it's hard to decide what to do.

LoveMyMickey


--------------------
"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
Kaiasmom
post Jul 2 2012, 11:37 PM
Post #26





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 34
Joined: 21-May 12
Member No.: 7,613



LoveMyMickey,

Yes. We got her back yesterday afternoon. I'm going to try really hard not to stress myself out this time. I've already done it a little today and caused confusion and stress among my mom and me, but I had a friend come over and talk with me and spend time with Lexi. It helped a lot. And the woman who I'm going to be taking puppy classes from offered her services if I needed them before classes start.

Everyone agrees she's a great dog with a good temperment and not to take her back. I just need to trust it will all work out and take it one day at a time.

I fully realize now though I am not done grieving my loss and my friend even noticed that Kona's face had sadness to it. Lexi will be good for both of us in the long run, I just need to get through the puppy phase.

HUGS to you too
Stacy
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
moon_beam
post Jul 3 2012, 12:37 PM
Post #27


Forum Moderator


Group: Moderators
Posts: 8,088
Joined: 20-July 08
From: Virginia
Member No.: 4,861



Hi, Stacy, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I am just now being able to get caught up with all the events you have struggled with, and my heart goes out to you. I went through a similar situation 2 years ago after my beautiful baby girl Abbygayle joined the angels in March 2010. Two years ago this month, after 4 months since she joined the angels, I thought I would try to introduce a new brother to my precious Noah. He had always had a fur family member with him, and I thought he might appreciate a new little brother to mentor. It was a disaster!!! And I knew within 24 hours that it was not a healthy situation for my precious Noah, the new little companion, and me. Fortunately this "adoption trial" was brokered through my vet, and she was very clear that if it did not work out that I could bring the little boy back. It broke my heart to do it, for I had fallen in love with the little one, but my FIRST and FOREMOST loyalty and concern is to my Noah. Just as soon as I got back home from taking the little one back to the vet my precious little boy was visibly less stressed, and he profusely thanked me for doing it. His little heart has been broken over the last 6 years of seeing each of his three fur family members precede him to the angels, and he was letting me know that he desperately needed my undivided attention and love. I still think about the little kitten and know he was adopted into a loving family, and there is a part of me that still grieves having to return him, but I have no regrets.

The only reason why I shared this with you is because I do understand first hand the struggle you were going through with Lexi, and continue to go through in your efforts to bring peace and tranquility to your household. Please let me try to reassure you that you are NOT a bad person for having taken Lexi back to the breeder. You needed that "space" to sort through your feelings. Now that you have a better idea about what to expect, I think you will be better prepared to cope with the changes that are natural to bringing in a new furchild into your family. And the good news is that you know you are NOT alone in this adjustment journey. Not only do you have each of us here, but you also have the support of the obedience trainer and your friends. This is very important, and I am so very glad you have this.

I hope today is treating you, your precious Kona, your baby girl Lexi, your feline companions, and all your family kindly, Stacy, and that you and your precious fur tribe will have a peaceful evening. Please know you and your precious furkids are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing to how things are going.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam


--------------------
In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.

The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
DannysMom
post Jul 3 2012, 06:18 PM
Post #28





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 1,113
Joined: 3-February 12
Member No.: 7,464



Yeah!!! smile.gif I am so thrilled to hear that you took Lexi back. I had a feeling you would, and I know that in six months from now you will probably wonder how you ever got along without her presence. Let her puppy playfulness bring some comfort to your heart. I am glad that you have a friend to help you with Lexi. In this time of grief it is good to have the support of friends. I am sure in time Kona and Lexi will become good friends. It is just hard for her right now as she is grieving for Kaia. I hope that Lexi will bring you much joy and comfort! smile.gif


--------------------
Danny: March 4, 2001 - December 28, 2011
Tina: October 27, 1997 - April 28, 2012


To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
LoveMyMickey
post Jul 4 2012, 05:51 PM
Post #29





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 1,193
Joined: 17-April 11
From: Kentucky
Member No.: 7,071



Hi Stacy,

I'm happy to hear you got Lexi back. That's good that you have a friend to talk to and the puppy classes will help also. I know there will be frustrating days, but just take one day at a time and you and all your furbabies will be okay. That's good that Lexi has a good temperment, but the puppy phase takes a lot of work and patience.......Just "hang in there" Stacy, and you will be okay......((((HUGS)))) Give that cute little Lexi a special pat on the head for me.

LoveMyMickey


--------------------
"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
Kaiasmom
post Jul 4 2012, 10:01 PM
Post #30





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 34
Joined: 21-May 12
Member No.: 7,613



Hi and Thank you all for your support, it really means a lot. I haven't had a puppy for 5 years and even then I had 2 puppies so they played together and it was so much easier. I haven't had a single puppy since 1994 and I've never had an older dog and a puppy. Plus it's only been 2 months today that I lost Kaia, which causes more pain/stress and confusion.

Moonbeam: I questioned even the next day that I had got her back, because that one night when she was gone the cats had come out and everything was back the way it was. But that also made it hard, because it was back to having the loss of Kaia be such a big part of my day. I think that's why I decided to bring Lexi back, that and I worried about her and where she would go. I'm not 100% on having her back because of all the puppy stuff, but I'm hoping soon I will be.

Dannysmom: Thank you. It was your words that made me start really thinking I didn't give it enough time. The next couple of months are going to be challenging but I'm going to trust that it will all be ok in the end.

LoveMyMickey: Thank you. I'm glad to have her here and not anywhere else. The puppy phase is going to be rough. One day at a time is all I can think about right now. I'm sure soon it will all be ok.

Things are going well so far since having her back. Kona and Lexi like to chase each other around the backyard but I have to watch to make sure Kona doesn't get too rough. It's just so much Lexi does reminds me of Kaia and it makes me sad or guilty that it's her and not Kaia. I know it will get better.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
moon_beam
post Jul 5 2012, 09:45 AM
Post #31


Forum Moderator


Group: Moderators
Posts: 8,088
Joined: 20-July 08
From: Virginia
Member No.: 4,861



Hi, Stacy, thank you so much for sharing with us how you and your precious fur family are doing. Ah yes, the "between the betwixt" - - can't go backward - - and seriously wondering how can I go forward. Sometimes we have to develop a mantra like the Little Train: "I think I can, I think I can, I think I can," to the point where you can finally say with a smile on your face, "I know I can, I know I can." In time I truly believe you and your household will blend together and can feel "whole" again - - even though it is a "new whole" - - a "new normal." And hopefully you will feel your beloved Kaia's sweet Living Spirit sharing everything with you.

I hope today is treating you, your precious Kona, your baby girl Lexi, and all your precious companions kindly, Stacy. Please know you, your precious companions, and all your family are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how things are going.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam


--------------------
In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.

The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
DannysMom
post Jul 7 2012, 02:07 PM
Post #32





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 1,113
Joined: 3-February 12
Member No.: 7,464



QUOTE (Kaiasmom @ Jul 4 2012, 11:01 PM) *
...
Dannysmom: Thank you. It was your words that made me start really thinking I didn't give it enough time. The next couple of months are going to be challenging but I'm going to trust that it will all be ok in the end.

...


Stacy, I am so thrilled to hear that! smile.gif I had a feeling that you were getting attached to Lexi, that it wasn't just the cuteness of the puppy and the spur of the moment. Even while we are grieving it is possible to form a new bond with a companion animal. It's like a tender shoot that comes up quietly. I think that in a few months from now you'll realize what a blessing Lexi is. It may not be apparent now, but you'll see! smile.gif
I had a similar situation with my cat Shelley. At first it was so strange and odd. She looks so different from my sweet Tina who was also a calico cat. I still had the image of Tina in my mind, and Shelley just didn't "fit". I would look at her black nose and think:"Why is it black? It should be pink like Tina's!" I was scared and unsure, but on the other hand I absolutely loved her gentle green eyes. Every time I thought about giving up and I would look into Shelley's green eyes it was like something touched my heart so deeply. This little cat seemed to sense how much I was hurting. And then I would worry about what would happen to her if I gave her away and that's how I knew I couldn't possibly give her up. If I had given her up I would have made a HUGE mistake! My other cat Mindy is crazy about Shelley and these two girl kitties get along so well as if they were from the same litter. Shelley is a sweetie as I'm sure your Lexi is. Just give it time and don't worry! smile.gif



--------------------
Danny: March 4, 2001 - December 28, 2011
Tina: October 27, 1997 - April 28, 2012


To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
Kaiasmom
post Jul 8 2012, 10:44 PM
Post #33





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 34
Joined: 21-May 12
Member No.: 7,613



I swear I am cursed.

Yesterday as I was getting ice from our bottom freezer Lexi decided to lick and get her tongue stuck (a second or two) on the metal part that slides the drawer open/closed. She got freezer burn/frostbite on her tongue, thankfully not too bad and is now on antibiotics for 2 weeks and pain meds for another 2 days. They cautioned she might lose part of her tongue, but I'm pretty sure I've seen some improvement. Keeping my fingers crossed.

Otherwise things were/are going pretty well amongst all my furkids.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
moon_beam
post Jul 9 2012, 11:51 AM
Post #34


Forum Moderator


Group: Moderators
Posts: 8,088
Joined: 20-July 08
From: Virginia
Member No.: 4,861



Hi, Stacy, thank you so much for sharing with us how you and your precious Lexi are doing. I am soooo sorry about Lexi's tongue. Please know she is in my thoughts and prayers that her tongue will heal and remain intact. Our furkids can get themselves into predicaments that we never thought were possible. Please let us know how your baby girl's recovery goes.

Other than this frostbite episode I am so glad that things are improving with your precious Kona, Lexi and feline companions. I hope today is treating you, your precious Kona, your baby girl Lexi, and all your precious companions kindly, Stacy. Please know you, your precious companions, and all your family are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how things are going.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam


--------------------
In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.

The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
LoveMyMickey
post Jul 13 2012, 06:06 PM
Post #35





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 1,193
Joined: 17-April 11
From: Kentucky
Member No.: 7,071



Hi Stacy,

I am so sorry about little Lexi's tongue. I hope it is healing well. It is good to hear things are going pretty well among all your furbabies.
You all are in my thoughts and prayers.......(((HUGS)))

LoveMyMickey


--------------------
"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
Kaiasmom
post Jul 16 2012, 08:38 PM
Post #36





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 34
Joined: 21-May 12
Member No.: 7,613



Just wanted to let everyone know that Lexi's tongue is all healed up and looks great. She's still on antibiotics for 4 more days. It was a first for the vet's office so she is the talk amongst the staff. Lexi is 3 months old now. She went in for booster shots today. She's sleeping all night in her crate with no accidents, going for short walks around our neighborhood. Kona tolerates Lexi cuddling up with her. Puppy classes start next week smile.gif

Attached ImageAttached Image

Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
DannysMom
post Jul 16 2012, 09:01 PM
Post #37





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 1,113
Joined: 3-February 12
Member No.: 7,464



Stacy, that is good news about Lexi's tongue healing! Those are nice photos. Lexi looks so happy next to Kona. I like the way she puts her paw on Kona's leg. I'm sure the two will become good friends. Lexi seems like a really sweet dog.


--------------------
Danny: March 4, 2001 - December 28, 2011
Tina: October 27, 1997 - April 28, 2012


To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
moon_beam
post Jul 17 2012, 02:08 PM
Post #38


Forum Moderator


Group: Moderators
Posts: 8,088
Joined: 20-July 08
From: Virginia
Member No.: 4,861



Hi, Stacy, thank you so much for sharing with us how you, your precious Kona, and baby girl Lexi are doing. Adding my sincerest congratulations, and sigh of relief, that your precious Lexi's tongue has healed nicely. I know this is a relief to you. Thank you for the wonderful pictures of your precious Kona and little Lexi, too. Good news that your little girl is sleeping through the night, and I know the puppy classes will be a great experience for the both of you. Sounds like you and your precious furkids are getting into a more natural routine and rhythm now.

Thank you so much for sharing your precious little Lexi with us, Stacy. I hope today is treating you, your precious Kona, your baby girl Lexi, and all your precious companions kindly. Please know you, your precious companions, and all your family are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how things are going.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam


--------------------
In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.

The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
LoveMyMickey
post Jul 17 2012, 05:32 PM
Post #39





Group: Pet Lovers
Posts: 1,193
Joined: 17-April 11
From: Kentucky
Member No.: 7,071



Awwww, Stacy, Kona and Lexi look so sweet together. I'm so glad Lexi's tongue has healed and that she is sleeping through the night.
Thank you Stacy, for sharing your story with us and I hope everything keeps on going well.
Give the furbabies a special pat for me.....God Bless.

LoveMyMickey


--------------------
"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post

2 Pages V  < 1 2
Reply to this topicStart new topic

 



Lo-Fi Version Time is now: 28th March 2024 - 05:06 AM