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autumn leaves
post Jan 30 2012, 04:31 AM
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From: Hanover Pa
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I'm Jerry, 53. Live alone in Pa, never married, no children. I rescued my first dog in 2000, Autumn, and she only lived a year before she had kidney failure and I had to put her to sleep. Got another mixed mutt, Sydney (had just taken a vacation to Australia) and after 2 short years, he was hit by a car and died in my arms. Started to think I was not the dog owner type, but I gave it one more try and along came Zoey, a baby girl border collie mix.
We were the perfect "odd couple" match. I just wanted to watch TV and eat, she was non-stop and wanted to eat. Since she was the lady of the house, she usually won-out, and I got a lot of excercise thanks to her. We spent almost 8 years together, (she picked me when she was 1) and our bond was so strong, especially since I spent almost every day of her life with her.
2 months ago she just woke up with a limp, and after seeing multiple doctors and taking an MRI, found out she had Nerve sheath tumor and it extended into her pelvis. The doctor did not think I should opt for the surgery, it was expensive and this tape of case frequently reoocurs after a few months. I was still going to try to ride it out and see if I could get a more positive response about whether she could be happy after surgery, but she quickly became weaker, had problems breathing, and could barely walk.
I now think maybe I should have waited, but I deceided at that moment, that I should let her go. I think I did the right thing for her, but I want to have that decision making moment back again, if only to give her one more kiss. Some days are not too terrible, others are. She has only been gone a month. I started a relationship with a girlfriend pet owner about the time this all began, and she has been wonderful. Pet owners just get it, you know?
I'm so glad I found this site, I hope I can share in a way that will make someone else feel better. I know I already feel better with the responses I have received since a few days ago when I came on. Thank you,
Jerry
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nicola
post Mar 4 2012, 10:17 AM
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From: Ashford. Kent. Uk
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I'm Nicola 34 from Ashford.Kent.
I love cats and my 11 year old cat Lucy was put to sleep on 11th January. 2012.
We now have a pedigree British shorthair kitten Sophie.
She's 14 weeks at the moment.
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GhostsInSnow
post May 12 2012, 11:23 AM
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Hi everyone smile.gif
I'm Hannah, 24 from West Midlands in the UK
Currently live with my parents as the indecisive me decided (after training in catering) that I wanted a career change so I'm back with them until I've got through College and University.
Had mice, rats, rabbits, cats and dogs as pets.
Currently have 3 little mice, 2 Puppies, 2 Rabbits and 4 rats. We got the puppies on Christmas eve as our 12 year old dog had been put to sleep because she couldn't walk or breathe properly.
Lost a few pets over the last 7 months due to old age mainly or illness that's been brought on by old age.
I joined because I had to have my beautiful kitty put to sleep on Friday 11th May
I can already see that this is a wonderful place with so many caring people and I have already received a bit of support since posting last night so thank you smile.gif


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advocate
post May 16 2012, 04:29 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers
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Joined: 15-May 12
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R.I.P.

Enya Pood
Born Thanksgiving 1995
Died May 8th, 2012
17 years old
Female

My blog about it:
My Blog

I am still in shock. Pood was my first official pet as an adult. I am having a really hard time getting through the grief. I got her ashes last night, along with some other things. I just keep thinking it is all my fault. What could I have done differently to save her life? I am going through her diagnostic tests from that night. I am trying to find out how come she died because if it was something I did wrong, I don't want my other cat to die the same way. I was thinking it was a diabetic emergency, but the ER vets did not consider that. She might still be alive if I had fed her correctly. She was eating Friskies Shredded Turkey and Cheese when she had a sudden collapse. I should have held her rather than put her into that plastic carrier and rushed her to the ER. After Googling later, come to find out, maybe I should have rubbed some honey on her inner cheek. It's too late now. We all assumed it was a stoke, and that she would not have a good quality of life, even with treatment. Now I kick myself, because it might have been a diabetic coma. Please teach yourselves the difference, and get proper food. Fancy Feast Appetizers are made in Thailand, btw. Buy American-made food for cats if you live in America. I am considering the raw diet, but I am petrified. I normally feed Angelo Fancy Feast Turkey and Giblets which is a high-protein and low carb diet.

But I don't want to make the same mistakes with Angelo. I am so distraught. I am so distressed and I am scared and paranoid.
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leejaye
post May 16 2012, 05:44 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers
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Joined: 13-May 11
From: sydney, australia
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Dear Advocate, I am so sorry we had to meet this way, and so so very sorry for the loss of your Enya Pood...You can ask yourself so many questions after something like this...should i have, would it be better if? i should have known better...Research the food issue, check with the people on this website (there is a lot of knowledge here, and it may help with some of your fears for Angelo), the one thing i know is that you did everything you thought was right for Pood, and Pood knows this still. Please come here whenever you need to, this is such a hard road, it helped me immensley when i lost my Mischief girl (17 yo, cancer and complications from nowhere), i hope it can help you too, sending you huge hugs, Leejaye
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moon_beam
post May 16 2012, 10:24 AM
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Hi, advocate, please permit me to add my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Enya Pood. This grief jouney is one of the hardest experiences you will know on this side of eternity. It is one of adjustment to the physical absence of your beloved Enya Pood. The good news is that your beloved Enya Pood's sweet Living Spirit is forever with you in your heart and your memories - - she is forever a heartbeat close to you.

Thank you so much for sharing your beloved Enya Pood with us, advocate. I am so glad your precious Angelo had a good check up at the new vet. Please know each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. Please know you and your precious Angelo are in my thoughts and prayers, and loook forward to knowing how you both are doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam


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In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.

The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face.
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advocate
post May 17 2012, 01:19 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers
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Joined: 15-May 12
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Leejay and Moon Beam, I can't thank you enough for your kind words and support. We had our memorial this morning. Angelo seems a tad bit frightened, or angry. I think it is because I have moved Pood's things around, like Pood's big fluffy blanket that was on the couch. I feel just terrible because I did not show him her body after she died. The night I left with her in the carrier, she was unconscious, and Angelo did some inspection of Pood before I left with her. But I don't know if he knows that she is dead and won't come back. Sometimes it appears as if he is looking for her as he meanders through my apartment smelling for her. It makes me feel so terrible. It all happened so fast, and I did not know that I was suppose to bring her body home before cremation. I considered it later after I Googled about it, but they freeze the body before cremation, and I didn't think it would be a good idea to bring her frozen body home once I found out about it. Do you think he knows she is not coming back and that she died? Or is he going to continue to look for her and hold some resentment toward me because I took her away? They were together for 13 years. She was dominant, and he was always so submissive and intimidated when she went into fits, like if another cat walked by outside the patio, Pood would throw a fit and take it out on Angelo for some reason. But he always forgave her. Sometimes I think he enjoys his new dominance, but mourns at the same time. Is there anything I can do to help with this situation? I feel so powerless. I have been reading up on cat body language and we have been sending lots of eye kisses lately. I am giving Angelo lots of treats and special attention. Is that all I can do?
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moon_beam
post May 17 2012, 01:45 PM
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Hi, advocate, thank you so much for sharing with us how you and your precious Angelo are doing. I can so relate to your situation with your precious Angelo as I experienced the same thing with my precious Noah when his big adopted kitty brother Eli joined the angels in 2006. Noah knew that EIli was very ill. He had spent most of the week in the vet's office fighting off an infection and high fever. Got a call from the vet early Saturday morning that his fever had broken and that I could bring him home. He was NOT the same Eli when I got him home - - I think as they pushed fluids through his body to try to break the fever they blew his bladder. After an a very difficult weekend, I took him back to the vet first thing Monday morning at which time he was released from his failing, frail, painful physical body. At that time I did not know I could bring him home, so the last time Noah saw his big adopted brother was when he left with me for our final journey together. Noah was inconsolable, and looked for Eli EVERYWHERE for a very long time. It broke my heart to see Noah grief so deeply. I told him every chance I had how sorry I am that Eli could not come home again, and how proud I am of him (Noah) for the very best little brother to Eli. The good news was that Noah continued to eat normally, drink water okay, and take care of his personal needs properly.

I hope these suggestions are helpful for you, advocate. It is so heartbreaking when we see our companions also grieving for their housemate. Your precious Angelo will be okay as long as he has your continued love, support, and comfort.

Thank you, advocate, for sharing your beloved Pood with us. I hope today is treating you and your precious Angelo kindly. Please know you and your precious Angelo are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how you both are doing, and to sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Pood.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

It took Noah a long time to grieve for Eli. Noah is now the sole survivor in a home that used to have 4 furkids - - after Eli joined the angels in 2006, his big doggy brother Oslo joined Eli in 2009, and his sibling baby sister Abbygayle joined Eli and Oslo in 2010. Oslo transitioned home to the angels here at home, and after Abbygayle was assisted in her journey by her vet, I brought her home immediately so that Noah could pay his last respects to her - - which I think helped him.

So, from my experiences the only thing you can do is continue to give your precious Angelo extra attention and affection. As long as he continues to eat his food normally, drink fluids okay, and take care of his personal needs properly he will be okay - - in time. Comforting your precious Angelo will also help comfort you - - and vice versa. If I may caution you - - don't change things too rapidly. Noah slept on Eli's comforter for over 2 years before I noticed he no longer visited it. After I made sure that he no longer slept on it, that is when I washed it. And I did the same thing after Abbygayle joined the angels. Try to keep something of Pood's that has her scent on it for Angelo.


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In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.

The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face.
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advocate
post May 19 2012, 02:43 PM
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Thank you Moon Beam. Your generous offerings mean so much to me. Angelo has stopped going to the bedroom window bed to sleep. You see, it use to be that Pood always slept on this one pillow over to the right. A little over a month ago, Angelo started sleeping there, and Pood claimed a spot next to there, but she would mostly jump onto the wardrobe in an attempt to take his spot. The other day, I peaked into the fort and saw Angelo laying with his head on the pillow, but his body where Pood laid last. He had his nose in a certain area of the pillow and was breathing in her scent. He has not returned to that area since the other day. I took a picture, I will have to post it somehow.

Angelo and I are still grieving very deeply, and have reached a quiet, slow phase. It is like things are moving in slow motion. I catch a glimpse of Pood out of the corner of my eye once and a while, as I am sure he does too. He also lays at the bottom of the patio curtain, but not directly where Pood always laid...he is either on one side or the other, but never in that exact spot.

One thing he did that was amazing was he laid in a spot he never laid in before. There is a spot between the kitchen and living room where I put up a corner face rubbing contraption. Pood was the only one who used it, Angelo never touched it. Well, Angelo laid right there, starting at it. His eyes would open wide and look, then his eyes would close. That was the other day. Then today when he walked by the contraption, he smelled it, then rubbed his cheek on it. Then later on when he walked by it, he swiped his tail across it. He would never go near that thing, and I still don't know why. I suppose it was Pood's territory. Angelo never liked to rub his face on the corners, maybe because Pood was always the dominant cat, even though she was much smaller than him.

Anyway, thank you for sharing your heartfelt stories with me. It really helps me to understand what is going on right now.

Me personally, I had to move Pood's pictures out of direct sight. It is difficult enough to hold back the tears just from thinking about her. But sometimes when I think I am getting better, I see her picture and break down all over again, on the floor, wailing, assuming it was all my fault, why didn't I just pick her up, hold her, and let her die in my arms rather than toting her off to the ER...playing her death over and over again in my mind.

I am still in the process of accepting that it was a stroke and I was powerless. I mostly am having a hard time because not only did I handle it wrong (I should have just held her), but also, I don't want to mess anything up the second time around with Angelo. But I had no idea how serious it was...I thought she could be saved. It all happened so fast and suddenly.

Pood actually saved my life a couple of times. Once, I was moving across the country and my car caught on fire. I wouldn't have known there was a fire except Pood came running up into my lap and clawing at my chest (I didn't have a carrier at that time). When I pulled over, my car was smoking and there was a small fire under the hood, from a blown power steering or something, I don't recall what the mechanical failure was.

Thanks again Moon Beam.
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leejaye
post May 20 2012, 08:15 PM
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From: sydney, australia
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Dear Advocate, My heart hurts so much for you and Angelo - it's so hard to negotiate this new world with a great big hole at it's centre, these first weeks are so very very hard, I don't think I have ever felt anything like it in my life (sounds strange but I don't think human losses affected me as deeply as the loss of my girl). Like you, I kept catching glimpses of my girl and then the pain was all new again - I wish i had better words for you, but please know that i am thinking of you and Angelo and Pood, and hoping today is just a tiny bit easier, Leejaye
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lytlewren
post Jun 5 2012, 12:48 PM
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Hello all. My name is Rheva, I found the forum while looking into options regarding osteasarcoma for my best friend, Hiway the Lab. I would simply like to say thank you all for being here. I've lost two other friends this past year, Mimi was 16 and Ami was 15, a flat coat retriever and a sheltie mix. I feel so terribly alone and am very grateful that this forum is here.

We live in Oregon in the Columbia Gorge. I'm lucky to be here. It's one of the most beautiful places in the world, IMHO, and very pet friendly.
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Sea Witch
post Jun 12 2012, 12:28 PM
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Hi everyone: I live in western Canada, married, sort-of retired, grown kids, and 2 French Bulldogs, 10 and 5. My older dog, Thibault (T-bo) is not doing well, and I'm preparing myself for the possibility of having to put him down. So I searched around wanting to find a forum with kind folks who understand the grief of the loss or impending loss of a beloved pet.

My younger dog was my husband's dog first, so I haven't known her as long or have the same relationship with her as I do with T-bo. Anyway, he's been plagued with health problems his whole life but most recently, last week, fell off a friends deck about 3' up (where there was no railing) sad.gif His back was already in bad shape, and now he's having weakness in his hind legs and difficulty walking. We're going to try some steroids this week and see if that will help with the inflammation. I am trying to keep a level head and remain clear on what I'm doing for him and his quality of life, and what I may be doing for me just to stave off my grief. I have already told my vet, no more specialists, and no more surgeries, but I don't want him in pain.

So that's why I'm here. With a heavy heart, I just wanted to find some like-minded people who understand what I'm going through, and I hope I can lend some support to others.
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anxiousgeek
post Dec 2 2012, 08:28 AM
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Hi everyone, my name is Rhi and I live in Wales. I just lost my cat Micky a couple of weeks ago.


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LPC
post Aug 7 2013, 05:14 AM
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From: France
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Hello, I am British but have been living in France for the past ten years. My wife and I had the joy of having Puce live with us for several glorious years. We had, and still have, a very strong bond of love. You can see her photo in my avatar.

In summer 2011 she passed over, but she soon made her continued existence known. My life and views about the afterlife have changed greatly as a result. I now dedicate my retirement years to helping grieving pet owners via my website. I offer this service as a gesture of thanks to the Universe for blessings received.


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eskie2002
post Aug 10 2013, 01:10 AM
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Hello all,
I am Sue. I currently reside in Colorado. I am a mom of an American Eskimo named Daphne. I lost my previous Eskie 3-months ago (May 7, 2013) to fungal lung cancer. Her name was Samantha and she was 10-years old. Daphne is 4-months old and I am greatly enjoying and loving her. Daphne was to be a gift to Samantha from me, but Samantha could no longer hang on to wait for Daphne’s arrival, as Daphne was just a wee (newborn) puppy. It has been a long time since I had a puppy and a person awakens quickly to the puppy stages. Since the loss of Samantha, I find myself being over protective of Daphne. I do not want anything to happen to her as it did Samantha. I had no control over Samantha acquiring her cancer, but yet I feel guilt. These furry children are special. I do miss my Samantha so much. I still cry nearly every day; view her photos, and her video. When I see her video, I have to giggle as she did so many funny things. I thought the days of crying over Samantha would end, but not so. Some say it is to soon to stop the tears from falling and it will take a long time to overcome it or I may never stop crying for her. Samantha was a precious child to me. She was always at my side in happy times and in sad times. It is funny as when I cry for Samantha then Daphne comes to my side and licks the tears from my eyes. They really do feel our pain and want us to feel better. Once Daphne dries my tears, I have to smile at her, give her the biggest hug, and tell her how much I love her. I tell her I wished she could have met her big sister (Samantha) even for just a short time. Samantha would have loved and protected Daphne.
Anyway, I am 53-years old and grew up in northern Minnesota. Have traveled a great deal since being a former military spouse. I am now divorced although I am not saddened by it. I am a retired nurse and mainly worked in critical care for years. I am now disabled due to wear and tear on my body. Daphne greatly helps me with my disabilities by her just being there with me every day. She helps ease my physical pains.
I look forward to meeting many folks on here and share our endeavors. I hope you all are doing well even though we have lost furry children. It saddens me when I know that you all have lost furry children, but know you all had a great many joys with them. Even though they are not physically present, their spirits are with us at all times. I still speak to Samantha every day as if she was next to me and I do believe she is.
The grieving process is by no means an easy road. These furry little children are just that…they are our children.
I am an animal lover. I will go to any lengths to save an animal. I used to rescue and did railroads for animals to get them to their new loving safe homes. I wish I could save every animal. They give us all such love, joy, and expect nothing in return but love.
Daphne and I want to say hello to all and to hang in there. We are thinking of all of you and your furry children that are with you in spirit.

Sue and Daphne
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The first photo is Samantha
The second is Daphne
I hope I have their photos in proper order. If you see the little puppy that is Daphne. The other is of Samantha
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Princessmommy
post Aug 13 2014, 10:26 PM
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Hello Everyone!!!

I just joined tonight my name is Mayra. I'm 33 years old I'm a wife and also a mother of 4 wonderful children. I was born and raise in Ventura California but I now reside in the state of Joliet Illinois. I'm a wife and mother of 4 wonderful children who happen to be the world to me. I recently lost my baby girl kitten princess on (June 16, 2014) due to a car hitting her. I still remember like it was yesterday that she was brought into my life princess was a street kitten I actually saved her from my neighbors dog when he was trying to attack her. This dog was attacking her bad so my heart was hurting that I decided to get her out. Well that very instant that princess was in my arms she brought a lot of joy into my whole life. I still remember that it was in winter time and since I live with my mother I didn't know if she wanted me to keep her in the house or not. So We had to leave the poor thing outside in the cold in order to ask permission. I did made sure that she was warm in a blanket before I left her outside. Then in the very morning without me telling my mother her heart completely melted as soon as she saw my baby princess out in the back porch. She immediately carry her into her arms and brought her inside an thats when the whole story started with my baby princess. We began to care for her because she was seriously hurt because of that dog biting her. Every day we feed her bath her and gave her all the love anyone could give a beautiful baby calico kitten like she was. before princess arrive into my life I never knew I was a pet lover an how much love a pet could bring to someone's life. Day by day my love began to grow for my princess and I was practically her mommy, her legal guardian because she was always by my side. She was a very cuddling kitty that also loved to play with all my kids. she was never a cruel animal like most of them are. She was always whiling to give all from her to my whole family. Until that horrible accident happen on June 16, 2014. That day I was not home an this happen at night when I return home I couldn't believe my eyes I still remember I didn't park my car right and immediately rush out of my car running because I saw a cat in the middle of the road not wanting to believe it was my princess. As soon as I approach her I immediately let out a huge scream it was my baby princess the one lying there with one of her eyes pop out sad.gif I immediately broke down into tears pick her up hold her in my arms wishing that she was not dead and still alive. I began to scream please princess please come back to me baby girl Please tell me that this is all a dream that you are still with me. But She was not moving or doing anything at that very moment I didn't want to leave her sight or have anyone take her from me.

But apparently my husband took her from me and I was screaming and saying noooo!!! you cannot be gone princess at that very moment I didn't know how to react I was in a complete shock just by looking at my baby girl with one of her eyes pop out. It was one of the most horrible things I could ever experience in my whole life not even a human being hurt me as much as my princess did. Now I blame myself how can I didn't do anything to save my girl by taking her to a vet to have her check. Maybe if I took her She would of still be alive by now, but at that very instant I didn't know what to do but break down into tears and until this day even though it been 3 months since I lost her. I can't find peace or comfort that she is no longer with me. My family doesn't care of what I'm feeling now not even my husband. I'm completely alone in my grief process I feel so lonely that ever since that happen to my girl I been trying to reach out for help but unfortunately I been unsuccessful. I don't know what to do or who to turn to in order to help me with this healing process this whole experience I'm facing right now is causing me a lot of stress in my personal life. I have no friends to even talk to or just to say hey how you are doing today. I'm just so depress I wish my family was able to understand how much I'm hurting right now. All they say is hurtful things and tell me you are over reacting she was just a cat sooner or later you will buy another one. How can they say that she was not just an animal she was my baby my best friend my everything and I can't seem to live without her. I'm going crazy right now I'm even seeing my girl everywhere I go her scratches in the door, meows, her little face in my room, I even feel a presence trying to get in top of my bed in the middle of the night. I'm so miserable right now that nothing seems the same I'm even losing desire of the things I just to enjoy before help!!! The reason I decided to join this website is because I saw the word pet loss and I immediately thought that maybe in this place I was able to receive some kind of guidance or support in helping me with this loss I'm going through right now. I'm not sure if others are experiencing the same loss like me, but if you guys are I'm so sorry my heart goes out to each and everyone of us who are going through a loss or had one before. I'm not sure if this is the correct place to post my story if not let me know where I'm able to post it so that people are able to read it and provide me with at least some feedback. I can't take this pressure pain anymore I need some help from anyone in here in how to feel better an what to do when this type of things happen. thanks for reading sad.gif

I will like to share a picture of my princess so that everyone is able to meet her I hope I uploaded right and everyone is able to see it. if not let me know thanks everyone.

Sincerely,

Mayra
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Charleen
post May 31 2015, 06:34 PM
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Hello all. It would seem that there have been no posts in quite some time, so let me be the first of 2015! My name is Charlene and I live in Canada. I have a terrific husband aand 2 beautiful daughters, and 2 furchildren - Chaplin, and Big Jim. Chaplin passed 15 days ago, but he was returned to me 3 days ago in a little cedar box which I keep on my bedside table.
Having had dogs and cats all of my life, I've been through the love and inevitable loss, but it has been different with Chap. This hurt is so much bigger and it's overwhelming. I can't wait to go to work in the morning (I manage a Hallmark store) because it is so difficult to carry on my day inmy home without my Chaplin. Ive only known our home with Chaplin - he and my husband came as a package deal 13 years ago.
This is why I am here.
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Amy0515
post Jun 26 2015, 12:32 AM
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My name is Amy and I am 45 years old. I've just recently lost my first dog (a week ago) and I'm truly grief stricken over her loss. I am happily married and have two children and one grandchild. I also have a sweet kitty I rescued 9 years ago whom I love dearly.

I'm trying to deal with my overwhelming grief over the loss of my precious Fluffy. I am trying to take thing day to day and trying to cope. I'm having a hard time.

I'm hoping and praying to find support here to get through this.


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Cris-dogs
post Sep 8 2015, 10:33 AM
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Hi I am Cris.

I am currently almost 45 years old, and for most of my life have been single. I have a hard time getting close to people, but on the other hand, I have extreme empathy for dogs, to the point I worry about my friends dogs more than they do.

I've lost three of my own dogs in the last three or so years. Sally passed about three years ago after 11 years with me, Beau disappeared last November (assumed dead), and Fred died a week ago traumatically.

Each loss has seemed unbearable in the following days, weeks, but somehow life goes on, and the pain and loss somehow heals. Each time I couldn't imagine ever climbing out of the dark hole of sadness, but somehow I come out into the light again.

I set up an account here last week out of desperation to talk to someone about the loss of my buddy, Fred, just 7 days ago.
But it was just too painful to even talk about, so I started reading other people's posts about their losses.

I cried over and empathized with so many people's stories, and realized I wasn't alone at all.
It's so hard when the loss is so close and the wounds of loss, anger, sadness, depression rend so deep. When the quiet in the house is deafening.
Looking outside myself and my experience has shown me in the past and now that having empathy for others
and trying to help them makes my own pain less sharp, it gives me perspective.


It's great that this forum exists, because in my opinion, the best medicine for the torturous grief of loosing a furry companion is talking with and empathizing with others that have been through the same thing. For people that don't have support- live alone, seniors, lack of understanding in your social circle- this might be one of the few life lines available.

Grief feeds on itself. It's a vicious circle that keeps dragging you back into it. In my own experiences, the best way to break out of this is to focus outside myself, to GIVE, to console others, to offer my support. If we don't take care of each other, who is going to?

I wish all of you peace in your time of loss.

Cris



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Necce
post Nov 11 2016, 06:34 PM
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Hello everyone, I'm Zoe, I'm 30 and I write from Italy.

I had the luck to grow up in a family of animal lovers and I've always been blessed with at least a pet at my side. Naturally I've also lost many pets over the years and found ways to cope: talking, writing and painting mostly.
But recently I experienced the loss of a very ill kitten I had found just a couple of days prior and that shook me more than I thought was possible, the injustice of it more than anything else. I started to look online for comfort, to understand my feelings and I came across this website, I read several posts, especially one about another kitten that left this world too soon and I felt less alone, I knew I had found a special place.

So here I am, happy to meet you all. smile.gif
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