I miss you Bue-Bue, he's a good boy!

absolutely stunning!!!!!!
Oh those green eyes, were they really that colour.
no wonder you miss your Beu.
elaine

Bue`s Mommy
i am feeling with you, missing your beautiful Bue-boy
this thursday i have seen a young boxer-dog
my heart started pounding
i touched his forehead
and i was thinking of my own boxer-girl Freya who shared my life ages ago...
yes, it still hurts
but this dog made me smile, too, remembering the good times
Eva

Hi Elaine, ty so much.
He was specail in so many ways. Bue was not a cuddling in bed cat, however if I had cramps, he curled himself up on my belly. It made the monthy cramps alot easier to deal with.

Hi Eva, thank you.
I love remembering the good times, I have lots of vidz, and pics of him.
Sometimes I think it's a double edge sword, becasue I want him back, and know it will never happen.
I purposly have stayed away from the cat shelter I buy food for, they have alot of kittens, and I'm
just not ready.

Thanks

thx Bue's Mommy for another gorgeous pic.
I know what you mean by "not a cuddling in bed cat" our tilli is like this though when you really need some comort she offers it......on her terms of course!!!
elaine

Many many hugs to you Bue's Mommy, I know what you're talking about, I lost my soulmate over two years ago but there isn't any amount of time that can go by without my thoughts running away towards him. Always on my mind, always in my heart, like I knew it would be, it goes this way. There will never be another one like mine for me. Take care and know that love is immortal, yours and Bues'will always be.

It's been a little over three years for me, and I'm sure not over it yet. I don't know if you ever do get over it. Really, I don't even know what that would mean. I will never stop loving her, and I don't want to stop loving her. So I guess that means it's always going to hurt.

Magdalene

Bless you and Bue on this special Angelversary. A love like yours is never forgotten.....ever. That unique bond the two of you share is everlasting.

The separation endured after a death is something we don't get over. But it is something we do learn to live with given time. Our own lives are changed so much. It's like learning how to live all over again.

You've always been a shining light for others here as you share Bue's love through all you say from your heart to comfort others. Your love feeds his loving spirit and keeps him very much alive.

Hugs of love,
Beth

It's 52 weeks today since my most precious one had to leave. 12 months tomorrow. I miss him so much and I just want him back. I feel his presence every now and then, and sometimes, for no apparent reason break into singing one of his songs and I stop and look and wonder - for the only time I ever sang his song was to him when he was here. The love we all share with our special ones is so intense it is only natural that when they are physically absent the pain is equally as intense.

I've decided to hold a memorial for Magion at a local church Saturday week. The minister is going to conduct it. There are others who attend this church who feel the same about their four legged friends and I will invite people along to the celebration. I did hold the life celebration after he went - just over 3 weeks later - but I was very grief stricken on the day and cried for most of it. I do want to share some of the good times, those beautiful memories, and cry yet again, as I continue to do.

It's nice to find others here, who still grieve so intensely.

I'm glad I found your post and able to read others feelings who have responded.

Smiles amongst tears - for us all.

Wendi.

Hi Petmum, thank you so much for your kind words, and taking the time to post. I love the fact that it's on their terms, on how they love us back. My cats loved when I collected live moths for them. I felt bad about them being indoors, and thought this was the safest way to feed their wild side. Bue with his adopted brother, and sisters, who I still have. Thank You

Hugz Toonie, you're my girl! You were here when I first came here, and was the first one to post when Bue died. You're such an unbelievable asset to this forum. I feel so privileged to have you as a friend here.

I know how much you miss Yukon, what a majestic name for such a beautiful kitty. I know what you mean by your thoughts turn to him, anywhere, and anytime. You're right about that, there will never ever be another like him.

Thank You
Hugz

Hi Magdalene, you're so right about that. I have been telling people here that it will get better, and maybe it has for some. I can't stop loving him either, and I don't want to stop. I'm so glad you feel the same way. You're spot on, it will always hurt.

Thank you so much for posting to me.
Take Care

Beth, omg hugz big time! How are you, and Browser doing?
Your words bought tears to my eyes, you always know just what to say. Thank you for the compliment, I'm glad so many enjoy the pics/vidz in the refridgerator thread. I get to choked up when I respond to a recent loss, and then it brings my pain. What have you been up to? Do you have new pics of Browser, email me, ok?

Thank You, and Hugz

I just love all the pics. thx for sharing them.
elaine

Hi Magesmumma, I know what you mean by his presence. My 9yr boy emulates Bue all the time, he even looks alot like hiim. Bue taught him to beg for the ice cream part of my Klondike Bar, lol. Bue loved Reddi Whip, if he heard me go into the fridge, he was there before the door closed, lol. I only gave him less than half a teaspoon of the cream, of course he wanted more. Does anyone else have cats that like sweets? I read that cats have an enzyme that prevents them from tasting sweets, that is soo not true with the cats I have known.

I think it's so kewl that you're having a church service for Magion, with people that understand what it's all about, you go girl! Thank you so much for taking the time to post to me.

Take Care

What cuddly babies.

Mage loved ice cream and cream of course. My Dad described him as the one who had his nose in the cream because of his white markings around his nose. He would sniff out carob and loved to eat my carob buckwheat crackers! He would sniff it out if it was on the coffee table. His tastes changed to actually liking chocolate, not that he ever had much. But his preference in the past was for carob if I had the two together. It's nice to read of Bue teaching your other one to ask for certain foods.

Love is eternal - it's like Beyonce's new song - 'Sweet Dreams' - 'tattoo your name across my heart, not even death can make us part' (similiar to that).

Take care too.

Wendi.

He was a beautiful boy. I'm so sorry you are still in pain over your loss.

Oh what a beautiful cat. You were so lucky to have had him for such a long time.

No I don't think any of us really ever get "over" this, we just have to cope with it and our lives change yet again. How could we ever get over their loss, as we love them so much, the love never ever stops, just as they love us - it's eternal. JMO

Hope you are looking after yourself and loving yourself the way that Bue loved you and continues to love you in spirit.

Blessings,
deb
and angel frankie (who is probably chasing Bue around right this minute!)

I didn't read all the other posts, only the original poster. I think it's an important subject. For me it's been about a year since I lost my little Wally Baxter (Bichon, 5 years old, epilepsy got so bad I had to have him put to sleep to stop his suffering).

For me, the grief story began on his death. I cried continuously for 2 days or so, as did my girlfriend.
Whenever I saw his photo, I'd cry, and pray to God for him, and even talk to him in heaven.
The way I reason it is that the love we have for our pets and the unconditional love they give us back is so great and powerful, that I have to believe that if God is love, then God must value that kind of love. I know that I've learned so much about love (both loving animals, people, etc) from my pets. I have to believe that God values this and thus, must keep it alive in some form. So, I believe that animals go to heaven. I don't claim to understand in what form, but I know they are there. It even says in the Bible (after Noah) that animals will be held responsible for the spilling of human blood. This implies an afterlife for animals. The big problem in our society is that we are cut off from the death of the meat we eat.
In native American cultures, they used to offer the feast dedicated to the spirit of the animal they killed and ate. i.e. Honoring the animal that fed them. We seem to have lost this in our mass market farming. Sure it reduces the cost but it seems somewhat cruel.

Bottom line, animals go to heaven.

So, my grief was helped by being able to talk with my Wally in heaven. I also had my cat who used to play with wally and he missed Wally very much. So that also helped my grief.

It wasn't until about 2 months ago that I realized that my grief was far less. I was able to read and look at photos about my Wally and while I got a tear at the edge of my eye, I didn't break down in uncontrollable sobbing like I used to.

Tonight I seem to be very resiliant. I feel no tears at all. I looked at a photo of Wally, and I didn't cry at all. I know in my heart that he is happy in heaven now. I've come to terms with that, and I think it's something that happens without us realizing it. I didn't encourage the grief, but I didn't fight it either. I talked openly about it on this forum and with others. I wasn't afraid to cry and thus I was able to let it out of me. I think all these things helped.

I also know that everyone is different. I consider myself a fairly sensitive man, yet after 1 year, I seem to have recovered. I'm sure if the situation were right, I'd end up crying. I'd have to be depressed and looking at photos of Wally and remembering my grief.
However, most of the time, I seem to remember the good things and I smile at the memory and I talk with him. I even call him saint wally when I do....and that makes me smile.....

I'm so sorry you still feel grief after 2 years. All I could say is you need a new pet perhaps?
I know that is difficult. I'm not ready for a new Wally yet, but I am so lucky to have my cat, pooka still.
I'm currently breaking up with my girlfriend who has lived with me for 11 years....so thats rough, so maybe that has made Wally's loss feel less painful, I don't know for sure.

I also don't know if you have faith in a God. That has been my biggest help, as that way, Wally is still alive for me. He's just not here.

I'll keep you in my prayers.
-Donald