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forduffy
post Oct 3 2007, 06:23 PM
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My PuppyBaby,
It's been 3 weeks and one day since I held you and hugged you. I tell you how much I miss you everyday. You are never out of my thoughts. You have made me the happiest person during your life because of your true love. I hated to watch you suffer and it got so difficult at the end. Had I known that I would be losing you when I did, I would have delayed the trip just to have spent the last 2 weeks of your sweet life with you and just savor you and take it all in. I remember the mornings when I would wake up to you barking to come up on the bed. I knew how lucky I was to have you in my life. I remember scratching your back and shoulders and knowing how fast our life together could end. And still, emotionally, I was never prepared to lose you. People keep telling me that you lived such a nice long life but it is never long enough. I miss sharing our apples. I know how much you loved them and the eggies I would make for you in the morning. You were my constant companion, my sweetest baby. I am so sorry for keeping you downstairs on the last weekend before I left. I did it to save you from the stairs. I knew that your legs were going and I wanted to just give you a break from that damned flight of stairs. That's why I carried you outside that whole weekend. I wanted to restore the strength in your legs. I hope you were able to relax that weekend, although you let me know how much you hated being downstairs. Duffy, I hope you were able to feel the love and admiration that I had for you. I hope that I expressed it enough to you at the end. I love you more than anything and you will never be forgotten. Life is short and it is over in a blink so when it is my time, I will be looking for you at the Bridge.

I do have a question for you. I need a sign from you to tell me what I should do. My friend needs to give his cat a good home. I am considering volunteering for this. As you know, I have never had a cat. I know that I can provide love to this cat. I've never met him and I already love him. I also know that this cat just lost his brother this year and is grieving and depressed, himself. I am thinking that we could help each other's broken hearts. Duffy, I know that you are such a pure soul and that you may be aware of what would be best for another pure soul. Should I take this cat home? Please give me a sign that I am making the right decision for this cat's sake.

I love you, Baby and will be speaking to you constantly. Be well, my puppy, and enjoy the Bridge and know that my heart is with you.


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Duffy, I was so blessed to have you in my life, as my family, as my friend, as my baby, as my soul mate. I miss you, my PuppyBoy. Run, now, and enjoy the Bridge. I will be joining you soon.
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post Oct 5 2007, 09:07 AM
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Hello, there --

I'm so sorry about losing Duffy. What a sweet dog he was, and what a wonderful companion! You say their lives are never long enough, and boy, that's so true!! That's their only fault -- they don't live as long as we do! I'm sure he fully understands now all you did for him, and know that the love between the two of you has never and will never die -- it just has to look different for a while.

I know you've lost your soul mate, but I also read in another post where you've been doing some reading about our pets' life after death, and I hope you're drawing comfort from your reading. You mentioned seeing butterflies since Duffy's death, and I know that butterflies are supposed to be a sign of life and renewal. It's funny, because a few days after I read about the butterfly symbolism, one came right up to me -- almost flew right into my face, I've never had one come so close and just hover for a few seconds. I thought right away, "Is this a sign that my sweet Lucy is sending me, now that I'm actually paying attention?" I keep thinking it was a sign, because it happened so close to my reading about it, and Lucy probably sent it to me as soon as possible because "for sure, Michelle won't recognize it if I wait any longer, she sometimes has the attention span of a gnat - but I love her!" I hope it was a sign, and I hope yours are for you, too!

And I don't know if this is Duffy's way of answering your question, but I think you should take that kitty. As long as you're taking him for himself and because you love him, and not just because you miss Duffy (though I think it's okay if it's a little because you miss Duffy -- hey, we're animal lovers here, we need to have them around!). But since you already love this kitty, I say "Go for it!"

So what do you say, dear Duffy? I think I'm feeling a 'yes' coming on... happy.gif

With much love,

Michelle K.
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forduffy
post Oct 5 2007, 04:53 PM
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Michelle,
Thank you for such kind words. Duffy was such a gift to me. It's never long enough and that gets so frustrating.

Wow! The butterflies have been hovering around me too. Just this past Sunday, one almost landed on me. Then I saw one on Monday, yesterday, and today for this week. Maybe I never paid attention before. I so want to believe... Lucy sounds adorable. I read in your other post that she even visited you with her new friend. She's quite the little sweetheart, trying to let her mommy know how much she loves you. Tell me a little about her. By the way, your doggies have such great names.

I understand what you are saying about the kitty. I know, in my heart, I would never be able to replace Duffy. I just feel as if someone has to step up and give this kitty some love. His brother, and littermate, died earlier this year and my friend who has him now said that he's still so depressed. He's grieving just like I am. I haven't received an overt sign yet from Duffy but maybe your message is that sign. I just hope that I'd be doing what's best for this little cat. The last thing I would want to do is put him through even more trauma but my friend can longer take care of him. I will let you know what happens.

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Duffy, I was so blessed to have you in my life, as my family, as my friend, as my baby, as my soul mate. I miss you, my PuppyBoy. Run, now, and enjoy the Bridge. I will be joining you soon.
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post Oct 9 2007, 12:48 PM
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Hi, Stephanie --

I sent you a personal message.

-- Michelle
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forduffy
post Oct 11 2007, 07:29 PM
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My Little Puppy,
Happy month anniversary at the Bridge! You have been on my mind all day long. I never wanted to get to the point where I would be able to say that I haven't seen you in a month. I never thought that I would be here. It's been so empty since you're gone. My only hope is that you are able to enjoy your life now, pain-free. As for me, well, I look forward to being able to be with you, pain-free once again. I hope you know how grateful I am that you were in my life. You brought so much love to my life. You made me so happy while you were here. I am beyond grateful for what you gave me. It has been so painful to know that I can not hug you anymore. I yearn for the day when we can be together again. I no longer can eat the foods that we used to share. It's no fun anymore. I have such a hard time going out in the backyard. It hurts too much. I can't see this pain going away-it's been a huge hole in my life and I don't think I will be able to ever fill it-nor do I want to. That place in my life was reserved for you and no one can ever fill it. I feel like I am all over the place and I can't express what I really want to say. In simple terms, I miss you and love you so much, my Baby. This past month has been so painful without you. I hope to dream about you and how you are able to run and play like you haven't been able to in so long.
All my love, my little sweetheart,
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Duffy, I was so blessed to have you in my life, as my family, as my friend, as my baby, as my soul mate. I miss you, my PuppyBoy. Run, now, and enjoy the Bridge. I will be joining you soon.
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post Oct 12 2007, 05:19 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss, your soulmate puppy. Duffy will be the one to let you know, but I think you have got the perfect opportunity to help a grieving cat who will know that you are feeling exactly like he is feeling and perhaps both of you can help each other get over the sharpness of your loss together. I would consider it, life is short and we have to live it to the fullest with as many souls as we can share it with. Take care and love, Toonie
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post Oct 15 2007, 09:44 PM
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Thanks Toonie! I think I'm going to take this little cat. A little convincing for my husband, but I think I can help this cat. We made appointments with our allergist. We're kitty proofing the apartment tomorrow. I will keep you posted.


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post Nov 1 2007, 03:03 PM
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Hugs Stephanie, what beautiful words for your Duffy. He was such a handsome boy too. I had a childhood dog, that I still miss. I felt reconnected to Nero by your words to Duffy.

It is so healthy to come here and let your feeling out. I'm not sure Duffy will give you a sign about the cat, however I do believe Duffy will send you a sign that he is still with you. I have seen a sign from Bue, or what I percieve to be a sign.

The kind of love we have for our companions does not stop just because their physical bodies are no longer on earth.

I have also sent you a PM
Talk to you soon
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post Nov 2 2007, 08:35 AM
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hi, Stephanie unsure.gif
i am feeling so much with you, loosing your best friend Duffy, (11.Sept.2007)
i lost the only dog i ever had way back in 1975
she was a beautiful boxer girl, 10 years old, having heart-problems, could not get an emergency-vet that night, there had not been any emergency-vets, yet..
i remember, i was trying the human helpline, and her vet was out of town..
i buried her with the help of my sisters and brothers under an apple tree, a couple days later
i know, i am talking about me, but i can see a lot we are having together
my dog was my best friend, sharing with me everything, beeing 15 years old, to
the age of 25
she loved me, and i loved her
i took her along everywhere i could possible do,
even when i was out for saturday-night-dancing she was sitting under the desk ( i am sorry for the loud music )
i took her with me to college, to every vacation,she slept in my bed each night
we did make 3 tests at the "dogs-school", she helped me trough 10 years,
well, i did leave her, 69/70, when i had the chance to live in the states, my brother was taking care of her (he thinks, she was his dog..) anyway,
she got her babies by that time, and we kept visiting her babies....
so, Stephanie, Duffy is your life-time-dog
everytime you can see a dog, looking like Duffy, i guess, you will stop, and look, and wait, thinking, i did have a wonderful dog like that, even after many years

did you get that little cat ???

since a few of you mentioned it, i was raised catholic, too, but i don`t believe in churches anymore, and i am just hoping, that there is....., i do not know.......
anyway, cats are very precious companions, too biggrin.gif
i am so glad, that my Jimboycat is supporting me
eva


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post Nov 7 2007, 07:41 PM
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Thank you Bue's mommy and Eva,
For some reason, over the last couple of weeks, I found it so painful to talk or e-mail messages about Duffy. I have not really been visiting this website (or even returning e-mails, for that matter) lately. I guess it's yet another stage of the grieving process. It's been getting cold and dark here as the autumn is upon us and I guess I'm feeling it. It's been lonely without my baby. In any case, yet another pitfall...my husband and I went to visit my friend's cat before adopting him. Both of us have shown signs of allergies to some cats and neither of us have ever had a cat for that reason. Of course, both of us adore cats and have always wanted to be able to adopt them. When we visited my friend's cat, we both found that we were allergic to him. So we made a visit to our allergist who stated that since we are planning on starting a family soon that we probably should not adopt the cat. The chances of our children being allergic would be high and I would not be able to get allergy shots when I am pregnant. So, very defeated, I had to let my friend know that I could not take his cat. I am in the process of assisting him to find a good home for his cat but it breaks my heart that I can give it to him myself. I guess Duffy gave me a sign, in some way. In any case, thank you for your support. Eva, you are right-he is my life-time dog. Bue's mommy, Nero sounds like a wonderful dog especially if he was like Duffy tongue.gif -although all animals are wonderful in their own special ways.


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Duffy, I was so blessed to have you in my life, as my family, as my friend, as my baby, as my soul mate. I miss you, my PuppyBoy. Run, now, and enjoy the Bridge. I will be joining you soon.
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post Nov 8 2007, 11:56 AM
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I know how you feel..I lost my Little Guy on Sept 10th. It was an emergency and I had to make the decision immediately.

I don't know what your allergies turned out to be but I will tell you I mostly had dogs cause I found out I was allergic to cats but I had 3 of them for over 10 years in my home. Little Guy just turned 16 this past May. I found that if I petted them and then rubbed my eyes, I would get a terrible itching there and would have to flush out my eyes with water. I also found that if I washed my hands after petting, I apparently got their dander off and I was fine. I was glad to find this out as they were really wonderful to have all these years. All I had to do was keep my hands away from my eyes. I was hoping yours was as simple as that so you could take that kitty who needs a home but it just depends on how your allergy shows up..I'm sure there are some symptoms that are beyond our control, except as you said..getting shots.

Whether it is a kitten or a puppy, I hope you continue to think about bringing another special friend into your home. I've been there before and it truly helps. All my special friends were beautiful! Each had their own special way. I hated the losses when the time came but I don't regret getting my new friends. The best of luck to you. I'm sure you will make the right decision when it feels right to you.


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post Nov 8 2007, 02:03 PM
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So we made a visit to our allergist who stated that since we are planning on starting a family soon that we probably should not adopt the cat.

I agree with your allergist, probably not for how you or yours would react to the cat's allergens but just because those first few years are rather busy... wink.gif tongue.gif biggrin.gif laugh.gif
I got my two cats when my boys were 6 and 4 years old and I thought that was the right time, the boys were old enough to enjoy the cats and for the kittens to enjoy coming into our family. Of course, each one of us will do as each one of us is, differently! Best wub.gif beautiful sailing ahead, whatever wub.gif

P.S. LOVE THEM: thanks for the tip about reducing allergies, I'll tell my son about this, in case somewhere in his life he becomes blessed with a or more feline(s) rolleyes.gif
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post Nov 11 2007, 11:07 PM
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My Baby,
We are at the two month mark since I've seen you and two months closer to when I will see you next. Two months seems so short and yet I feel like a lifetime has gone by since I've been able to hold you close. I've been living in the past for the last 2 months-wishfully hoping to flash back to some time in your prime when things were at their best. Things are going okay in my life except there is something missing that permeates everything in my life-Your presence. I dread the holidays this year without you. I keep thinking that if I could just sleepwalk through these holidays, next year will be better but what I don't seem to realize is that you still won't be there next year. I disillusion myself so much just to get through this pain of not having you in my life.

But I never want you to worry about me. I want you to be in a wonderful place right now, free from any concerns-my puppy, you've earned it. You gave our family all of your love, and asked for nothing but our company in return. That gift that you gave us was the best gift in this life. It is the gift that I have cherished most and will always cherish. You made life colorful and enhanced it so much. I thank you from the bottom of my soul, my Sweet baby. I can only hope that I gave you enough, because what we humans give out furbabies sometimes just never compares to the love you give us. I love you, Little Duff-you are always on my mind and in my heart and my love for you is forever. Remembering you today, an anniversary, and everyday, my little boy.


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Duffy, I was so blessed to have you in my life, as my family, as my friend, as my baby, as my soul mate. I miss you, my PuppyBoy. Run, now, and enjoy the Bridge. I will be joining you soon.
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post Nov 12 2007, 04:58 AM
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I can only hope that I gave you enough, because what we humans give out furbabies sometimes just never compares to the love you give us

You gave your little Duff the best of life and an eternity of love in which you both
will go on forever. Trust life, it will be good to you, little Duff will see to that for you.
Hugs, this is so early still for you. Take care.
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post Nov 12 2007, 08:56 PM
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Oh Toonie, you are such a blessing. Thank you for your words. I hope you are right that I gave Duffy the best of life. I second guess myself constantly. I will take your advice about the first few years of marriage-you are right, so far-the first few months have been so busy so far! Your sweet sentiments are so helpful. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

LoveThem, our anniversaries are so close! What is so crazy is that Duffy turned 16 this past May 13th. When was Little Guy's birthday? Is that not uncanny? I have the same eye allergy to cats and I get post nasal- not a big deal. Unfortunately, my husband feels as if his throat closes up so there is no telling what kind of allergies our children will have.

As for my friend's little kitty, I am working to help my friend place this kitty in a good home. I have enlisted the troops- one of my friends who is an animal lover and parent of 3 furbabies who has a network of friends who are animal lovers and parents. We are working on it. I will not let this kitty down.


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Duffy, I was so blessed to have you in my life, as my family, as my friend, as my baby, as my soul mate. I miss you, my PuppyBoy. Run, now, and enjoy the Bridge. I will be joining you soon.
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post Nov 12 2007, 10:11 PM
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ForDuffy: Little Guy was born May 28, 1991, Memorial Day that year. My husband was watering bushes in our back yard and yelled out that a cat was giving birth under our water fountain. They were coming out one by one. Of course, he quit watering.

As far as the eye allergy, it seemed the last few years either I was very good about not touching my eyes after petting them or my system became more immune as I can't remember the last time I had to flush my eyes out. But I did have to do that for many years.

As always, take care and keep in touch.


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post Nov 13 2007, 10:45 AM
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Forduffy, I can tell that you were a great Mom to Duffy just by the Love that you express for him. My heart goes out to you during your second month mark without Duffy. I know how hard it is. For me, I think the first month that I lost Max I was numb and racked w/ guilt. Then the second month came and I was like OMG he really is gone. The realization that this is my life now. My normal everyday life is now obsolete. I didn't want nor did I care for my new normal. As you stated something is missing. I'm not going to say that as time goes by the pain will go away completely because no matter how much time goes by when I think of Max I still feel that stab in my heart. But now those painful memories also bring me some joy. And as time goes by it does get a little easier to adjust to "the new normal". All we can do is take it one step each day. Take care k9pal
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forduffy,

i am so sorry about you losing your duffy. what an absolute doll. please try and squash the guilt bug when it sets in. we tend to feel we should have done this, that, been there more etc...focus on the quality time you spent together. it is so obvious to me through your words that you love this puppy so i can only imagine how you must have showed him when you both were together. i do hope you get your sign from duffy, if this is truly the kitty that is meant for you. i keep waiting for a sign from eddie too. anything....to help me move on. duffy was lucky to have you and one day, when you're ready, you should definitely conisider parenting a furbaby again. you were meant to.

thinking of you
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post Nov 15 2007, 05:18 PM
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Lovethem-Our dates are so close. What a great story about LittleGuy's birthday. How great it is to have witnessed his birth and to have been with him since his first breath!

K9pal, I HATE this "new normal". I just find that I am trudging through my routine and life is colorless. The realization has set in and I am not happy with it, for the record. I know that there is nothing that I can do but I don't like things as they are now. In fact I hate it! But, thank you for your belief in me. I hope I gave my baby as much as he gave me because he gave me the world and it was amazing.

Eddiesmom, Thank you so much for your kind words about my Duffy. He was such a good boy and it's been so hard. The guilt thing-ah well-I don't even know where to go with it. I hope for dreams with Duffy in them when I go to sleep. It would be so nice. I will be a parent to a furbaby again when the time is right. That I can guarantee.


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Duffy, I was so blessed to have you in my life, as my family, as my friend, as my baby, as my soul mate. I miss you, my PuppyBoy. Run, now, and enjoy the Bridge. I will be joining you soon.
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post Nov 16 2007, 10:01 PM
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I feel for you so much Forduffy, I wish I could help you with your pain, especially during this difficult time. The process effects us all differently. I feel as though I met your baby, just by the words you have written here. You have truly touched my heart, thank you for your kind, and beautiful words about your baby, and mine.

Talk to you soon
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