It has been three months since we lost our Beloved Thunder. There isn't a day goes by I don't think of him and I miss him terribly. He suffered a cluster seizure that he had no chance of surviving and the trauma of seeing that happen to him will be with me always. But, life goes on I was told, and it has, although the pain of losing him has lessened, it is still with me...that is until yesterday when it all came flooding back in.

A friend of mine has been dealing with her dog having seizures. Up until three months ago none of the medications were really controlling his seizures. Earlier this week she said he had been seizure free for 82 days. We all were so happy for her and for her dog, finally his seizures were under control.

Sadly, yesterday her dog suffered another seizure and he died, he was 4 years old. She had no warning, never got to say goodbye. I was crushed and everything we went through that night with Thunder was right back front and center for me.

I am sad, and my heart hurts for my friend....

Hi, Shadow Dancer, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Indeed, sharing the physical loss of another companion can be a catalyst of re-intensifying the deep sorrow in the physical absence of your beloved Thunder. Please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling and experiencing is a very normal part of your grief adjustment journey. Yes, "life goes on" - - just not the same, particularly while we are enduring the most difficult adjustment in our life's experiences.

I hope today is treating you kindly, Shadow Dancer, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Thunder's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing. And please extend to your friend my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of her beloved companion.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

Shadow Dancer,

I completely understand how you are feeling. I went through a similar situation with a friend when her cat became ill, seemingly from the same thing that took my beloved Diamond. My friend was very lucky because although the symptoms were the same, the diagnosis was vastly different. Her kitty was able to pull through, but all of the emotions I felt about Diamond still came flooding back. I was able to get through by remembering the good times and knowing I did the best I could for him.

Yes, "life does go on," and it really does get easier. However, there will still be some days and/or some situations that will bring you right back to the horrible moments. I hope when this happens you can find comfort in remembering all of the good times you spent with Thunder and also comfort in knowing that you did the best you could for him.

Please pass along my deepest condolences to your dear friend and let her know that we on this board are here for her.

Love and hugs,
Diamond-Bear

Oh, yes..ShadowDancer...that would have done it for me, too, the same way. It is soooo hard.

They always say, "time heals"...But, truthfully, I don't think it's the right terminology. Time maybe helps to "lessen" the impact of the loss we've experienced, but time can never erase the memories and the wonderful experiences we've had with our beloved pets. It does not heal. So...when similar situations arise (comparable to what happened when you lost your baby) those memories - and the wounds with accompanying severe pain just reopen.

I'm so sorry...this is sooo hard for all of us. But we have each other and this forum for us to connect and grieve and give each other an "on-line" group HUG! So here it is from me...

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My thoughts are with you, ShadowDancer...

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