I Feel Like I Skipped Something

When my cat Hobbes died I didn't think about what I should do with her remains so I had her cremated in a group cremation. There are no ashes given back afterwards and the "cremains" are spread on a field. I was given the option but nixed this as I didn't want to see an urn or something and think of my sweet sweet girl. I feel guilty guilty guilty though now. I have tried to make a little tribute space with a small pewter figurine that looks like her and three tiny candles but I feel like I am missing something. I feel like I could have done more to honour her memory.

This is really rather irrational on my part....I know that she has gone and I should be happy for the life we had together. I just feel like I've somehow abandoned her.

Grief Rebounding!

I lost my girl Hobbes the cat just about two months ago. She was 20 something and she'd just faded away and died from old age. The cat lived a pretty wonderful life,living with friends of ours 'till she was 10 and then we adopted her and she was with us for 10 years. She always had food,hugs,treats and there was always another cat around her to keep her company. She lived a good life and I think she died a good death. I just feel so hopelessly sad a lot of the time.

I was devastated the first few weeks...truly in pain. The pain subsided and I stopped having to find dark corners to cry in. I was starting to come back. The last week or so has found me crying and crying again. I don't understand this. I was starting to bounce back and feel better about things. Is it normal to start feeling good and then to have this all crash down again?