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MissingMyLittleM...
post Dec 16 2008, 09:01 PM
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My little man, Pata, was last seen by my husband around 10 am on 12/2 relaxing on the deck. I have been a complete mess ever since he disappeared. I never knew losing him would be this hard. He was definitely my baby and my little snuggle bug and I am feeling so completely empty without him running to greet me at the door and jumping up on my chest when I’m watching TV. I sit here and think over and over in my head those special moments that we shared. It’s like my mind is on a torturous repeat of all the times I will never again get to experience with my kitty.

I finally couldn’t take the “not knowing” and contacted an animal communicator and she confirmed what I already had suspected, that he has passed on. It still just doesn’t feel real though, like at any minute he is going to come running around the corner and jump up into my lap. I feel like I’m having a hard time coming to terms with it and realizing that he really isn’t coming back.

I’ve been reading the other stories on this site and it gives me some comfort to know that other people are experiences the same levels of grief because I was starting to feel like I was going crazy. He was such a special little kitty and the best pet friend I have ever had and losing him has been the hardest thing I think I have ever had to go through.

We knew when we moved out to this heavily forested area that there was a much higher chance that our outdoor kitties could be taken by coyotes or raccoons, but we still couldn’t bear to confine them to the house. Now I sit here crying every day and night wondering if I really did make the right choice and feeling like somehow I let him down and should have done more to protect him. All I can keep telling myself is that it was worth it for him to get 5 years being outside where he loved to explore than 10 or 15 years stuck inside. Still 5 years just doesn’t seem like long enough.

His brother, Tambo, who is my husbands kitty has been missing him ever since he left. I try to find comfort in him, but he just isn’t close to me like he is to my husband and it almost makes it harder when I look at him and realize what I have lost. Every time I see him running around the corner I think it’s my kitty and every night when he snuggles up to my husband and I lay there alone it just breaks my heart.

Thanks for listening!


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Pata, you were one special little man and you will be missed forever!!
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LoveThem
post Dec 17 2008, 02:54 PM
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I am sorry for your loss. As you can see by some of the stories here...you should not give up hope. Keep searching the area. You never know what might happen.

(I am glad I had mine for as long as over 16 years...I would never give up any of that time with them for any reason).

Keep looking. I hope you find him.

Judy


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LITTLE GUY - May 28, 1991 - Sept 10, 2007 - Always in my Heart.
His story: Section D&D: How do I stop crying? and also... My Boy is Gone Forever.

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ann
post Dec 18 2008, 01:41 AM
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I'm so sorry your special friend has not returned home yet. I've had a battle with myself over the indoor/outdoor thing. When I decided to let my Arthur out it was because I had 2 others long ago who lived very long lives being outdoors. We lived on the corner of 2 busy streets too. His yard was a cat haven. Seeing him having his freedom and being so happy and loving life to the max filled me with joy.Along with fear. I use to convince myself that if he died outside, he died happy.
He got hurt, and having to put him down as a result was the hardest thing in the world for me. I often think it's all my fault, but deep down I know I'd do it all over again. Like you I have a hard time seeing them confind to the house it's whole life. I'm having a real issue with this. Anyways, I always feared and was most certain he would leave and never come back. Either way it still hurts. I have to deal with the guilt, the heartache, the people who know about what happened and have said when I got him, "don't let that cat out" . The I told you so looks..I've been here at LS for 6mo now, just trying to get some peace and comfort with this whole mess. You are not crazy for your feelings and your not alone..I do hope the a.c. is wrong, but if not, I hope you can find some comfort here too. Many hugs.. Ann
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MissingMyLittleM...
post Dec 18 2008, 11:03 PM
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Thank you both so much for your kind words and support. I feel everyday like I'm on an emotional rollercoaster ride. One moment I am content and the next I am falling apart. It's been so helpful to come on this site for all the cyber support.


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Pata, you were one special little man and you will be missed forever!!
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MegaBeth
post Jun 1 2009, 04:31 PM
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I am so heartbroken. My kitten baby princess has been missing for 16 days. Her name is Hot Rod Johnny, she's about 10 months old and has a beautiful gray face with green eyes. She wondered into the hot rod shop I manage last last August. She was tiny & feral. I trapped her, brought her home & over the course of three weeks socialized her into a wonderful friend. I had to make the very difficult decision to stop my active search for her. I'm just exhausted and obsessed. The rest of life is falling by the side - including sleep. I have flyers posted everywhere and people call with sightings of what they think might be my cat. I rented a trap would put it in people's yards who said they had seen her. So far I've trapped every other cat in the area but my own.

I'm so worried about her. I cry myself to sleep each night. I cry at work. I cry in the car. I cry at the store.

I just don't know how to work past this.

My friend s & family, while supportive, are growing tired of hearing about it.

Any advise on how to accept the fact that she's gone?
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Flossie's Mom
post Jun 1 2009, 09:07 PM
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I would not be able to give up either.

You have checked the local shelters too I hope. In my area craigslist is a wonderful resource for finding lost pets. I know 16 days is a very long time but I know there have been miracles that took longer than this.

Someone may have taken her in so keep up doing at least some of what you have done so far and you could just get the message out in the right place at the right time.

I have a kitty that loves to go outside and we have a very large wooded area here that really worries me for him to be wandering through for hours at a time but he enjoys it so much I have given in to him going out. I do make him stay in till after daylight and come in before dark. He begins begging at 4-5am. He paws at the covers around my neck like he is trying to uncover me so I'll get up. When we are in a town he does not go out at all. We travel with him & he is a great traveler.

People here will not get tired of hearing from you so feel free to come here to talk about your Hot Rod Johnny any time you feel like it. There is a very supportave group willing to listen and offer a lot of support.

Thinking of you and hoping you will find your beautiful kitty.

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ann
post Jun 6 2009, 12:46 AM
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I so hope Hot Rod Johnny returns home. I had a cat that went missing for around the same amount of days and did come back. Unfortunatly she was injured but lived another 11 yrs.
To you and all that have had to deal with missing pets, my heart truely goes out to you.
I have never lost a pet this way and I know it hurts no matter how they pass, but when they go missing has got to be extra devestating. The not knowing, are they lost?, or hurt? or found another home?
I have been voulenteering at my local shelter. A few months ago, I fell completely in love with the most affectionate cat there. I was quite sad when he got adopted (yet pleased he found a home).
Today I saw a poster on the wall with his picture and in big bold letters LOST!.. My heart sank, and broke. He went missing about 3 weeks ago and did not notice it until today. His new residence was not far from me, if I had seen it earlier I would have even tried to find him myself. I hope he found another home, but there are lots of woods.......He wasn't even my cat and I feel just awful..Prayers are being sent your way....Hugs. Ann
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