I'ts been 2 whole days now sense the loss of my friend, my heart still achs, and the tears still flow. My shadow for 16 years, shadows me no more. Everything I do she comes to my mind even going to the store is hard, I was going to buy some tuna to cook with when I thought of Pogo and nearly burst into tears again,I quitly put the tuna back. After 16 years of bad times at work and in my personal life, she was always there to tell me it would be alright. I think in my girls final hours she knew the end was coming and just wanted to spend them with me. The hardest part of all this was telling my family who were visiting my wifes country for the summer, hearing my son crying for his lost pet broke my heart and tho my wife was trying to be calm I could hear the sadness in her voice. I know time heals all wounds and I'm sure it will but for my family, they have lost one it's members and I a very good friend

Hi, Adam, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Pgo. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company.

Adam, this grief journey is one of the most painful experiences you will have on this side of eternity. It is a journey that is filled with many different emotions tha can overwhelm us all at one time - - it is a journey that is frequently referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. It is a journey that cannot be reconciled in a minute, an hour, a day, a week, a month - - or even 6 months - - for you are now on a journey that is filled with all the "first withouts" and the memories that are all too painful to bear right now of the "this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year" to endure. This includes the shopping trips when you avoid the aisles that you used to frequent for supplies for your beloved Pogo - - and the heart-wrenching realities that accompany your now having to establish "new normals" that no longer include the physical needs of your beloved Pogo.

This grief journey can only be traveled one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time, in your own way and in your own time, Adam. Hopefully as your deep grief eases you will come to know that the love bond you and your beloved Pogo share is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Hopefully you will come to know that your beloved Pogo's sweet Living Spirit continues to share your earthly journey as she always has and always will - - for she is always and forever in your heart and your memories, Adam - - she is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.

I know all too well from first hand experience that when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of sorrow. Still, I hope and pray that the words I share with you will be able to offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief journey. One of the many things you need to remember is that you are not alone, Adam - - each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

Thank you so much for honoring us by sharing your beloved Pogo with us, Adam. Perhaps sometime you will feel up to sharing a picture(s) of her with us - - but only when / if you want to. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, Adam, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

I’m so sorry for you. It’s truly one of the most heartbreaking things to deal with in life. Been 3 weeks for me and I still feel horrible but I’m starting to remember the good times and not just the circumstances of his death. It's like for the past couple weeks I just kept replaying how I found him over and over in my head. The funniest thing happened last night though... Yesterday was 3 weeks to the day and a cat visitor showed up yesterday evening and sat on the stoop in our backyard for the longest time. I saw him through the window and he stared right at me for awhile. It was kind of freaking me out so I looked down and when I looked back up he was gone. I went outside but there was no trace of him. He was a black cat. I was reading that animal spirits can send living animals around you to comfort you. When your family returns perhaps you could have a memorial service, maybe that will help the kids deal with it by honoring your furbaby's life. Take care of yourself.