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Aug 26 2013, 10:03 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 4 Joined: 26-August 13 Member No.: 8,082 |
Hello,
My name is Wendy and I was Jake's mom. He died last Sunday and I still cannot breathe, see, work, sleep etc. Almost all of the posts I've seen here are rather old. Does anyone visit this site? |
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Aug 26 2013, 10:42 AM
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Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 |
Hi, Wendy, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Jake. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company.
Wendy, please permit me to try to comfort you in this time of deep sorrow by first of all reassuring you that what you are feeling is very normal deep grief - - very painful both emotionally and physically, yes -- still very normal. All the symptoms you are feeling - - inability to concentrate, difficulty sleeping, lack of appetite, etc., are all a part of this very painful deep grief journey. It is very important that you try to eat something and drink plenty of fluids during this time as grieving is very stressful and takes a toll on your immune system, and can cause you to become dehydrated quickly which can lead to more serious medical problems. This grief journey is one of the most painful experiences you will know on this side of eternity. It is a journey that is filled with many different emotions that can overwhelm you all at one time - - it is a journey that is frequently referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. It is a journey that cannot be reconciled in a minute, an hour, a day, a week, a month, or even 6 months - - for you are now on a journey that is filled with all the "first withouts" and the memories that right now are probably all too painful that include "this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year," etc., to endure. But I promise you it will not always be this way, Wendy. One day when you least expect it you will be thinking of your beloved Jake and you will find yourself smiling - - truly smiling - - and you will feel your heart fill once again with the warmth of all the many treasured memories you and your beloved Jake share. But until this time comes for you, Wendy, please know you are not alone - - for each of us here do understand what you are going through and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. The good news in the midst of your deep sorrow is that the love bond you and your beloved Jake share is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved Jake's sweet Living Spirit continues to share your earthly journey as he always has and always will, for he is always and forever a part of your heart and memories, Wendy - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you. I know so very well from first hand experience that when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of sorrow. Still, I hope and pray the words I share with you will be able to offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey. Thank you so very much for honoring us by sharing your beloved Jake with us, Wendy. Perhaps sometime you will feel up to sharing a picture of him with us - - but only if / when you want to, and we are here to share whatever is in your heart about your beloved Jake - - whatever you feel comfortable sharing with us. And please let me reassure you that this is a very active website, Wendy. Once a topic is started it continues on so that you do not have to start a new topic each time you write. Once you add a post to your topic, everyone who subscribes to the topic forum will get an e-mail notice that you or one of the forum responders have made a post to your topic, and at some point in time you will receive a reply on your topic. I hope this helps to reassure you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Wendy, and please let us know how you're doing. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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Aug 26 2013, 11:16 AM
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Forum Administrator Group: Admin Posts: 1,073 Joined: 3-March 03 From: Midwest USA Member No.: 1 |
Hello, My name is Wendy and I was Jake's mom. He died last Sunday and I still cannot breathe, see, work, sleep etc. Almost all of the posts I've seen here are rather old. Does anyone visit this site? hello and welcome to the forum. by the topical nature of this site (death and sickness), it is quite ordinary for people to arrive, share their feelings with others for a while, and then move on to continue grieving or healing. that is why you are seeing older dates. but rest assured, the forum has posts daily, more when the 'regulars' are visiting. right now almost every forum category has a post or posts only a few days old. create your own story and i'm sure you'll get some responses other than this one. -------------------- |