I lost my baby one week ago, I'm still in so much pain and depression. Everyone tells me that it will get easier and that he will come visit me but that I should wait and be patient, it's still very early. They tell me to look for signs. I am afraid to look, I'm still too fragile and I don't want to yearn too much for signs and then be dissapointed. Does anyone have any stories where they feel it was a definite sign or visitation? It would be so inspiring to hear something like this.
Thank you
Tracey

Hi Tracey,

Take a look at my thread ("Has anything like this ever happened to anyone else?"): http://lightning-strike.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=5840 as proof that our babies are still with us. I feel my Daisy's presence with me all the time. I still speak to her as if she were here. There have been TOO many signs for her not to be. If you open your mind I'm sure your baby will come to you. They will only come to us when we are ready.

I hope you find peace soon.

Cheryl xx

Tracey, I'm so sorry for your loss. You know everyone here knows exactly how you're feeling even though it feels like no one could possibly know. I will tell you this first, I am sure of my beliefs in terms of people but I am not sure what I believe with respect to animals and their spirits living on. But having said that, I can tell you I have had some strange things happen that were not my imagination.
I understand your fear and feeling too fragile. I've had times at night when I feel that one of my babies might be here and I get frightened.
One of the most significant things that has happened has to do with white feathers. So here it goes....last year my mother (who is very religious and doesn't stray from her beliefs) told me that she had read that white feathers that seem to appear out of nowhere are a message from angels that your loved one is ok. It sounds crazy, I know. But when our precious cat, Frasier, died last August, I found a white feather on his grave just days after we buried him. Sure there are birds in our yard but rarely do I find feathers and this one was on his grave. When Frasiers' brother, Niles, died in March, the same thing happened. Then, we had to put our dog, Buck, to sleep 3 weeks ago. A few days later we were sitting in our living room talking about Buck and I saw something white float by the window. I jumped up and went outside and there it was - a white feather! Who sees feathers falling outside their window? I mean, who? It was crazy!
There have been several things so I won't go into them all. But the conclusion I've come to is that even if the "signs" I receive aren't signs at all, it doesn't hurt me to be comforted by them. I think that's what is most important. If I can get any natural relief from the ache I feel in the pit of my stomach, I'm taking it. I long for my boys so bad, it takes my breath away sometimes. I know the emptiness you feel. It's suffocating, to say the least. But it does ease up. And then it comes back but it does ease up and that's what you have to keep telling yourself. (And if you're anything like me, you almost don't want it to ease up because it makes you feel like you're moving on without them. And you're still in the early stages and you probably don't want to move on. Am I right?)
I so hope you will have signs to comfort you. Even if it's just good dreams at night. I hope comfort for you. This is a hard road we're on so keep posting because the people on this forum will carry you through this. I couldn't have survived losing the three loves of my life without the kind souls here.
-Donna

Tracey
I first want to tell you I am so sorry for your loss. Please dont think you are to fragile if you were to get a sign from your angel. I have had quite a few signs from mine and I can tell you it is the most wonderful and comforting feeling that you can imagine. It makes you feel a sense of calm and overwelming feeling of peace in your heart. They truely send signs like Cheryl and Tanbuck both said just opend your mind and heart and it will happen. I have had sounds smells, and experience with a double rainbow. For me the smell is what a recieve the most but have heard them. Had a double rainbow over my labs graves right after I burried my smokey and starting reaching out to the different sites and found this site. I had just read about Rainbow Bridge and read the poem started crying went out to go visit My Lady and smokey grave right after reading it. The tears just flowing walked out back looked up and there was a double Rainbow right above were they were both Burried. I have pictures of it posted here on my Max feeling Guilty forum. I knew right then y Smokey was there with his girl Lady. Since that day I have had nothing but comfort in my heart for Lady and Smokey knowing they are there togther. And I now know My Angels Max and Dozer are also togther knowing how our boy Dozer went so unexpected and laid by Max's dog box the night he died. I get smells from both of them often, alot of times when I am here late at night writing to them or writing my poems it is very strong as if they are right here under my nose. I then talk to them and tell them I know they are sitting here beside me. It may sound funny but Max passed gas alot at night sleeping next to the bed and alot of nights he lets me know he is still there. With Dozer I have his ashes and if I put my nose to the Urn you can smell the burnt ash. I can be in another room and all the sudden I smell the ashes as if they are under my nose it comes very strong. I love everytime it happens. My Angels are here and I love when it happens. It has always been late at night and maybe its because I have always been a night Owl. I have heard them walking also. I have never been afraid when I have heard the noise of walking. My husband works swing shift and not home alot at night and I know I am not alone they are here with me. I have also had experience with Janika's Sooty who she talks about if you go to her post you will read about that. So please dont be afraid your angel would never ever harm you and you will be surprised the feeling it will give you.

Hugs
Anna and my angels
xoxo

Hi Tracey--

First of all, let me tell you how very sorry I am for your loss. It's a painful road, this grieving journey, and I am sorry that you have had to embark on it too, as most of the rest of us have...

I think the most important thing about the grieving process is not to hold expectations about what might or might not occur for you. People who tell you to look for signs have good intentions, but you can drive yourself crazy looking for signs that aren't there, too. You may see signs, you may not. I just lost my Ladywolf a little over three weeks ago, and I am not seeing signs, per se--instead, I have the sense that she is still with me in this little house all the time. I really do have a feeling of her presence, and so every moment is a kind of a "sign" of her immortality...

That's not to say that other peoples' experiences of perceiving signs is not valid--just that it may or may not turn out to be your experience. There's no timetable for grief, and no logical order to the feelings we feel. There can be sadness in one moment, anger in the next, relief in the next, depression, back to sadness, and so forth. No two peoples' processes are ever going to be the same. Your fur-kid may come to you in dreams, or not. You may see white feathers yourself, or not. You WILL eventually begin to feel a little better, that I can assure you, but no one can tell you when that will be. Grieving is a unique experience for each of us, so don't try to pattern your own after someone else's...

Again, I am terribly sorry for your loss!

Big hugs from Margi and Spiritwolf