My cat was missing since October 19th, today is November 18th. My neighbor said she saw him on a highway. I went there, was driving back and forth, it's hard to say if it's my baby Miles, because the picture is awful. I couldn't stop there, because it's 3 lane busy highway, I could only slow down to 30mph and people were getting angry. My neighbor said it looked very much like him when she saw it earlier, but she was driving by on a high speed as well. The highway is very close to our house, there is like woods and then the highway. I still can't understand why would he go there, cats supposed to stay away from busy roads, I thought it's their instinct. My husband is saying we still don't know if it's him. I don't know if I just should accept that he is dead, or to keep my hopes up that he is fine and lives his life. It's so hard. I can't wait to move now. I just can't stand being here without him, being on the porch and not to see him hunting for birds, going to feed my other cat and see only 1 bowl on the floor, I can't stand to look at his toys laying there untouched, I can't stand not to be able to cuddle with him, not to hear him making those funny noises when he sleeps. I can not accept he is gone! We just have adopted him 2 years ago! 2 short years! That's all we had? I still find his fur in the house, his little tiny white fur... I have bunch of it in my car, because we were training him and his brother to be able to have a long car trip. We took them for a ride around the block, they were freaking out. I was hoping they get used to the car before we move across the country. So Miles was all over my car and have some of his white fur on the seats. It made me cry.
And also my husband said if Miles is alive he is somewhere out there having fun that's why he is not coming home just yet. And if it was Miles there on the road, then he is in a better place and will wait for us when we are done with our Earth's life and join him.
I just can't find the strength. I'm feeling so empty and hopeless...
Thank you, guys, for listening.

Julia, perhaps you could call animal control or highway patrol to have the body picked up and brought to you so that you can really be certain whether or not it is your Miles. It may not be him.

And something else just occurred to me. A cat would never run out on a busy highway like that. They are very skittish when it comes to fast moving cars and traffic. Perhaps this weird neighbor had Miles and didn't want him to be found so maybe he took him for a drive and threw him out on the highway. I just cannot imagine how a cat would want to cross a busy highway.

Or it could just be something other than a cat lying out there.

Julia SC, my heart is breaking for you. Your babies are so precious - I never have known what you have had - cats that love each other like yours. But, I did have cats that liked to sleep together. I only have one of them now. The other went missing six years ago. I have never found her or her remains. I echo what Danny's mom said. I'd call animal control and do some sort of check. It's the not knowing that gnaws at you; the not knowing if they're in a better place, in someone's home...I hired a private investigator to come out. I spent over a $1000 to have her tell me that my cat was killed by a coyote. I have some closure, but of course, not seeing my beloved Lily's remains will always leave some doubt in my mind. Find out. I understand your pain - my Lily was only 8 months old. She was just a sweet, sweet little girl. I only have a small bit of her bunny soft fur that I was able to scrape off her kitty bed. That's it. No ashes, no whiskers...It still hurts.

Also, I was told to do this: Make HUGE signs on bright poster board. Put a picture and say something like, "Missing my best friend". The next sign should be 20 ft from that one on the same bright poster board saying, "Can't eat, can't sleep". Then the third poster should have another saying that is heart-felt. This should be 20 ft from the 2nd one. Basically, you've seen this done before. You wished you could've read that sign on the road but you were driving so fast? Then, you come upon a second, then a third. If people feel empathy, they will stop by the third sign and make a call if they think they can help you. Of course, you have to put your ph # bold so someone can read it from a car. Make these signs at different intersections where people travel. I did this and got a lot of hits. No, it didn't bring my baby back. BUT, if she had been alive, I would've gotten her back. I know it.

Prayers and Hugs for you,
Raccoonkisses

I was hoping it's a raccoon or something when I was driving to that place. But it was a white-black kitty. I don't understand either why would a cat go across a busy highway. The only thought is that there's Seafood restaurant right across the road...

Do you, guys, know if those people who pick up dead animals scan them for microchip and possibly call the owners? I'm not sure if anyone even do this here...

Thanks for the reply. I'm sorry about your cat. Did it get better with the time passed by?
I wanted to hire investigator, but it would cost me $1600! So I went the easier way and hired animal communicator. Well, so far I've spoke to 3 of them and all them said different things. Charlatans. None of them said anything that would help me to find Miles.
I have bunch of posters around my neighborhood. I didn't hire investigator, but he did the map and instructions where to hang posters and place food bowls. Done everything.
You know, we were just talking to my husband how Miles was so wise and not like other cats. He was eating so slow and not in hurry, was walking like a lion, he gets along with all dogs, he was super calm, never scared of lawn mower! He is just too smart for a cat. He was unique. Maybe even knew that he is spiritual being and only here for a short period of time. I believe he knew much better who he is and what he is doing. I'm going though a crazy roller-coaster right now. I'm crying, then suddenly something calms me and makes me feel relieved like everything is ok and no need to be sad. It feels right. I mean it feels like everything happened the way it meant to be. Then I started thinking that he is not here and cry again. I feel like if he was able to let me know what he thinks he would want me to be happy and take care of his brother. I guess I will trust this weird feeling that everything happened the way it supposed to. In the meantime, we are still connected to our fur babies, no matter if they are in physical or in spiritual realms, we are connected. I can feel it.

By the way, the guy is all right. I went there to talk to him. I don't know what his problem is, he is just mentally retarded, but he has these cats and they seem happy. He takes a good care of them, he has a few bowls of food, cat house with multiple seats, little umbrella on the yard for the cats to lay under there, bunch of cat brushes, you can say he is a cat lover. His speech is kinda weird and stuff he say is weird too, but I've got the vibe he won't be able to hurt an animal. His house looks neat inside. Also I've talked to his neighbors to get more ideas about the guy, they say he feeds all cats who come over, he has a few bowls with food on the porch and cats just come over to fill up and then leave.

Hi, Julia, please permit me to add my sincerest thoughts and hopefully comforting words to DannysMom's and raccoonkisses. As you know from what I shared with you in your posts on the Pet Missing forum I do understand the heartache you are feeling in the disappearance of your precious Miles. You may want to contact the animal control department regarding your question: "Do you, guys, know if those people who pick up dead animals scan them for microchip and possibly call the owners? I'm not sure if anyone even do this here..." It is worth the phone call if you think it will help you.

I truly wish there were some adequate words I could share with you, Julia. The "not knowing" is as much of a heartbreak as it would be were your precious Miles to transition home to the angels due to "old age" or an illness or injury. Please know we are here for you, Julia.

Thank you so much for sharing these adorable pictures of your precious Miles and his brother with us. I hope today is treating you kindly, Julia, and that you will have a peaceful evening knowing that wherever you are, wherever you go, your precious Miles' eternal love is always and forever with you - - for he is always and forever a part of your heart and your memories, Julia, he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you. And until there is absolute proof that your precious Miles is now with the angels, it is perfectly okay for you to continue to hope that one day quite unexpectedly you and your precious Miles will be reunited.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

Thank you very much!
Today I woke up and was laying in bed half awake half sleepy and was dreaming what if I go outside and he is sitting there, I'll scream "Miles, you're back!", pick him up and will hold him for many hours, his brother will run and start kissing him all excited and happy, I'll call my husband saying "Guess, what just happened!", then I'll buy him more of his favorite food and fun toys, will get him a collar with a tag, go around my block and take the posters down... I was so dreaming it will happen and that the whole horror will be over. But then I woke up and realized if he still was alive he would have already made it home. The highway is really close to our house and I don't think there's many white-black cats out there. I just wanna let it go, but I don't even know if I want to know that this is what happened to him. I think maybe it's for the best that I don't know 100% so I can have these dreams about him magically appear on the porch and make my life bright again.
But it's okay! Everything is okay! If he is out there he is having fun and free, he has a very good survival skills and he is very friendly and would be able to cozy up to a person. If he is gone, it's perfectly fine too, because as you said, he is "with the angels" and happy to be free of the physical body. Even if he had 2 years short life he had a great, happy and free life with the loving family. And just thinking about all those poor animals in the cages in Humane Society, not many cats get to know how it feels to run around and hunt for a bird, have a nice dinner with the best friend and play as long as you want. He lived a happy life!
Yes, we feel the pain of the loss, it's because the way we think of life and death. I've read that animals don't take death so tragically, they realize it's a natural process and they know they are spiritual beings. Also they really want us to feel happiness and just be grateful for the time we spent together. And I am very grateful I had him in my life! What a lucky person I am to know I have him in my life. You perfectly said, and I agree with you, "wherever you are, wherever you go, your precious Miles' eternal love is always and forever with you - - for he is always and forever a part of your heart and your memories, he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you."

Hi, Julia, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I do understand when you share with us, "Also they really want us to feel happiness and just be grateful for the time we spent together. And I am very grateful I had him in my life!" If it should come to pass that you and your precious Miles cannot be reunited on this side of eternity, I do hope and pray that you will always feel his sweet Living Spirit forever with you - - and that he will come to you in your dreams to share time with you and reassure you that he is well and happy.

I hope your move will go smoothly, Julia. Once again, I hope today is treating you kindly, Julia, and that you will have a peaceful evening knowing that wherever you are, wherever you go, your precious Miles' eternal love is always and forever with you - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Julia, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

When I think I have accept what has happened and about to move on I break down again. I just can not believe it happened to my Miles! I keep trying to bring the Past back and come back to October 19th to never let him outside unsupervised. Little things around the house make me cry, I see the couch seat is empty, there's only 1 bowl of cat food on the floor, and what kills me even more is his brother who refuse to go outside and have some fun! He just laying around, keep trying to cuddle with me every minute, it's something he has never done. My husband said Kitos (Miles' brother) feels lonely, that's why he tries to get as much attention from us. And we give him the attention. It's just so sad. I can't believe those animal communicators are frigging idiots and charlatans! What a cruel business to make money on people who are desperate and can't think straight. The guy told me after that session that didn't help us to find Miles to schedule another session! It's like if you can't help, just leave people alone! If I had this ability to communicate to animals I'd do it for a very small fee and only if I do help people and the animal. He didn't find my Miles! He just confused me even more and brought a lot of suffering when he said he is trapped somewhere but he doesn't know where! I'm so pissed at the guy! And I'm pissed at the other lady who said that Miles will be back within a week! And I'm mad at my neighbor for letting me know only a few days after she founds him on the highway! No way to identify him after the body being run over like hundreds of time! I just can't believe it all is happening! This is not how our life together supposed to end! He is not supposed to leave us when he is so young! He and his brother are supposed to live and age together...

Also I couldn't find Animal Control number, I only see like Pest Control companies, and Wildlife Removal services... I don't know who picks up dead animals from highways?
I don't have 100% of the proof it was him! I mean yes, he has been gone over a month, yes, my neighbor said it was him, but I only saw a mess what could be another white-black cat. Even though it's a very small possibility it was other cat, I still don not have 100% evidence that it WAS him. I don't know if those services who picks up dead animals even scan them for microchip, probably not, because he didnt even had a collar with a tag (my huge mistake). But once again I still have maybe a very tiny possibility that somehow he is alive and well somewhere out there, maybe even found a loving home. You know, why should I trust my neighbor who doesn't even care and only pretends like she does. I mean if someone cares they would let the person know right away that they saw their cat killed not a few days after!!! Screw her and what she said! I dont know my cat is dead! Everyhting I know is that he is not home. That's it. So I accept that I don't know anything, and we'll stop right here. My cat left the house, we tried to find him, never did, we heard bad stories from other people but never confirmed so everything we have is that we don't know where he is at and what has happened. But it's okay! We can't control life, we can't control our animals, they are not a toys, they are alive spiritual beings with their own will and purpose. We are not in control of life and death. But no need to be afraid or upset, because it is okay, everything happens for a reason. If you believe it, if you know it, it brings you peace.

Hi, Julia, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. The county / city in which you live should have some type of animal control department - - which, sadly, does include the final disposition of unclaimed, killed companions. You may want to go to the office with a picture of your precious Miles to speak with the staff. Perhaps someone picked up your precious Miles and took him to animal control for adoption. Doing this depends on what YOU think is appropriate at this point in time. Whatever you decide, Julia, will be the RIGHT one for YOU.

I can so understand how you're feeling when you share with us: "This is not how our life together supposed to end! He is not supposed to leave us when he is so young! He and his brother are supposed to live and age together..." I have felt this very same way over the years with precious companions who have briefly shared my earthly journey - - and losing the company of a companion who is so very young - - for whatever reason - - is as shattering as losing a companion who is elderly, ill, or injured. Please let me try to reassure you that the many emotions you are feeling are very normal - - for you are grieving the physical absence of your precious Miles - - wherever he is, he is not with you and his brother Kitos. You and Kitos are experiencing the same "adjustment journey" to the physical absence of your precious Miles as you would if you knew for certainty that your precious Miles is now with the angels. So please know we are here for you, Julia, for as long and as often as you need us.

I hope today is treating you and your precious Kitos, and your precious Miles, kindly, and that you will have a peaceful evening knowing that wherever you are, wherever you go, your precious Miles' eternal love is always and forever with you - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Julia, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

Please don't move yet. Miles could still come home, there is still hope. If you aren't there, where will he go? I know its painful when your pet is suddenly not there. You feel hopeless and don't know what to do. And the whole house feels super empty, almost as empty as you. There are so many what if's - I know you are probably driving yourself crazy. Its too bad pets cant have digital tracking devices on them so we can search for them if they become lost.

Was he super friendly to strangers? Maybe some lonely person took him in incorrectly thinking he was a stray? Maybe he got picked up by animal control for whatever reason?

I know a month seems like eternity But don't lose hope, Miles may still return.

Thank you for reminding me that he might still be okay. He is a very friendly guy, people love him a lot. We have friends who don't like cats in general but they loved Miles, saying he is a cool cat! So maybe he is out there and people love him and take care, and he got attached to the people too.
I really don't wanna think he is gone. I hope he is alive. I just don't understand my neighbor who told me she saw my cat, and she only let me know like 4 days after the incident. Maybe it wasn't Miles on the highway at all!
I just feel very sad... again.

Thank you! It does help me when I read that someone understands, and I just wish I'd get over it sooner, because it affects my life, I can't concentrate and do school. I just feel so down, like my life has no point without Miles. I was always sleeping with him, he would lay on my pillow and sometimes tried to lay down on my head, he was so funny, so soft, so lovely and he made my life bright and loved everyone, and everyone loves him. He would catch a poor bird, and play with it, then give the poor bird to his brother. Kitos doesn't know how to catch a bird, he has never caught a single bird, only lizards. Miles would always share his food with his brother, and come over to play with neighbors little dog on their yard. They asked me if I ever found Mile because they miss him. Miles was unbelievable, he was like not a cat at all, he was like very smart wise something in cat's body. I pray I'll see him again, if not on earth, then I want Miles to be the first one who welcomes me in the afterlife, I miss this guy so much.

Here is what happened today. I went to the store to get some groceries. When I came back I saw a dead bird on my porch right in front of the front door. I thought "Oh my God, Kitos finally got a bird", but then I thought "Wait a minute, Kitos has been inside the whole time". Then I thought "Miles?". I frigging can't understand where this bird came from! The poor bird has been killed, but it doesn't look too fresh, like it's dry kinda. I thought maybe someone decided to make a joke, but we don't have any kids around and who and why would someone do that. Then I thought what if it was Miles? What if he brought the bird to let me know he is okay??? This is how he used to do, he would catch a bird and bring it right to the front door! And sometimes he would try to bring it in. But it's raining and I don't see any wet foot or paw prints on the porch. This is so weird!
I thought maybe the bird hit herself somehow and died but no, it has injured neck and no eyes I think (I tried to investigate the body a little bit). Maybe it's a sign? Maybe it was Miles???

Hi, Julia, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. How incredible about the bird!! I can certainly understand your heart racing hoping, wondering, if this is an indication that your precious Miles is close by just waiting for the right moment to be reunited with you and his brother. Please know I am so hoping and praying this is the case, Julia.

Please know you and your precious Miles are in my thoughts and prayers, Julia, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam