Hello all,
I am just coming to terms with the fact that my beautiful sweet 12 year old Lab, Maggie was hit by a car and killed March 20th. I was in such shock when it happened, but now it's all coming home to me. She was with my ex and got out of the house at midnight and got hit. I should be angry with him, but he's suffering so much already. Since she spent time with him and with me, I guess it's taken me a while to accept that she's not coming back to my house to stay with me and my other fur babies. It hits me all of a sudden and I don't know what to do. I feel so desperate. I don't want to be around people and I want to cry all the time now. It just seems like it came out of nowhere. This is me and my Mag a few years ago. I miss her so much.

Oh Deidre, I am so sorry to hear about your sweet precious Maggie's passing from her earthly body!

It must seem so surreal.

Since Maggie is free from the time/space limitations of her physical body, she is still right there with you, in bliss. To her, it will seem like only a split second has gone by before you join her to be fully reunited--even though to you, it will be a long time from now. But know that she is fine, and that you WILL be fully reunited. She's having a blast in the meantime, and she loves you and knows how much you love her.

My prayers are with you and your ex and your other furbabies. Please keep in touch here and let us know how you are!

Kathy

P.S. She is beautiful!

Hi, Deidre, please permit me to add my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Maggie. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Losing a companion so tragically intensifies the grief.

Deidre, this grief journey is one of the most painful experiences you will have on this side of eternity. It is a journey that is filled with many different emotions that can overwhelm us all at one time which is why it is frequently referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. It is a journey that can only be traveled one day at a time sometimes one moment at a time for you are now on a journey that is filled with all the first withouts and the memories that can be all too painful right now that include this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year to endure.

Please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal deep grief when you share with us "It hits me all of a sudden and I don't know what to do. I feel so desperate. I don't want to be around people and I want to cry all the time now. It just seems like it came out of nowhere." When we are grieving, particularly in deep grief, we have no control over our emotions. We can feel "okay" one minute and the next we are engulfed in gut-wrenching sobbing that literally makes us feel like our hearts are shattering under the burden of sorrow and we can feel like it is literally taking our breath away. Clinical professionals now recognize that the grief journey for the physical loss of a beloved companion is the same as for a human family member or friend. Scientific studies prove that the tears we cry are literally healing tears for they literally cleanse our bodies from the toxins that build up in our bodies from the stress of grieving. So it is important for both your physical and emotional health to openly grieve as you feel you need for your beloved Maggie as often as you need to for as long as you need to even if you need to find a private place away from other people to do so.

As difficult as this grief journey is in adjusting to the physical absence of your beloved Maggie, there is one thing that will never change - - the love bond you and your beloved Maggie share. Love is eternal, Deidre - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved Maggie's sweet Living Spirit is always and forever a part of your heart and memories - - she is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.

I know so very well from first hand experience that when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the searing pain of sorrow. Still I hope the words I share with you will offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey.

Thank you so much for honoring us in sharing your beloved Maggie with us. She is beautiful. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Deidre, and please lt us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
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