Now Nala Has Left Me |
Now Nala Has Left Me |
Aug 18 2008, 11:36 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 54 Joined: 6-February 07 Member No.: 2,538 |
I just lost my husband four months ago and my main 'support' who has been at my side began to suffer from a malignant mass under her heart. I had to make the decision to euthanize her and like Leo this has been devastating. I still have the dogs, Kate and Shep.. and the cats Sugar and Cosmo so I am not totally alone.. but I thought she was so healthy and had years to live.. she liked to cuddle the most and I was not ready for this. She was such a sweetheart, everytime I would cry she would be there to comfort me. I feel so lost and adrift right now.
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Aug 18 2008, 11:59 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 669 Joined: 8-June 08 From: Lindsay, Oklahoma Member No.: 4,783 |
I am so sorry to learn of both your losses. Sometimes things just seem so unfair. Everything happens for a reason. At least that is what I tell myself. My loss was June 5th and then my dad passed on June 25th this year. I have good and bad days, but with all the great people here at the site I get by one day at a time. We are here to listen to you. Post pictures and stories.
Many Hugs to YOu!!!!!! |
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Aug 19 2008, 12:50 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 650 Joined: 8-July 08 From: Mass Member No.: 4,838 |
I am so sorry to learn of both your losses. Sometimes things just seem so unfair. Everything happens for a reason. At least that is what I tell myself. My loss was June 5th and then my dad passed on June 25th this year. I have good and bad days, but with all the great people here at the site I get by one day at a time. We are here to listen to you. Post pictures and stories. Many Hugs to YOu!!!!!! I am so deeply sorry to hear of your loss. I too have suffered the loss of a pet and human within the past 2mo. It sucks, completely. I am glad you found this site. It will help. Post picts, feelings, whatever. We all understand. You are blessed to have your other pets around. In time you will realize how helpful they are just by being around you.. Hugs.. Ann |
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Aug 19 2008, 03:36 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 340 Joined: 16-June 07 From: European Union Member No.: 3,125 |
I am so very sorry about your losses, now Your precious Nala.
OMG You still have cats and dogs to comfort You, that`s good. I am feeling with You, sending my condolences. sincerely Eva -------------------- in loving memory of my sweet babycat Felice
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Aug 19 2008, 06:07 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 11 Joined: 18-August 08 Member No.: 4,918 |
I am so sorry to hear of your losses. It's all so overwhelming and hard to understand. That's where faith and reaching out for support come in. I'm new here, but just wanted you to know that I feel your pain and I hope you find comfort here and from your other precious animal friends.
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Aug 19 2008, 06:57 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 340 Joined: 19-June 06 From: Western Washington Member No.: 1,750 |
As I was preparing to lose my dad last year, a tiny thing to soften it was knowing that I would be blessed with inheriting his cat, Twitchit. (Twitch and I adored each other, and since Dad and I lived across the street from each other, Twitch visited my place daily for years.) Twitch had been my buddy in taking care of Dad, offering him all the extra hours of companionship I couldn't. Dad died last spring, which was sad, but all well and good -- he was very ready to go. Then three months later Twitch died -- to go be with him, I'm sure. (Look in Lost section, July 2007.) I felt robbed. It brought up a whole new depth of grief over Dad. And the grief for Twitch derailed me in a way Dad's death hadn't. Being so unexpected, and unfair for a healthy 5 year-old cat. I hadn't felt alone after losing Papa until I lost Twitch -- my teammate. THEN I had a new level of alone that just sunk me. Years earlier, I'd lost my mom and my brother within 4 months of each other, so it echoed that double-whammy. A long-winded way of saying I'm so sorry your baby died of a broken heart -- I have a tiny glimpse of what you're going through. Maybe Sugar or Cosmo will become more of a cuddler now that there's room on your lap. My condolences.........
-------------------- ...You precious children, of four feet, whiskers, and mischief...
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Aug 19 2008, 09:45 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 395 Joined: 23-May 08 From: St. Louis, MO Member No.: 4,757 |
As I was preparing to lose my dad last year, a tiny thing to soften it was knowing that I would be blessed with inheriting his cat, Twitchit. (Twitch and I adored each other, and since Dad and I lived across the street from each other, Twitch visited my place daily for years.) Twitch had been my buddy in taking care of Dad, offering him all the extra hours of companionship I couldn't. Dad died last spring, which was sad, but all well and good -- he was very ready to go. Then three months later Twitch died -- to go be with him, I'm sure. (Look in Lost section, July 2007.) I felt robbed. It brought up a whole new depth of grief over Dad. And the grief for Twitch derailed me in a way Dad's death hadn't. Being so unexpected, and unfair for a healthy 5 year-old cat. I hadn't felt alone after losing Papa until I lost Twitch -- my teammate. THEN I had a new level of alone that just sunk me. Years earlier, I'd lost my mom and my brother within 4 months of each other, so it echoed that double-whammy. A long-winded way of saying I'm so sorry your baby died of a broken heart -- I have a tiny glimpse of what you're going through. Maybe Sugar or Cosmo will become more of a cuddler now that there's room on your lap. My condolences......... Hello, I too feel sorry for both your losses, thanks God you have some others Furbabys around you to help you out this tough times, even though no one can replace it, you know you can count on us any time, always here for you if you need me, Jorge :wub |
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Aug 19 2008, 11:12 AM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 2,171 Joined: 2-November 07 Member No.: 3,876 |
I'm sorry to read about your losses. I am glad you have your other furbabies..2 dogs and 2 cats... to be with you.
Losing Nala so soon after losing your husband...what a devastating time you are going through. You said you expected Nala to be around many more years...when we have a sudden, unexpected loss it truly is more devastating because we are in shock...and the disbelief is magnified. And, even though we do have others around still with us....sometimes in spite of that...we can feel alone..which adds to our grief. I saw in the past you have posted some beautiful photos and if you care to post some now of Nala..please do. You can always post here which does help and we do always love pictures of these sweethearts. We can't bring these babies back but we can love them forever and never forget them and the wonderful memories they contributed to our lives. I wish you peace and healing. Again, I am so very sorry about your losses. If it helps you to post, to talk, to show us pictures that you love....we are here to listen and to help share your pain as best we can. Hugs...wish we could do that personally but the thought is there...a big hug for you and know we share your tears. Kate, Shep, Sugar, Cosmo.....they are your support also. Give them lots of hugs...they don't understand what has happened but they are very aware..that something did happen. You know these babies...the love we give them is always returned double. Hugs to them too. Judy -------------------- LITTLE GUY - May 28, 1991 - Sept 10, 2007 - Always in my Heart.
His story: Section D&D: How do I stop crying? and also... My Boy is Gone Forever. |
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Aug 19 2008, 05:59 PM
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Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 |
Hi, macgrl. Please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved furchild and your husband. Even when we have other furkids in the home who need our love and attention the house still echoes loudly with the silence from the loved one who is no longer physically present. It is almost as if the structure of the house is mourning the absence of one of its members, too. Euthanasia is comparable to having to decide to stop life support for a loved human family member or friend. It is never an easy decision to make, but it is the last gift of love we can give to our furkids - - at great sacrifice to us - - so that they can be healed as they play with angels until it is our appropriate time to resume our rightful place with them in eternal joy. But this does not stop our hearts from breaking in our grief, and I can certainly relate to your feelings of being adrift right now. Multiple losses in such a short period of time are catastrophic events, and it is good that you are here with us so that we can try to offer you some comfort and encouragement. Macgrl, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please keep letting us know how you're doing.
Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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Aug 19 2008, 09:14 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 54 Joined: 6-February 07 Member No.: 2,538 |
Thanks for the messages, I remind myself that I am not the only one to go through multiple losses and I have the good fortune of my furkids that are still with me. I slept ok last night, I know she is with Leo & Al and I tried to focus my energies today on the furkids and my granddaughter. She is in a better place and someday I will join them.. until then I have to battle the sadness of the empty spaces and try to focus on what I can do. The weather was beautiful this afternoon and I spent some time in the yard just relaxing with Kate and Shep by my side.. I dont do that as often as I should... I am always worrying about tomorrow and obsessing about the past and I need to just be and take in the moment of now.
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Sep 9 2008, 05:48 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 2,171 Joined: 2-November 07 Member No.: 3,876 |
We are always here listening.
-------------------- LITTLE GUY - May 28, 1991 - Sept 10, 2007 - Always in my Heart.
His story: Section D&D: How do I stop crying? and also... My Boy is Gone Forever. |
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